Work & Maternity Leave

I'm having so many issues/problems/sleepless nights in regards to my maternity leave.


Before I go into a detailed (& long) story, I wanted to find out how the other mama's are planning for their maternity leave.


I'd also like to hear stories from moms who have already been through their leave and how things went.


 

Posted on March 1, 2013 at 10:21 am
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I'm a stay at home mom now but I stopped working at 37 1/2 weeks with my daughter. I gave birth the day after my due date and then told them I would come back at the beginning of the next semester (I was a teacher) which was something like 15 weeks off - but I resigned during my leave some could stay home. My boss knew I would do this but if I had done it before I would not have gotten any benefits during my leave. I think my work gave us all of your sick time at full pay then 8 weeks of half pay maternity leave and then you get 12 weeks of fmla leave where it's unpaid but you continue to get health benefits. I know it depends on where you work though and in what state. They tried to change it like two weeks before I went out on leave so that it was all at the same time (fmla was counted from the first day you left and not when your sick leave and disability ran out) but I put up a bit of a stink and they kept it the previous way for me!
Posted on March 2, 2013 at 10:02 am
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with alexis i got 12 weeks FMLA, I only got paid with what leave I had saved up and then I went into leave with out pay. I stayed off a total of 7 weeks and then went back to work. I worked up until I had Alexis.

This go around I have to share my 12 weeks of FMLA with my husband since he works at the same place. He plans to take 2 weeks off and I plan to take whatever is left off. I plan to work up until Hunter gets here this time too.
Posted on March 2, 2013 at 10:46 am
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Posted on March 2, 2013 at 11:06 am
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My company is super small 15 full-time employees) so we don't qualify for FMLA

I planned on 3 full months off,I had about 3 weeks of that paid the rest was unpaid. Since my son was 2 weeks early I actually had closer to 4 months off. I worked until I had him.

I did however start working from home after 4 weeks since we were so short staffed. I think it helped with the transition going back to work and it kept my benefits paid.
Posted on March 2, 2013 at 11:07 am
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I was able to afford so long unpaid since I had AFLAC
Posted on March 2, 2013 at 11:11 am
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I work at a major investment bank so we get great benefits.  We have the option to take two weeks off prior to maternity leave if approved by manager and doctor.  Then we get 16 weeks of fully paid maternity leave.  We do NOT lose our vacation time, which is 4 weeks and can be tacked on at the end of the maternity leave if approved by manager. 


But it's a bit of a weird situation with me.  My manager had been so supportive during my IVF treatment last year that I was able to take some days off or half days off without it counting against my vacation time.  So as a courtesy to my manager and coworkers.  I'm just going to continue to work until I go into labor, but I'll be working from home.  And, given my responsibilities, I will not be surprised or annoyed if work has to call me during my maternity leave.  Although it's rare, it has been done in the past to other working mothers in my company. 


@ Milkgal, I hope things work out for you.  Working mothers shouldn't have to stress out about work or maternity leave just because we have kids. 

Posted on March 3, 2013 at 3:32 am
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I work for a pretty small company too (under 15 employees) so I'm not sure how it's gonna be for me. All I know is that besides disability paying for up to 4 weeks before the due date and up to 6 weeks after the baby is born, I'm just gonna have to work out a special deal with my boss and see what we can do beyond that. It's such a complicated issue!

Posted on March 3, 2013 at 11:42 am
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Murph- I know it's crap, we totally got screwed getting married. We weren't married yet when we had Alexis so we each got 12 weeks, we were also allowed to work at the same time up until we got married and now we can't work together unless it benefits the agency.

And correct me if I'm wrong but they could give us each 12 weeks if they wanted too but they don't have too.
Posted on March 3, 2013 at 12:06 pm
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I work for a bank and we get pretty good benefits for our area.  I'll work up until I go into labor and then I get 6 weeks for natural birth or 8 weeks for c-section off.  For the first 5 days I'm off, I have to use my own vacation/sick time and then after that my insurance kicks in.  I've been with the company long enough that the following 5/7 weeks (depending on my delivery) will be completely paid for.  I, of course, could use FMLA and stay home the 12 weeks but we couldn't afford me to not be paid for a month. 

