Switched my OB
Some of you may know that I was questioning my current OB's bedside manners. Based on some advice, I decided to stick with her for another appointment or two to see if my feelings changed. And no they haven't. Not only do I think she's a bit cold, her office is highly disorganized. Last week I had my glucose test. When I arrived at the office I mentioned this to the receptionist, thinking I would have to drink the juice first thing so that I can meet with the doctor while waiting for the hour to pass. Well they said I needed to meet with the doctor first to explain the test. Ok, fine. So I waited 20 mins to be called. When I finally meet with the doctor she tells me I should have drank my juice upon arrival. Ugh, I told her that I did mention this to her staff. She offered to reschedule the test and I said no, I didnt want to have to fast again if I didnt have to. So another hour wasted in her office. And her indifference to the situation annoyed me.
Perhaps I'm being rather sensitive but as I read more of Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, I realize that if a simple misunderstanding can cause me this much stress, I can only imagine the trauma I would experience at childbirth with them, when things almost never go as planned. I realize I need someone to be a bit more sensitive, organized, and supportive.
Its unfortunate that this doctor came from my highly educated SIL who herself is a well respected midwife, OB nurse and Phd from Columbia U. Then again, she never had a kid. So I went to a good friend of mine who loves her OB, a male OB at that, and when I researched the OB he had high ratings across the board with very low rates of c section. I signed up with him right away.
Just wanted to share this experience with you ladies so you too can have the courage to take charge of your childbirth experience. I know it was a tough decision for me because I figured the doctors know best and that its better if I stick with the same doctor throughout my entire pregnancy. Ina may's book made me realize that that doesnt have to be the case. I cried reading all the birth stories bc they were experiences I want to have. And it finally gave me courage to leave and find a better OB. I havent met with my new doctor yet but just this act alone left me empowered and optimistic that I'm sure all will be well.
Whether or not you like your OB, please read the Guide to Childbirth. It may sound a bit treehugging hippy-ish but the stories really are beautiful and the advice priceless.