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This is a spin off of Deb's birth post after a few mommas showed interested in some of the TMI info...


Ask away ladies and hopefully lots of mommas will give their experieses! :)

Posted on July 22, 2013 at 8:56 am
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This is great!!!


Alright, here's my TMI comment/question: I'm really not terrified at the thought of the physical part of giving birth (yet!), but if I had to choose what aspect does freak me out, it would be tearing. Total TMI, but I just feel like I'm extra "small" down there and sometimes can't imagine how I will be able to push a baby out. How many of you ladies actually did tear during delivery? Did you feel it? How was the recovery process? Be honest! ;)


Great post!

Posted on July 22, 2013 at 9:15 am
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- Mucus Plug - When does it typically "appear"? I am currently on the look out, but feel like it is waayyy too soon at 32wks.


- Bloody Show - is it the same thing or does it occur at the same time as when your mucus plug "appears"? Is it really a 'bloody show' or is it more of a little pink on the paper?


- Breast leaking before baby is born - I have ready on a few forums that women start leaking during the 2nd/3rd trimesters. Did this happen to you? It has not happened at all to me & I just want to make sure that it isnt SUPPOSE to happen.


 

Posted on July 22, 2013 at 10:34 am
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@Jenny: I felt the exact same way before I went into labor. I am only 5'1" and very small-framed. I could not imagine having a big baby AT ALL. Unfortunately, I did tear during labor - it was a second degree tear and I needed 10 stitches. I was shocked when they told me. The good part is that I didn't feel it one bit, I'm sure because of the epidural. But to be honest, that has been the most difficult part of my recovery. Recovery in general is not easy :-( If I had one overall comment from my first week of mommyhood, it is that the toughest part is the labor recovery. I think everyone focuses on how hard it is to have a newborn baby (sleeping, eating, etc.), but for me, the hard part is trying to recover physically...while having a newborn! You want to be 100% about your baby, but you spend a ton of time tending to your body. And it's a mess! (At least mine is!) I have never felt so strong and at the same time, so weak...


@Mar:


Mucus plug - Everything I read was all over the map, so I finally came to the conclusion that it is different for everyone. I know some people lose it all at one time and others lose it gradually. For some it is weeks before labor, for others it is right before you go into labor. It is so not helpful when you are looking for labor signs! I think mine was gradual over the last week. It was a brownish discharge. Definitely noticeable, but nothing where I could ever say, "That was it!" for sure. 


Bloody show - Mine was very bloody (yikes). Much more so than I expected. It happened mid-labor after I arrived at the hospital, when I went to the bathroom. I don't think there would have been any mistaking it. 


Breast leaking - I never really leaked, but I would get tiny droplets sometimes, especially after I got out of the shower. It really only happened the last month or so. I have read that it doesn't happen to everyone and it doesn't mean anything for your future milk supply. 


HTH!  

Posted on July 22, 2013 at 12:39 pm
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@Jenny: I tore (2nd degree) -I didn't feel it until after they stitched me up (maybe due to the excitement and adreneline!) Honestly, it took about 7 weeks until I felt like myself again. My recovery process was way worse than the birth itself -I'd sit on frozen veggies, ice packs on my breasfeeding pillow since I switched to formula when Megan was 3 days old. I don't know if the location of my tear was why it hurt so much and took so long to recover. I'm sure not all women tear, I'm just one of the unlucky ones.


@Cheeky: Both happened to me a couple of days before I went into labour. The bloody show was a pink tinge on the toilet paper and the mucus plug (TMI) came out in small pieces over a day or two. I didn't leak at all during my pregnancy.

Posted on July 22, 2013 at 12:41 pm
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@Jenny - I had a 3rd degree tear (yup all the way down!) and it was very painful recovery but it only last about a week. Sitting is THE worst! I actually still have some issues 18 months PP its just sensitive down there. I have always felt I was extra small down there as well (I get sore after dtd!). Witch hazel pads and the squirt bottle will be your BFF! And it's a HOT mess down there!

@Cheeky - I don't think I had either. I did have a LOT of discharge the last week or so and it was so gross! I wore a liner!

