YAY OR NAY

I've had a couple of pregnancy/baby related topics on my mind and I've been wondering what other ladies' opinions are on them. Any experience, pros or cons, or thoughts on any of the following? :)


1. Babymoons: DH and I are debating doing a babymoon in early September - not sure where we'd go yet, but hopefully somewhere warm and relaxing. :) I'd be about 26-27 weeks. What do you think of doing a babymoon? Did you and your DH do one, or do you plan to? Too risky to be far away from home? 


2. Fetal Doppler: A friend just purchased one and has been using it every day to listen to the heartbeat of her baby. I think this would be really comforting... but then I read reports about how it may be harmful to the baby. I plan on asking about the use of fetal dopplers at my upcoming doctor appt., but have any of you already checked with your doctor, or used them, or decided not to use them? 


3. Bumpers: This one isn't of immediate concern just quite yet, but wondering what you all did/plan to do about crib bumpers. My first thought is to go with a breathable bumper so there is no worry/question involved, but wondering how dangerous the regular bumpers are and what real experiences you've had. 


Thanks for your thoughts, opinions, and experiences ladies! 

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 2:06 am
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Claire27
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I'm going to jump to number 2 first. Dopplers are NOT harmful. I use one to count puppies because u/s on a dog is not reliable (their uteruses are shaped completely different than ours and you can't ask a dog to hold its bladder to the breaking point for a good pic lol). I have been using them for 3 years, first apprenticing with a friend who is a German Shepherd Dog breeder and then on 2 of my own litters.

However, I will not use one on myself. It takes time to find the baby. The baby will move around a lot and we have a lot more room in there than a dog does. I know that when I have trouble finding puppies I slightly freak wondering if the puppy is "gone". I am NOT putting myself through that with my own baby. Heart rates vary when a puppy is sleeping, is awake but quiet or awake and actively moving around. When you are not experienced it is easy to freak and think the sleeping heart rate is a fading puppy that is in distress if you first heard the heart rate at the puppy's most active. I just don't think anyone should put themselves through it.... JMPO

Also, the one I have used is veterinary grade and is very expensive. I would not use a "cheap" model because the reliability will not be the same as a medical grade Doppler and you are more apt to get a poor reading and scare yourself.....
Posted on April 29, 2013 at 2:40 am
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As for number 1 - we had already planned a trip for our anniversary (its in June but we are taking the trip in July) so we are doing that still for our Baby Moon =)

3 - the set I want for the nursery sells the bumper separate so we just aren't doing one.....
Posted on April 29, 2013 at 2:52 am
Canooknic
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Babymoon - if you can afford it then absolutely! It's nice to have a special trip just the two of you before e little whirlwind enters your world!! So nice to chill out, and you'll have some lovely memories too

Doppler - totally agree with Claire - FSIL is a midwife and has lost count of how many women freak out when they can't find a heartbeat - she's been in the job for over 10 years and still has times where babe moves around too much and she can't get a reading

We didn't do bumpers, my friend did but removed it when her girls started moving around in the crib - she said it was just to look pretty but she was too worried to leave them in there once the girls were bigger
Posted on April 29, 2013 at 3:00 am
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I agree that if you're able to afford a babymoon then you should definitely go for it! DH and I wanted do a weekend trip when I was in the second trimester but we never got around to it. I still want to do a little mini trip just to wind down before the baby comes, it just gets harder to do when you get closer to the due date because you don't wanna travel too far, you're hot/uncomfortable, etc. But 26-27 weeks is a good time to do it!


With my experience at the midwife's office, I didn't even bother with a doppler. It's always taken at least a minute just for her to find it so I know I'd get frustrated and stressed out when I wouldn't be able to find it on my own. All those baby websites say it's possible to hear the heartbeat with a stethoscope at around 20 weeks so I've tried that a few times with zero luck and I'm in my 31st week! DH wanted to buy some kind of listening device at Babies R Us the other day but I didn't wanna blow 30 bucks on something that might not work on me haha. But if you're able to find it easily on your own, then it would definitely be fun to have! By the way, I've never heard of them being harmful to the baby so I think you're good.


I'm still split on bumpers. My MIL bought us our crib set that we picked and it's soooo adorable. She bought the bumper separately to match our set so I'd feel bad not using it. My baby is due in the summertime so we're gonna have A/C and fans blowing so that'll lower whatever risk they have, but I'm still not sure what I'll do yet. I just wish the breathable ones weren't so ugly! lol

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 4:17 am
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1. I agree with the girls above, if you guys already had plans of going and can afford, then go!


