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This is a spin off of Deb's birth post after a few mommas showed interested in some of the TMI info...


Ask away ladies and hopefully lots of mommas will give their experieses! :)

Posted on July 22, 2013 at 8:56 am
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OMG this post is great - so many questions answered.  I'll be watching this thread!


Just 2 questions from me so far...


Did anyone use any oils/cream down there before delivery (eg. Vitamin E) to help the recovery after you've given birth?  It was mentioned it to me but I wasn't sure if actually gets done?


Did they use forceps?  If so, how did it all work?

Posted on July 24, 2013 at 9:13 am
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I didn't use any oils or creams pre-delivery; I had never heard of that before.


They were about to use forceps because I was in distress, but ended up not needing them.

Posted on July 24, 2013 at 9:48 am
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For me, I'm like a freakin faucet right now so I'm going through nursing pads like nobody's business. Honestly this is the hardest part about breastfeeding for me so far aside from the sore nipples. Waking up to my crying baby AND a soaked shirt is pretty annoying! haha


I'm only using a manual pump right now since I haven't gotten my electric one in the mail yet so I have no idea about the flange sizes. My insurance is kinda dumb and they wouldn't let me order the pump till my baby was born so I wasn't able to experiment with that stuff before he arrived. If you're able to get it before you deliver then I'd take advantage of that.


I ended up getting an epidural and you basically can't even move your legs so you need the catheter. They don't put it in till it kicks in though and you can't even feel it going in. I was super freaked out about that idea but it was no big deal at all :) I'm pretty sure that if you're delivering without the drugs then you don't need the catheter though. 


I'm only 11 days pp so it'll still be a while before we get to DTD. I know it'll be healed and back to normal in a few weeks but just the thought of it freaks me out still!


Instinct definitely kicked in for me. I surprise myself sometimes with how natural it is for me to care for my LO. There are still moments when I feel totally clueless. My "weakness" is dressing him for some reason. I'm always so nervous pulling clothes over his head! It's silly but it's something I need to practice and get used to haha. But for the most part it's come pretty natural to me. 

Posted on July 24, 2013 at 4:43 pm
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Catheter - I had one with my epi and didn't feel it.

DTD - Like Lauren, I'm not there yet and still terrified to think about it at this point!!

Instincts - Honestly, this was my number one fear before I had my baby. I had NO experience with babies and they scared me! I think because of how fragile they are. People would always tell me that my maternal instincts would kick in once he was born and I got even more nervous haha. I can't say that my "maternal" instincts are what get me through most days. It is more common sense and doing what I think is right or makes the most sense. The hours and hours of reading and research that I did during pregnancy definitely have helped, too. But I think you will be absolutely fine, Jen. You are smart and loving - I think that is all it takes ;-) I know people say this all the time, but I feel like if I can do this, anyone can do it!!

Oils/Creams - I didn't use any during my pregnancy. I wonder if they might have helped with the tearing...

Forceps - They didn't have to use them on me.
Posted on July 25, 2013 at 1:10 am
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Thank you ladies so much! I really think it's helpful to get the honest scoop and to know what to prepare ourselves for. I'm wondering if (like KristinKay mentioned), experimenting with some massage and oils before/during/after delivery would be helpful with the tearing. I really appreciate all of your insight, though. :) 


Love the other topics as well - keep 'em coming!!

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 1:57 am
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Catheter - I had mine after the epi, but the nurse didnt leave the cath in the whole time.  She'd just come in and cath me every hour so I could pee.  They never left it in.  I'm not sure why, but I think it had to deal with the fact that I had the probe that actually connected right to Blake instead of just the belt around my stomach.  Never felt a single one of them though.  It was weird too because after the epi I was like, I think I had to pee before they gave me that and I started to panic like, omg how can I go pee now?  I can't feel my legs! haha


PP DTD - DH and I never really quit DTD when I was pregnant.  It obviously wasn't as often as before but we still did.  But after delivery, we waited a little longer than the 6 weeks because we waited for my BC to kick in.  (No oops now! haha) Our first time back I was so freaking nervous that I dont think it helped the situation.  I was really tense and I was really uncomfortable.  We didnt even end up "finishing" because I couldn't take it any longer.  Luckily I have a wonderful husband who was perfectly fine with that and each time we would go to DTD we'd just go a little longer than the time before.  Now it's fine.  (Warning TMI!!)  I actually find that I O a lot quicker now than I did before, so DTD has actually gotten better for me.


Instinct - I started babysitting kids when I was 12 so I was like, "I've got this kid thing mastered."  Umm yeah not when it's your own haha.  You second guess everything you do, even when deep down inside your instincts are saying "yes this is right." 


Oils/Creams - In our childbirth classes they talked about massaging the perineum prior to delivery to help prep you for the stretching of childbirth.  I did like one time and then was like ah whatever.  BUT, my midwife did that while I was delivering and she's the reason that I didnt tear or need cut.  (The nurses in L&D actually call it the "crotch pot"  Horrible name but it's amazing.)  So yes I'm all for doing that!  Honestly, if you're having a midwife delivery, I'd even ask them if they do that for you when delivering.


Forceps - They weren't needed when I had Blake, I got the little man out myself, although he did get kind of "held up" around his head and it took a little more pushing to get him out.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 2:28 am
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Question: PP-Period - Have any women that use tampons noticed a difference after having their baby?  I swear (this is really TMI) that my body forces them out.  They are so uncomfortable anymore and I can barely wear them for longer than a half hour without noticing it's there.  I always wore them before and never had a problem with them.

Posted on July 25, 2013 at 4:09 am
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@Jenny - I had forceps for both of my boys. They both had slight bruising on the sides of their faces but they healed really fast. Caleb was more difficult and ended up with a cut under his ear too and now has a very faint scar.

It wasn't a great experience, but it definitely wasn't as bad as I had expected
Posted on July 25, 2013 at 4:35 am
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I used evening primrose oil from maybe 37 to 38 1/2 weeks. I stopped once I started losing my mucus plug but I do think it helped with dilation and preventing tearing. My midwives also used oil while I pushed and I think having an unmedicated birth helped as well since I could feel everything and was really able to control the strength of my pushes.

For BFing - I have probably 10 reusable breast pads and that is fine. If you are super leaky the best thing is pressure so having sleeping bras is really good.

I had a catheter with my first and got it when I got my epidural - it wasn't painful at all. And with my second I didn't get one.

I think most moms do have good instincts and now with my second I'm realizing how much more I'm just doing it my way instead of following any book or method. There are so many baby "experts" out there especially when it comes to sleep so I think you really just need to listen to yourself. Every single baby is different and you are the best parent for your child.
Posted on July 25, 2013 at 5:01 am
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