who pays?

Ok so this is a hot topic on my plate right now!! MOB...MOG...FI...and I are all up in arms over this...


Part 1- Who pays for the (OOT) Bridal Party hotel rooms?


Part 2- Am I obligated to pay for  hotel rooms for the bridal party members that are LOCAL? I am providing a DAY OF ROOM.


Part 3- I am in the process of doing a room block. My ceremony & reception are at this hotel. Even though I am spending 10k plus, if I contract to book rooms at a discounted rate for OOT, I have to book a minimum of 15 rooms. Say only 8 guest book rooms, I am on the hook for the balance of the remaining balance of  ALL the unused rooms! So the question is, are we obligated to provide a discounted rate for the guest, or should we book a block at another hotel (more than 15 minutes away).


 

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:34 am
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3) I'd say no. I'm not even blocking rooms since we have no idea who's coming in and we'd like to avoid the situation you're discussing.


2) obligated, probably not. but you don't want to be there overnight with some BMs, and then the rest are at home. Sorta... like they're being left out, kwim? For the guys, that's handled a little differently. I'd ask FI about it.


1) I think they pay for their own rooms. But I'm not entirely sure. Anyone else?

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:36 am
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I am not at all sure about the first 2 questions, but as for the 3rd, I know that they cannot charge you for a room if you give at least 48 hours notice that you will not be using it.  They also shouldn't really have a minimum for room block. I reserve 10 rooms every month at different hotels for work and there is never a problem with that. 


I would talk to the person at the hotel that handles room reservations and tell them this...because they can't make you book 15 rooms if that isn't the amount that you need.  They may just be trying to get some extra bucks out of you!

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:41 am
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Part 1- Who pays for the (OOT) Bridal Party hotel rooms?


They should pay for their own room.  I would never expect the bride to pay for it if I agreed to be in the wedding. 


Part 2- Am I obligated to pay for  hotel rooms for the bridal party members that are LOCAL? I am providing a DAY OF ROOM.


If they are local and choose to stay then again they are responsible.  If you are providing the room to get ready in I think that's fine.


Part 3- I am in the process of doing a room block. My ceremony & reception are at this hotel. Even though I am spending 10k plus, if I contract to book rooms at a discounted rate for OOT, I have to book a minimum of 15 rooms. Say only 8 guest book rooms, I am on the hook for the balance of the remaining balance of  ALL the unused rooms! So the question is, are we obligated to provide a discounted rate for the guest, o r should we book a block at another hotel (more than 15 minutes away).


I've heard that hotels do this because they are holding them for you and in turn can't really rent them to any other guests.  I would maybe call other hotels and see if they can do better and also see which guests will need rooms and get a better estimate that way. Sorry I can't really help with this.

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:41 am
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1) As far as I know, they pay for their own.  The only instances that I've ever heard of them not paying for their own is for destination weddings and usually only extremely wealthy familes do that.


2) Obligated, no?  I have one in-town bridesmaid and she is going to stay at home.  The rest of my maids are oot guests and will be staying in the hotel...on their own dime.  I would have liked to reserve a room or two for them but I'm paying for half of their dresses and their makeup so I can't afford it.  Plus, most of them are coming with their husbands and other family anyway.


3) I reserved a block of rooms as a courtesy to my guests.  I am expecting a large number of oot guests and I didn't want people all over the city.  Houston is huge!

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:42 am
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1) *If* you can afford it...it would be a nice gesture if you were to pay for OOT bridal party rooms. HOWEVER, I don't think anyone shouldfeel obligated...and it it perfectly reasonable to ask them to be responsible for their accommodations.


2) Same answer as #1


3) If the hotel is making you be responsible for 15 rooms no matter what and you think there could be a possibility that not all 15 rooms will get booked then I personally would forgo blocking rooms all together. Trying to block rooms was the biggest headache for me...and I don't think it was worth it AT ALL. I think that guests are more than capable of finding and booking their own rooms.

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:45 am
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Maybe you can ask if you can book a block of 15 rooms but if they are not full 4 weeks prior to the event the block is released?  That way the hotel has ample time to book and in the insert cards for the STD or reservations you can let guests know they need to book by a certain date in order to get the "reduced rate" and be guaranteed to be in the block.


 


 

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:45 am
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thanks ladies, this helps...this is just a headache!! I'm going to put my MOB in a room 5 cities away from me, if she keeps bothering me!!

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:46 am
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Our hotel had a 10 room block minimim-- BUT-- we negotiated down to 5. Talk to them- and they weill work something with you!


 


Also- no you are not obligated to get rooms for local BP.

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 8:50 am
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YEAH...this hotel is not NEGOTIATING!! They don't know what that word means!!

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 9:01 am
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Part 1- Who pays for the (OOT) Bridal Party hotel rooms? That is really your choice, but you are not obligated.


Part 2- Am I obligated to pay for  hotel rooms for the bridal party members that are LOCAL? I am providing a DAY OF ROOM. If you pay for the OOT ones I would say then you would need to pay the local ones too - so thats why you shouldnt do it at all!


Part 3- I am in the process of doing a room block. My ceremony & reception are at this hotel. Even though I am spending 10k plus, if I contract to book rooms at a discounted rate for OOT, I have to book a minimum of 15 rooms. Say only 8 guest book rooms, I am on the hook for the balance of the remaining balance of  ALL the unused rooms! So the question is, are we obligated to provide a discounted rate for the guest, o r should we book a block at another hotel (more than 15 minutes away).  I say find another hotel because all of the ones I called, you do not have to pay for anything beforehand or unused. The guests just get a discounted rate for having the block....

Posted on October 20, 2010 at 9:11 am
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I would talk to them too. YOu don't have to get rooms. I hope things workout :o)


Posted on October 20, 2010 at 9:24 am

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