Who's supposed to plan the b-party?

Hey Ladies,


I love my MOH, really I do. But she's been a little lax with planning the B-party. We picked a date over a month ago and she sent out a save the date with the details TBD. I told her what I would be into and what I would hate (strippers) and offered to help if needed. She was like, nope just give me the guest list and we will take care of it. Well, the B-party is scheduled for next weekend. We still have nothing planned. She asked me to look for hotels and to book it. I know I offered to help, but I wasn't expecting to do the work, and I only say that, because now I am stressed about finding the right hotel, price, who's going, etc (on top of all the other wedding stress I am dealing with right now). So before I get a little peeved, am I right in thinking that the girls are supposed to plan this thing?

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 7:35 am
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jharks
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Yep, you are right. You just need to tell her that you are super busy and stressed out, and that you would really appreciate it if she could just handle this. Did you plan hers maybe? That could be a point.


Also, you can suggest that she contact some of the other BM and ask them to help if she needs help.

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 7:37 am
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ditto jhark!


 

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 7:40 am
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The idea is the bride is the guest of honor.  Your bridal party are typically the ones to plan the b-party.  If your MOH isn't getting it together, what about enlisting the help of the BM's?

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 7:42 am
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Yah- were not supposed to 'do' it all- it should be a team effort- everyone playing a part!


You think they are surprising you with something maybe? since everythings so quite?


How many BM's do you have- I would get them involved...


- HMM :)

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 7:43 am
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No I think she dropped the ball and it waiting till the last minute. I only have 2 MOH. The one planning the party lives here, the other is in NYC and I don't think she's offered to help at all. I know that my girlfriends here offered to help, but not sure if they have or if she's taken them up on the offer. So I feel badly because she may be doing it all herself, but still, she kind of waited until the last minute. It's next weekend and people still don't know what is going on. I am afraid if I don't step in, we won't have a party.

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 7:55 am
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It's a team effort on your bridal party side. But the MOH normally takes the lead. I ran into a similiar problem a couple of months ago when my MOH wasn't really communicating to my bridal party about the details to the local shower. She felt as tho she didn't need to communicate to them since they knew these activities were going to happen. She thought they should initiate the offer. It was drama for a little bit... but everyone put thru it together and put together two nice events for me - Bach party in Vegas & Tea Party Shower locally.

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 8:06 am
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Maybe, if you know that other girlfriends have offered to help, I would suggest calling them and ask them if they wouldn't mind calling the MOH directly and offering their help with last minute planning.  Explain what's going on.... they'd probably be willing to pick up the ball.  You shouldn't have to stress over this....

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 8:07 am
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No, I completely agree and it is getting last minute...


I would straight out ask her whats going on then- you can blame it on your friends- That they were asking and/or offering to help out since a lots on her, etc.  Your other MOH can still help even though shes not here too- like finding a hotel, making invites, etc...


- HMM :)

Posted on August 8, 2008 at 8:08 am

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