Nanny? Daycare? Granny? SAHM?

Which is your plan of childcare once LO arrives?  I know it may seem to early to think about it but I'm trying to determine the pros and cons of each.  Would be curious to learn how others handle it.

Posted on September 16, 2012 at 3:50 am
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Where I live, it's hard to find a daycare that will take new infants, so hopefully I can find someone I know that babysits infants and then after that it will be daycare.  My dream is SAHM but unless DH has a major job change, that won't be happening. :o(

Posted on September 17, 2012 at 5:52 am
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Our LO will be going to daycare. Any idea when we should start looking for one? I'm way behind on my pregnancy books, with working 50+ with on call and taking two night classes I haven't had any energy for baby book reading...

Posted on September 17, 2012 at 7:22 am
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I took almost 4 months off from the office - what I mean by that is I worked from home after 4 weeks and that was only part-time and it was based on my schedule.  We were super short staffed and they were freaking out (they would call me daily!) so I mentioned it and they agreed. 


I did go in to the office twice a week once LO was around 2 months but he came with me :)  if you can do this I would! 


Our schedule is this:
Monday: My mom
Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday: Daycare (or school as I call it)
Friday: My MIL


If you can swing part-time daycare I would go that route - it's great because Georgie gets that interaction with other kids and he loves it!  He literally busts out with the biggest grin when we walk in which makes it so much easier.  In fact - they keep him on a better schedule then when the grandma's watch him lol and they were able to get him to nap in his crib which I was failing at :)


I thought I would want to be a SAHM but I enjoy the adult interaction, I think if I had to go back super quick (like 6 weeks) it might be another story but he was 1 week from 4 months the first time he went to school.

Posted on September 17, 2012 at 7:26 am
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I'm going to be a SAHM starting at the end of November at about 35 weeks :)


My husband and I always planned on going this route so we worked really hard on paying down debt in our first year of marriage before we even started trying.  Our second anniversary is next month and we are almost at our goal!  It's been a long process and things will be tight, but we both felt like the sacrifice will be worth it for us.


I'm a little nervous about the huge lifestyle change on my end, with missing a routine and adult interaction, so I plan on joining a moms group at my church.  My sister is also a SAHM and only lives 5 minutes from me so I think that'll help ease the transition.

Posted on September 17, 2012 at 8:43 am
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@milkgal - I would start looking around now, maybe ask some mommy friends places they recommend.  Once you find your top 3 I would tour each and then decide.  Depending on your area places could fill up fast!  Or have waiting lists etc. 


@Crystal - that is awesome!!!!  Once we have #2 I will more then likely be a SAHM (inless I get a HUGE raise at work lol) I think you have a great idea about mommy groups and hang with your sister - it is so important to get out of the house!  And you can always establish a routine with your little one.  When I was on leave we walked everyday, I loved it :)

Posted on September 17, 2012 at 9:26 am
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If you do the daycare route - make sure they are certified.  Most states will rate Daycare's on their Children sites.  I'm in FL and they break it down by counties. 


Also, I make a point to interact with the teachers - I always ask them how they are etc and chat with them.  They do take care of my son for 9 hours a day :)

Posted on September 17, 2012 at 9:30 am
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DH and I make the same so it would be difficult for us to maintain our lifestyle on half our current income.  Plus I do like my job and the adult interaction.  And i'm still unsure about some of these local mom groups, they seem so clique-y.  So working mom, I'm happy to be.


I'm torn between the first three options.


I could go with my MIL, the youngest and most able grandparent out of the four.  Problem is she only speaks Chinese and lives close to my work, not my home.  So I would have to trek everyday from work to Chinatown to home across the river.  By foot.  Seems a bit much. And the communication would be extremely difficult without DH around.  Then again, the cost would be free and she could teach LO to be bilingual. 


I would actually prefer to hire a nanny, someone who will do exactly what I tell her to do, unlike a family member, who may challenge me or disregard my instructions.  A nanny seems like less drama but finding one would be the biggest challenge.  My boss went through 12 nannies before she found one that she trusted.


Daycare would be nice too but if I can find one close by and with flexible hours. I need to start researching those.


 


 

Posted on September 19, 2012 at 1:10 pm
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Luckily I only work 3 days a week and DH works for his parents and they are pretty lenient about his scheule. He will probably just have to cut back his hours a little. If we do need someone, my grandma has an in home day care, as long as she doesn't have another baby under one she can take care of the lo

Posted on September 22, 2012 at 12:38 am
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From the beginning I wasn't 100% sold on SAHM bc it scared me o be unemployed. I n my heart I wanted to sah but logistically it freaked me out. I didn't decide until the end of my maternity leave to quit. One big reason is I couldn't find anyone that I could imagine leaving my tiny little bebe with. The idea of leaving her made me break down eac time so we agreed for me to stay home. Life hasn't been as financially "free" as before but I wouldn't change it for anything!
Posted on September 24, 2012 at 1:58 am

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