Why is it that new moms think everything is about them??

I am so annoyed right now.


We went to dinner last night at FMIL/FFIL's house - it was just supposed to be the 4 of us. Of course, FSIL has to call and come right over bringing her new 2 month old - who is very cute, but I digress. She waltzes in, plops him on me, passes him around...then proceeds to change his dirty diaper on the kitchen counter where we are preparing dinner (WTF??), then, well, of COURSE we have to halt everything to give him a bath - in the kitchen sink. "ooh...I brought my camera so we can take pics of gramma giving baby a bath" ->which obviously delays dinner. You couldn't have done that before you came? Or did it the next morning? You HAD to do it right then and there??!! And of course 90% of what comes out of FSIL's mouth has to with the baby - which is fine, but really, we're not at the stage where we care (at all) about babies - and we were there to watch the grey cup and visit with FI's parents - not you and the baby, kwim?


The icing on the cake was when she told me she was bringing the baby to my shower next weekend. She goes, "I didn't want to take away anything from you but I was requested to bring him to show him off". Really? I don't care at all that you are bringing the baby but I do mind that your sole intent is just to "show him off". She JUST had a "Meet the Baby" party 2 weeks ago with her entire family....not to mention the fact that she is supposed to be helping to host the shower. So, my sisters are going to be stuck doing all the work b/c you had to bring the baby??


yuck...feels good to get that off my chest!!!

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 12:50 am
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LauraSweet
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Poopy diaper on the kitchen counter and bath in the kitchen sink while you're fixing dinner???  Yuck!!!


I can't say much about the self-involvement of new moms because I was probably the same way and may be again someday, but I do think that's way over the top!  And I'm super baby crazy!

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 1:08 am
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My advice; Remember how you feel right now when you finally do become baby crazy and have one of your own, lol.


 


I always took mine to another room to change him...that's just gross.

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 1:32 am
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Emily.....I think you know where I stand on this.  You know my situation.  I 100% understand and agree with your frustrations!!!!

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 1:39 am
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so gross.  what is she thinking?  that is not OK!


yeah Brianne... i have to remember how i feel about kids attending weddings, showers, etc ... when i have my own, lol.

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 1:41 am
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don't get me wrong - I obviously have no problem with her being excited, I am excited for her - but there is a time and a place. And e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. doesn't have to be about you and the baby all the time.


I know I sound like a total brat but why would you use my shower as an excuse to show him off to everyone??? Your ENTIRE family has JUST met him...I mean, c'mon.

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 1:51 am
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Changing a baby anywhere in the kitchen is just gross .... and the child should have been bathed at home ...just my opinion ....I understand your frustration and I am a mom ..... just remember  ...at the shower it will be the baby getting attention ... not her :)

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 3:25 am
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Personally, I would ask her to leave the baby at home for the shower after a performance like that.  Tell her you're worried about sanitation even.  There's no excuse for that level of self-involvement.

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 3:46 am
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*ugh* Em. I can totally relate. And let me add - it doesn't change. Both of my nieces (who I love to bits and pieces) are almost TWO years old and it doesn't change. Seriously. My upcoming wedding and everything NON-BABY related gets the shaft and ALL that is ever talked about at dinners and get togethers is how so and so is talking. Or what so and so did to some other snot faced kid. Or how so and so pooped a big turd.


Seriously..it never changes.


SORRY!


 


I hope that if and when FI and I have kids we don't act/behave that way. There is life outside of children.


End Vent.

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 3:58 am
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Emily you are hilarious I could not possibly agree more with what you said! (like 150%!) And I am the one who talks non-stop about wanting a baby, and I am the first one to ooh and aw and cuddle the new baby, but this is over the top.


I am feeling a spin off thread coming on involving my cousins... but I will leave it be.

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 1:18 pm
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I can totally relate! I'm not going to go into much detail cause it stresses me out too much...lol...but I'm right there with you!

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 2:04 pm
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That sucks!  I would be bummed about a newborn baby coming to my shower.  They cry all the time!  :)


I'm really glad my friend who had a baby right after my wedding is nothing like your FSIL!  I guess it's just a reminder that not all moms lose their identity when they have their first baby!

Posted on November 30, 2009 at 2:38 pm
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This thread is sooooo funny to me .... As a mom I have never brought my babies to showers etc .... A few times I was TOLD to bring them and that is different .... but I treasured the "me" time so I would always get a sitter .....I will agree there are some moms that aren't just really proud moms .... they are really proud of THEMSELVES and want all the attention BECAUSE of the baby .... and that is different and certainly sounds like what we are dealing with in the OP .... 


However ...it cracks me up how everyone is saying "I hope Im not that kind of mom" .... LMAO !!  ..... when you are a mom ,  at certain times you definitely will be!! .... there is nothing that makes you feel more love than a child!  .... And you will think your baby is the most wonderful thing EVER ... and will expect everyone else to notice this .... LOL  ..... most of us know when it is appropriate to gush over our babies though ...and someone else's shower or wedding isn't usually the place

Posted on December 1, 2009 at 2:16 am
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ugg...I would be so po'd.  She didn't even ask YOU if you minded the baby coming to the shower.  Your Bridal Shower is a once in a lifetime thing and the attention should be mainly on you and bonding with YOUR family and friends.  I;m so upset for yoU!

Posted on December 1, 2009 at 2:36 am
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Wow.  I must agree with you.  Luckily I have never had this happen to me.  I love babies to death, like can't get enough of 'em.  But if it's someone that isn't in the family, I'll have a coniption.  FSIL is pregnant so I understand if that's all she talks about for a while.  All I talk about is school and FI, so I totally understand.  But god lord, have some decency to change your baby elsewhere or atleast make an attempt to lead a normal life while pregnant and after having the baby.  Yikes.


Edit: Niecy, that was so well said.  I must agree with you a ton on that one.

Posted on December 1, 2009 at 8:25 am

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