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 12:50 am
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i'm in the same boat as tate - 6-8 weeks covered at 75% based on tenure and any extra is unpaid FMLA.  i'm pushing it to 8 weeks with my vacation leave even if it's natural, 6 weeks is just too early for me.  we put the majority of our tax return aside for the time i'm off to help cover.

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 4:24 am
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I dreaded dealing with this as well..my employer does not offer paid maternity leave, only short-term disability, which is 6 weeks...but in CA I also get state disability...so with all of that and unpaid FMLA, I don't have to go back until June 10...she was born Feb 5th.

BUT...I'm going to be a SAHM...my work just doesn't know yet :)
Posted on March 4, 2013 at 4:30 am
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Like Jackie - I live in CA with an employer who doesnt offer paid maternity leave. But I get short term disability, state disability, plus I'll utilize FMLA unpaid.


Also, like Jackie - Ill be a SAHM, but wont inform work until after all maternity leave/disability/FMLA is exhausted. Ill go back for a hot second to give my notice, since they will be paying my benefits during my leave, but I will have to pay them back if I do not return (even for one day). 

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 5:56 am
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Can I just say how jealous I am of Jackie and Mar........I'd love to tell my employer where to put it after I have the baby haha.

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 8:06 am
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Awww wish I could be a SAHM!


But here in QC, we're having amazing conditions. Actually there's the long maternity leave (50 weeks - 25 weeks covered at 70% ans 25 weeks covered at 50%) or the short one (40 weeks covered at 75%). And we're having a choice to make cause I can take it all, DH can take it all or we can split!

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 9:55 am
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So jealous of you Pavez19.... I cannot believe how horrible maternity pay (or lack thereof) is here...

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 11:05 am
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Posted on March 4, 2013 at 11:25 am
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I'm a bit surprised that the US didn't offer paid maternity leave and that it's up to the company to be paid or not. Did not know this. Here in Germany we also have amazing conditions like Pascale have in QC, for luck.


From week 34 you are in the fully paid maternity leave (in certain occupations may also be worked until birth) until at least 8 weeks after birth (increasing with multiple pregnancies and premature birth to 12 weeks) .
Then begins the parental leave. This is for 12 months covered with 65% -68% (average of the last 12 months salary). In addition, the husband can also stay another 2 months at home, then the period is extended to 14 months. Parental leave may be divided between the spouses. But you will get at least € 300.00 per month, even if you have not worked before (if you were a SAHM before or unemployed)
If you would like you can be a SAHM for full three years but you have no right to your old job, but to an equivalent in the same company. (Hope my translation is right...)


We decided that I will be a SAHM for the first full year and then go back to work for two days a week once we get our BFP and finally our first sweet little baby :)

Posted on March 5, 2013 at 1:48 am
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Hi Mommas,


I'm a mommy from the Spring 2012 board and saw this post an thought I'd pop in and share my maternity leave experience.  


I was fortunate enough to work right up until the Friday before I gave birth to Harper (she was born on Tuesday 41w 5 d).  My employer (a national company with thousands of employees) does not offer paid maternity leave so after I exhausted my PTO I collected Short Term Disability.  The year leading up to Harper's birth I saved roughly $9,000 to cover expenses while I was out on reduced pay.  


I ended up taking the full 12 weeks of FMLA before returning to work.  My 12 weeks off was a blessing at the time. For working mom's that will be returning to work, a word of caution about tapping out your full 12 weeks of FMLA...  While I was SO SO SO happy to have a full three months with my little peanut it also put me in a pinch when she was hospitalized for a week last month with RSV.  You are only eligible for one 12 week claim per year (the "year" starts the first day of your last claim). Luckily I had some PTO saved up since being back to work (but not much).  It all worked out in the end (thanks to a very supoprtive boss) but It's something that I will definitely keep in mind for the next one :)


Thanks for letting me pop in, hope that helps :)

Posted on March 5, 2013 at 3:38 am
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thanks for the info rdamon!


I had the same plan in mind. I will not tap out my PTO just in case I need to stay home with LO for whatever reason.


M questions for all of you is can you combine short term disability with state disability? Are they the same things?  Lastly, are you qualified for state disability in the state your work for or the state you live in?


Im so confused.


TIA!

Posted on March 5, 2013 at 6:45 am
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