What do you do when your FI's "very good friend"/GM gives a really @$$y reason for not attending the wedding? Esp a month before... In this case its "I've decided to go on holiday in X location during your wedding so I'm not going to make it now." Even though we asked him to save the date six months ago and this is not an instance of travel costs being a problem. He could just be there for dinner and then go home. He's just being a little brat. I know it really hurt FI. I'm tempted to write this "friend" an email and tell him off although I know it would only make things worse. What would you tell your FI to console them, if anything can be said at all?