I never leaked before
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Posted on July 22, 2013 at 3:32 pm
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@Jenny.......I am a lucky girl and didn't tear at all.  The midwife I had uses this oil during delivery and massages you while you're pushing to try and help prevent you from tearing.  When I was delivering she asked me that if she thought I was about to tear if I'd rather she let me tear or have her cut me instead and I told her to cut and she goes "do you want to know when I'm going to do it?" haha I laughed and was like, no please dont share that haha.  But in the end I didnt need to be cut.  I did have what she called "road rash" which was some internal "tearing" that she had to stitch up.  Those stitches were super uncomfortable for the 3-5 days they were present.


@Mar......I wish I could help with your questions but I didnt deal with any of that.  With them inducing me 2 weeks early I didnt have those natural "events" happen to me.  Which now that I think about it after they broke my water, when I used the restroom there was some mucus type stuff present so I'm guessing that is what that was but I'm not 100% sure.  As far as breast leaking, I never did before DS was born.  I did after obviously but never dealt with it prior to delivery which was nice because it's a pain after!

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 1:51 am
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@Debbie -I was in the EXACT same boat as you :( the pain from recovery "down there" was 1000% worse than delivery -I had an epidural as well. It felt like I took forever to heal, but then one day out of the blue I was better. I definitely wasn't expecting that much pain, though that was probably for the best -I may not have gotten pregnant lol. Megan just turned 1 and I'm still "aware" of the area when DH & I dtd...


@Tate -oh, wow I've never heard of that -that should be made mandatory! 

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 2:27 am
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@ Jenny- I couldn't agree more with Deb. The recovery was way worse then the delivery (I also had a epi). Any movement at all hurt so bad and I was unable to sit on anything hard for a few days. I has a 2nd degree tear but I'm not sure how many stitches I received. I healed pretty good however some things didn't line up exactly and I needed to have some extra skin burned off - NO fun!


@ Cheeky- I started losing my plug the Saturday before LO was born (born on a Monday). I didn't notice it until we were at the hospital because I thought I was in labor but every time I went to the bathroom there was brownish discharge. I don't think I realized at the time what it was, but now I'm pretty sure it was the mucus plug.


I never saw/felt my bloody show. I remember after I had my epidural my midwife said something like "Oh, there's the bloody show!" I did however get to see all the blood on my gown when I finally got out of bed -ick!


I never experienced any leaking prior to giving birth and have a really great (maybe slightly oversupply) supply of milk.

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 6:00 am
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Tearing- 


My boy was 8 lbs 8 oz when he was born and I ended up getting a 2nd degree tear and had to get stitches. I had an epidural so the pushing, delivery and tearing didn't hurt at all and I didn't even feel them stitching me up. BUT, the recovery has been so crappy! First few days it hurt to sit, mostly in my butt which I wasn't expecting. And you basically get a super period after you deliver. The thing that's hard about recovery is you wanna be totally physically able to care for your new baby but you're so limited the first few days. For me, I was more mobile in less than a week. I'm still healing of course but I'm not like how I was thank goodness! So I'm with the other ladies; the actual tearing and getting stitches didn't hurt at all but recovery as a whole has been the difficult part. 


Mucus plug/bloody show-


At my 40 week appointment with my midwife, I was only a centimeter dilated so she tried to strip my membranes the best she could and the next day I lost my plug. Mine was brownish, not so much red or pink. But it didn't really mean anything for me since I still went way past my due date! 


Leaking breasts-


 


My breasts didn't leak until 2 days after I delivered when my milk came in. It was so funny I was about to lay down and take a nap cause my son was sleeping and I reached over to put my phone down and felt a wet spot, so I put some nursing pads in. I woke up a couple hours later and my boob was dripping like a freaking faucet lol. And still on the nights we bathe him before bed, he only wakes up once so when I get up to pick him up my whole shirt and bra are soaked in milk. NOT fun lol, but at least my supply is great!


 

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Posted on July 23, 2013 at 9:41 am
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The thing that's hard about recovery is you wanna be totally physically able to care for your new baby but you're so limited the first few days. 


^ This exactly. 


Laurie: I "blot" with toilet paper after using the squirt bottle. The squirt bottle has been an absolute godsend...I am still using it every time I go to the bathroom. The blotting really hasn't been painful at all because I'm very gentle. TMI, but blotting also helps me to get a better idea of the condition of things down there since I refuse to look in a mirror or anything like that! :-) 

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 9:56 am
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Deb nailed it on the head - Lots of blotting! My nurses kind of showed/walked me through care down there right after delivery because they wanted me to pee on my own after getting the cath out.


I ended up using the peri bottle for a few weeks because it helped everything feel even more clean. Honestly, I hated my vag for the full 6 weeks of recovery. I couldn't imagine it would every feel "normal" again but somewhere along the road it did!

