Why didn't anybody warn me?!?!
A friend is having a baby this September and I was trying to think of all the important stuff to warn her about. There were so many things that I was unprepared for, if it hadn't been for PB I would have freaked out about it! I don't know why these things are told to expecting moms more often. I thought you guys could help compile this list for all future mommies. I'll start
You will be bleeding for much longer than you think. I had no idea that post pardum bleeding could go on for 6-8 weeks! Thank goodness you girls here let me know that was normal
About 3-4 months PP your hair will start falling out and who knows when it will stop
this is for c-sections: your bowels will be wrecked for a while. There's a reason they don't let you eat any solid foods until you have farted. Your digestive organs get seriously screwed up in the c-section process. It took months for me to get back to somewhat normal. I had no idea this came with the territory
You will be more hormonal than you realize those first months. I still apologize to my husband all the time for the way I treated him the first couple months. I knew I was hormonal but I totally underestimated the severity. Looking back at my reactions I can't believe I thought I was acting sane! Let him know he will have his wife back in a few months and try to keep this in mind for yourself that maybe you'll feel differently about things when your hormones settle a bit
Along those same lines, your marriage is going to take a big hit like a bomb went off. I was totally unprepared for this one. Yes, there will be plenty of ooey gooey moments where you will be arm in arm, gazing lovingly at this miracle you created together. You will feel special camaraderie when you both get excited over the contents of a diaper. But there will also be plenty (if not more) moments where you will ask yourself why you never noticed how stupid/lazy/selfish your partner can be. You will both be more frustrated, exhausted, and stressed than ever in your lives and since you can't take it out on the innocent baby, you end up turning on each other. You will find new ways to work together and relate as a couple, getting there is a rough road though. In the end, your relationship will be stronger for it all so don't panic when you can't understand how you can get so angry with the father of your baby at when all you want is to be celebrating. It's normal, you'll get through it.
sleep deprivation HURTS more than you could have imagined.There is no way to prepare for it. But you will survive
Everyone please add your "I wish they would have warned me.."