Baby Carson is here!: Labor and Delivery Story

Hey, ladies!


I was sooo bad at posting here during my 3rd trimester.  Things got crazy, and I just never kept up :(  I'm sure some of you didn't even know that I was PG ;)  And it's so exciting to see so many new mommies to be (and mommies on here!)  Yay.  Such happiness. <3


Wanted to share my little man with you all.  He finally arrived at 41 weeks.  It was a long journey, espeically with a NICU stay...but here it is for those of you that like reading birth stories.  I know I always enjoyed them.


 


Carson, 6.11.13


Born at 8:25 pm, 9 lbs. 9 oz., 21.25 inches long


 


Hey ladies I was photo 3476882-1


So here is my story...


I was very, very passionate about natural childbirth going into everything.  I read every book there was on the subject and I hired a doula.  I wanted no interventions (or at least as few as possible) and I wanted to labor at home as long as I could. 


I went for a doctor check-up on Friday, June 7th.  My doctor stripped my membranes and did not tell me.  I found out later the next day when I lost my mucus plug and had lots of bleeding.  I really think that this got things started off on the wrong foot because I ended up with prodromal labor or "false labor".  I was getting contractions for 2 days and hardly sleeping at night because of them.  They weren't real labor contractions, but they were just painful enough to keep me awake about every hour or so.  It was so taxing... Any time I lay down, my contractions would pick up as if I was going into labor.  That made things very challenging later during active labor later.

Finally, on the night of June 10th, my doula advised me to have a glass of wine, take a hot bath and go to bed early!  I followed her instructions and I went to bed around 9:30.  As usual, contractions picked up and I told DH to sleep in the guest room because I had started to moan through them and I didn't want to keep him awake for no reason.  Things started to get more intense around 11:00 and I knew these were different... I woke up DH to go for a walk and texted my doula (Brooke).  I was a bit nervous because I hadn't slept the night before and I knew I would pull an all nighter again.  Walking made them pick up to 4 minutes apart but they only lasted 45-58 seconds.  Brooke got there around 1:30am and helped me labor.  Contractions started getting pretty strong and I was on and off my birth ball, on my hands and knees, and going completely limp on DH (Charlie).  Brooke brought up finding the sweet spot for heading to the hospital.  My contractions were still short, and she thought that was weird, but they were pretty strong and I suggested we head over.  We got there around 2:30am and were admitted right away and I was already 6-7 cm! 

The nurse wasn't great and was pretty intrusive.  She broke up my contractions some, kept wanting to check me and disrupting my time in the tub.  I was deep moaning, humming tones, and I felt really confident about the progress.  I was sinking the pressure to the baby and helping move him down.  Brooke was awesome, feeding me, rubbing my back and walking with me.  I labored like that until about 7 am.

A new, amazing nurse came on shift and I loved her.  Jenna.  Super and so accommodating.  She was great.  Things started to really pick up.  Contractions were really intense and I was pretty sure that this was transition.  I labored for about 5 intense hours.  And they were INTENSE.  The only problem was that my contractions were still irregular and short.  I lost complete track of time and I was very very weak from lack of sleep.  After that timeless daze I got checked and I was sure I made progress... at least to 8 or 9.  But when they checked I was still just 7 cm.  That was an awful feeling.

By then it was was 12:00 pm and I was miserable.  I knew that I just had to keep going and get the rest of the way there.  I walked, Brooke forced me to eat, but my contractions were so irregular. Things started sliding fast.  I hadn't slept for 3 nights in a row that that was starting to take its toll.  I was getting dizzy and I could barely move.  I tried everything to rest, but my contractions were still super short and irregular for the stage of labor I was at.  My body needed rest but it needed to contract to progress.  In trucked it out for about 3 hours, hoping that my tricks (tub, speed walking, ball, etc.) would get me somewhere. 

I got checked again around 3 pm and I was still just 7 cm.  It was devastating.  I knew if I was going to push this baby out I needed to rest.  Food wasn't helping either.  I tried juice, cheese, crackers, bars, and even chicken soup.  My uterus was becoming fatigued...

I knew I needed the epidural.  Brooke encouraged me to keep going, but she was also supportive of my decision.  I wasn't at a spot to break my membranes and pitocin was not an option for me.  I made the choice and I was okay with it knowing the risks. 

It was going to be over an hour before I could get it (while they IV you, you have time to make progress).  So, during the set up for the epidural I had them check me to see if maybe I could keep going naturally.  Nada. Still 7.  I cried as they put it in, feeling like a total failure.  And then I slept for 2 hours. 

It was what my body needed... When I woke up, my contractions started to pick up and become longer and more regular. 

As I'm sure you can imagine, doc already was pushing pitocin.  But I refused.  It was me and the epidural and I wanted to see how much progress I could make without it.