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 10:25 am
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I didn't really tear that badly - I think I only needed one stitch. I had the road rash thing as well but honestly I was maybe just sore the next day. I took it slow for three or so days but I took my two to my daughter's playgroup four days after delivery and was fine. I only used the peribottle for like 24 hours and then stopped because I didn't really need it anymore. I think I used it a handful of times after that with calendula oil just to help speed up healing. I did blot for a while just because of the stitch but after a while I checked and had dissolved so I started wiping normally.


I started losing my mucus plug like two weeks before labor and I lost tons. Apparently it regenerates so it was super gross like every single time I went pee. I didn't have bloody show at all although the night before I went into labor my mucus plug had a tiny bit of blood in it. I never lost my mucus plug with my first or had bloody show or anything.


I also didn't have super leaky breasts with either. I had it a little bit with my second but only slightly - I have/had an oversupply with too. Now I am drowning in milk. fun!

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Posted on July 23, 2013 at 2:53 pm
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Nursing pads - I go through maybe two sets (four pads total - two for each breast) per day. I haven't had super leaky breasts so far, but sometimes they do go a little crazy! It is usually just for a short period of time during the day, not all day. I mostly change the pads for comfort and hygiene. I started with a 36-count Lansinoh box and I think I have about 6-8 left, 10 days pp. 


Flanges - You might just want to try out your breast pump before the baby is born. Put it in position and see how much is covered. If your pump is a Medela, I'm pretty sure they have a chart online that shows you what a correct v. incorrect size looks like. I would guess the other brands do, as well (?) 


 

Posted on July 24, 2013 at 4:07 am
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Tearing

My son was 7lbs 5oz - I had a second degree tear and yes the recovery for the first week was tough but after that I was feeling like myself again. The nurses at my hospital gave me this baby diaper with ice in it and i had to sit on it....life saver the first days at the hospital! My delivery was rough so I was very happy that my recovery wasn't really holding me back.

Breast feeding on the other hand was extremely difficult for me. No leaking before hand though. My son had a bad latch so after four days I was sore and bleeding. Thankfully I purchased an electronic pump and was able to pump and bottle feed.
Posted on July 24, 2013 at 5:41 am
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Breast pads - I didn't use disposables until a few weeks ago. I had about 6 washable ones and changed them every day except for times when I was super leaky (which wasn't that common). I'd wash them with LOs clothes ever few days.


I did always have a washcloth next to me while BFing because I have a forceful let down and LO couldn't always keep up and would pop off. I'd use the washcloth to block the spraying and clean up all the milk on her face.


 


Flanges - I saw an LC 2 days after giving birth and she picked out flanges for me and I purchased them from the hospital. If you plan to see an LC, I'd get their input. However my nipple size and changed and I now use the smaller flange that came with my manual pump.

Posted on July 24, 2013 at 7:24 am
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OMGosh!!  Great thread!  I have soo soo many questions.  I feel so far behind and haven't read any books or anything!  We have just been taking this pregnancy day by day.  But, this week I hit the 2nd tri!!  YAYAYAY!


 


Catheter - Do you only get one if you take the epi or c-section?  Do they put it in after the epi?  Do you feel it?  I've always been petrified of those things!


PP DTD - We haven't since my BFP so it will most likely be a year for us...OMG.  Does it ever go back to what it was like?


Instinct - Did your natural instincts kick in?  I feel like I know absolutely nothing about babies.  We plan on taking classes but I know they can't show you everything.


 

Posted on July 24, 2013 at 8:34 am
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Jennifer- How exciting to be entering the 2nd trimester!!


Here is what I experienced...


Catheter - It was put in right after the epi was in full effect and taken out shortly after the epi was turned off after delivery - I did not feel anything either time. I'd imagine if you did it would only be pressure.


DTD- We waited the full 6 weeks. Between sleep deprivation and baby sleeping in our room it took a few more weeks to get back to our normal but things are good now. I was incredibly scared the first time but it wasn't that bad for us.


Instinct - There were some things I felt extremely instinctual on and others I reviewed (ex: how to care for pump milk...). I belong to another forum all about babies and they had a TON of great info to share and honestly informed me about things I would have never thought of (did you know baby can't wear sunscreen until 6mo?). I also googled stuff too (just avoid googling illnesses, you'll end up at the ped more than you need to!).

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