Your FI/DH & Your hair

Does s/he have "say" in how you wear your hair?


Mine thinks he should. I mean he doesn't tell me how to wear it, but he's hate weaves so I don't wear them. He also doesn't like me to bun my hair because he'd perfer me to wear it out, but I bun 90% of the time to protect my ends. For whatever reason he always wants me to get microbraids and is always offering to pay for it.


Is anybody else FI/DH like this?


 

Posted on June 20, 2010 at 11:54 pm
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DaintyDime6
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LOl. Not exactly but mines did say he wanted me to have a natural look on the day. Which is translation he does not want me have to long weaves, just a simple bun or something that he likes.


Im cool with it.

Posted on June 21, 2010 at 4:36 am
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This is so funny to me because we were just having a conversation about my hair last night:


I decided that I wanted to transition to natural hair. My hair was thinning so badly from relaxing and I just needed a fresh start. So I'd been telling FI about my transition and he was fine with it until I told him that I was going to chop my hair off. He was dumbfounded and didn't really understand. So I wore my braid and took care of my hair while it was braided. When it came time for me to take them down I decided that it was now or never so I just started cutting them out... needless to say I was left with maybe 2 or 3 inches of hair. I knew that FI would flip so I immediately had a sew in put in so hide my hair for a couple of weeks. Then right after than I purchased a half wig to keep hiding it from him because I knew that he would flip out.


I would take my hair down and flat iron it but was a little skeptical sooo I would only wear it out if I knew that he wasn't going to be around LOL ... I know but I know my FI and his take on short hair.


All was fine because he just thought I had a sew in but now we're planning a trip to Lake Travis this weekend and I can't be running around with a half wig playing in the water so I took the half wig off and did my normal wash but this time I flat ironned and to my amazement my hair was much long and stronger and FI couldn't stop playing with it. I confessed that I had chopped my hair off but he wasn't mad because it was at a length that he was happy it with.


So all of that to say that YES my FI plays a huge roll in how I wear my hair!

Posted on June 21, 2010 at 4:51 am
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I'm newly natural and my husband has just started liking my natural hair. I transitioned for about 8 months and big chopped on December 20th 2009 a few weeks after our wedding. He was very uncomfortable around my hair at first because he wasn't use to me not being relaxed or wearing weaves. He has just this past month excepted what he likes to call my "Naturalness". He says he likes it and that he just wasn't a fan of it being very short and afro like. Which I can understand because every person has their preference. I'm like that with his hair I prefer a bald fade over a table fade but I love regardless of what his hair is looking like. So I think he is at that point where he feels like "I am not my hair".


This was my big chop and it was about 2 1/2 inches. Even I wasn't use to it but its what grew out of my scalp and I was going to embrace it as much as I could. He didn't feel this at all.


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My hair today 6 months and 1 day in. He loves it! I'm very excited about this journey.


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Posted on June 21, 2010 at 11:00 am
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I love it mica!!!!!

Posted on June 21, 2010 at 12:53 pm
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Thanks! I'm just starting to figure my hair out.
Posted on June 21, 2010 at 4:16 pm
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Mica its beautiful!! I was thinking about going natural. I'm soooo scared! =(


my FI really doesnt care how my hair is worn. I can have it out and all over my head and he still tells me I'm beautiful. lol. He did suggest I wear it up, because he says he wants to be able to see my face, but he really doesnt care either way.

Posted on June 22, 2010 at 2:47 am
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I am thinking about going natural too, I think I amgoing ot do it I need a break from all the chemicals.

Posted on June 22, 2010 at 9:32 pm
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Being natural is so freeing! I feel like I've accomplished so much and my hair is now nearly shoulder length after my length check the other day. I feel so empowered like I've truly embraced who I am the way God made me... it's powerful stuff!


Edited to add: When I say the way God made me I mean that it's the way that my hair grows out of my head... no chemicals or anything... I want to embrace that but that doesn't mean that I won't flat iron or rollerset my hair because I love big, shiny, bouncy curls!

Posted on June 23, 2010 at 2:49 am
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Ditto thenewmrs.el that's how I feel about my hair. I love my curls but I will flat iron it one day. I love the option of wearing it curly or straight.

Posted on June 23, 2010 at 5:02 am
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My FI isn't a fan of weave but doesn't mind when I wear it occasionally. He really can care less how I wear my hair. My sister went natural for a couple of years.

Posted on June 24, 2010 at 5:01 am
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I love it! I would love to do that but im scared too (Pinksanity)!

Posted on July 14, 2010 at 1:30 am
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My husband loves that I'm constantly changing my hair. He does not mind weaves at all. He says that every six weeks he gets to be with a new woman because i change it so often :P


Posted on July 14, 2010 at 3:57 am
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FI is obsessed with my hair!  I mean seriously, it's a bit disturbing ;).  I've been wearing my hair naturally for years now and I absolutely love it, but I'm ready for a change.  Fi hates is straight or any way that's not curly.  When i get it flat ironed, it takes him a while to say anything about it.  Then when i ask him he's just like "yea, its nice."  The second i go back to curly he's ALL OVER it and can't keep his hands out!  Drives me crazy.  He's even stated that he wants me to wear it curly (how i wear it EVERYDAY FOR YEARS NOW) for the wedding...that's not happening!


For everyone who is thinking about rockin the natural...DO IT!!!  It's so freeing and  you will ALWAYS have sexy, bed hair!  LOL

Posted on July 14, 2010 at 11:36 am
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Yes - He likes it better natural and thats what I have been wearing.


 


I love it to admittedly, you know how great it feels to wet it every time you want in the summer.


 


He absolutely hates weaves/braids on me ut will "tolerate" it.

Posted on August 10, 2010 at 10:32 am
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mica! -- love ur natural hair, imma natural girl too (=


and no, the FI doesnt have a say

Posted on August 10, 2010 at 6:26 pm
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I have my hair natural...FI prefers it that way so it's all good!!

Posted on August 10, 2010 at 6:57 pm

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