*continued below*

Posted on June 23, 2013 at 5:32 am
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*continued*


With my uterus rejuvenated I told the doc we would wait to see if I continued to dialate now that my body had the energy.  Doc was skeptical but I didn't care.  I rested in positions that would help the baby move down and it worked.  After an hour of increasing and steady contractions that my body could finally produce, he moved.  To an 8 or 9.  I needed sleep!!!  They asked if I wanted them to break my waters.  I opted not to because my body was doing it.  Finally, an hour after that, I was at a 10 and the bag was right there.  I let them break the sac and about 30 min later I had the urge to push.

By now it was 6 am.  And it was a shift change.  And they told me to wait what ended up being  about 30 min to push until the doctor came.  That was enraging, but I was too tired to care.  A woman at 10 cm should not be denied that pushing.  I did push anyway, despite what they said, but they weren't maximized.

Pushing was intense.  I could feel it because the epidural was low.  But it helped to know where to push.  I pushed for 2.5 hours because he was such a big baby ( 9.9!) and turns out the way he was in the birth canal made it more challenging to get out. 

After so little sleep, even with the epidural, the room started
to spin.  I was beside myself tired and on oxygen to help me stay awake.  Between pushes, I slept and actually dreamed and would come to to push through contractions.  It was nice because I did feel them enough to let my body take charge and know when to push and the ring of fire?  Felt it too :)

When he came out and they put him on my chest, I cried and cried. They respected skin to skin and waiting to cut the chord.  No episiotomy, and just one slight tear.  The doctor was great about massaging me as I pushed.  Such a great moment.  He didn't cry at all just whimpered.  But then they were worried after a while when they went to weigh him and he had lots of fluid in his lungs... they tested his oxygen and it was low.  He had quick, labored breathing and they immediately took him to the NICU. I cried and cried...he took a big gulp of fluid on the way out.  He can out head and body in one push so there was not time to have all that squeezed out of his lungs.

He was in the NICU for 3 days.  I KNEW that breastfeeding was not an option for me but a priority, and it was very hard to not have him by my side and make breast feeding as natural as possible.  Every day for each feeding I head down to the NICU and I pump and give him the colostrum I pump and lots of skin to skin.  It's not how I wanted it, but his breathing was too labored to properly latch and feed... Every day got better.


Now we are home, safe and sound and I am 12 days PP.  I love my son so much and couldn't imagine life withou thim.

My labor wasn't what I expected, but I am proud of what in did and I don't regret a single moment. :)

Posted on June 23, 2013 at 5:32 am
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Your labor was certainly intense, but you have a beautiful baby as a result--congrats, momma!

Posted on June 23, 2013 at 9:22 am
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I knew exactly how you felt regarding breastfeeding.  My body also "failed' me at getting pregnant and later at childbirth.  So breastfeeding was a must.  It was my one chance of taking control again of my baby's well being.  Kudos to you for being proactive despite the challenges and drawbacks.


And you should never feel like a failure for making decisions that are best for you and baby.  That beautiful picture of Carson just says that mommy did an amazing job bringing him into this world.  Congrats and many blessings!

Posted on June 23, 2013 at 10:24 am
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Congrats mama! Carson is an adorable little guy! Despite such an exhausting labor and NICU stay, I'm so glad that everything turned out ok. You should definitely be proud of yourself!!

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 4:28 am
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Congratulations, Carson is adorable!!

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 5:37 am
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Congrats to you!! And ditto DMN - you did what was best for you and baby!!! What a handsome little guy, and you are a strong woman for enduring that labor!!!

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 5:48 am
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Your sweet little boy is so adorable! Congratulations Mama! You should be so proud of yourself to keeping the interventions minimal! You did what was best for you and Carson & you probably got the best birth possible given the circumstances. I know it couldnt have been easy with the preassure & pure/raw exhaustion to not take whatever you can get to speed up the process! Bravo to you for staying strong!!!! And WOW - a slight tear with a 9.9 baby is amazing!!! Also, you are already the BEST mom for pumping everyday while he was in the NICU!


Congrats once again :) Such a beautiful baby!

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 7:13 am
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Congratulations!! He is super adorable. I'm sorry you didn't get the labor you wanted but it sure was worth it in the end :). Hope everyone is happy and settled in.
Posted on June 24, 2013 at 7:27 am
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What an adorable lil boy! Congrats Mama! I'm so amazed and inspired by you standing up so strongly for what you believed in and what you wanted for you and your babe. Good for you! You are a strong woman!


 

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 12:06 pm
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Huge congratulations! He is so adorable!!!! 

Posted on June 24, 2013 at 8:03 pm
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Posted on June 25, 2013 at 11:44 am
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Happy two weeks to your little man -- he is SO adorable!! Your birth story was incredible...I am so glad that everything turned out okay in the end and that you guys are home, happy and healthy. Congrats again! So glad you came back to share! 

Posted on June 25, 2013 at 1:45 pm

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