2. I haven't heard that the dopplers are bad but I've also heard mixed reviews - I'd double check w/ your Dr. first, watch youtube videos on how to find the HB and be patient. Secondly, I think it's the same w/ everything else - all in moderation. I considered buying one for peace of mind but I also didn't want to spend the money. If I had bought one, I wouldn't do it everyday but what's nice is that once I hit 12 weeks, my OB started checking the HB w/ her doppler at every check up.


3. Our crib set doesn't come w/ a bumper which is good because I decided against it anyway. I have a breathable mesh bumper that's pink and matches the set. If our set did come w/ a bumper, I'd probably use it for something else in the nursery for decoration. But just my personal preference.

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 5:27 am
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1. We are planning on doing a weekend getaway to Palm Springs (it just a SUPER relaxing vaca that we enjoy taking whenever we feel stressed). Otherwise, we are saving as much $$$ as possible since I am not planning on going back to work.


2. I LOVED having my doppler in the beginning. I didnt even try to listen for a HB until 11 weeks, but every time I have used it since then, I was lucky enough to find the HB really fast (within 5 min or less). It was great having peace of mind in between appointments. Now that I am further along & feeling movement, I dont feel the urge to use it, but in the 1st Trimester, I LOVED having it available at home & listening for as long as I wanted :) There WAS one time that it took longer to find (I kept getting my HB) & I felt uneasy a little, but luckily I knew there was a big chance that I wouldnt be able to find it EVERY time. Plus my appt was the next day & sure enough he was beating along just fine.   


3. Havent thought about the bumper too much. But from what I read, they are not always safe... So I would probably get a breathable mesh one if my little guy is really active.

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 5:54 am
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1. If you guys can afford to go on a baby moon then absolutely go for it!! Dh and I planned a baby moon in Hawaii towards the end of Septemeber...I will be about 25 weeks then. :) We thought going anywhere during the last trimester would be too risky, so the time you are planning to go would be perfect! We plan to just relax and enjoy the time we have together before baby comes! :)


2. I haven't done much research on this, but I don't think we will have the extra money to buy one anyways and it would probably stress me out anyways . Definitely do your research beforehand! :)


3. I haven't had any experience with this, but all my friends/family members have used bumpers. I am not a fan of the mesh breathable ones.... We'll probably just omit it all together! I haven't really thought much about it yet....A bumper isn't a necessity either.

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 6:03 am
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1. We did not go on a babymoon for a few different reasons. We aren't huge travelers and I'm a huge saver. I wanted to make sure we saved ever penny we could for upcoming big purchases and the drop in income.


2. I did not purchase a doppler. I think I'd end up making myself sick checking the heartbeat all the time. If I had a real concern my midwife's office would get me in right away, like the time I was in a car accident.


3. We will be using a breathable bumper. No matter how much it contributes the cuteness of the room its just not worth the risk in my opinion. 

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 6:47 am
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1) yay - we spent a weekend in Palm Springs
2) nay - will only cause more stress
3) NAY NAY NAY!!!
Posted on April 29, 2013 at 8:40 am
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1. We went to Palm Springs in August for a babymoon. So bloody hot but it was relaxing so I say yes


2. I had a doppler and it gave me peace of mind. I found hb at 8wks and 3 days. I always found her within 30 secs to. My coworker just bought one and she ended up catching a heart problem with hers. It was a slow heart rate (100) so she called her dr, they did her ultrasound and found the baby has a small heart. So now they are doing weekly checks on her.


3. I have the mesh bumper, but baby refuses to sleep in crib.

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 12:48 pm
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1. Babymoon - Absolutely, if you guys can swing it! We wanted to do something low key for the sake of saving money and vacation time, so we are just going away for a weekend. It will actually be our wedding anniversary weekend, so we are combining the two celebrations :-) We figure it will be nice to have some time to ourselves, if only for a couple days. All the baby shower stuff, classes, nursery planning and baby prep can get overwhelming! Plus we know our marriage will likely get put on the back burner for a bit as we adjust to life with a LO, so we want to spend some quality time together now.

2. We never got one, but I can see why people find them comforting. I think you got a good range of answers here :-)

3. We are not doing bumpers. As cute as they are, I just wasn't comfortable with the safety risks. I see them used all the time, though...so I don't know if I'm just paranoid! Most bedding sets that I liked could be purchased as individual pieces, so it also helped with the cost - bumpers can be expensive!
Posted on April 30, 2013 at 2:54 am
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Babymoon - we didn't take one.  I nested for a long time and now I'm too far along to travel.  DH went one a camping trip a few weeks back so I guess he had a babymoon without me, hah.  I just don't want to be out of my element right now and traveling makes me feel that way!  We just go out to dinner a lot these days ;)


Doppler - we had purchased one early on and couldn't get it to work for us. It was a cheap one from babies r us that looks like an egg you strap to your stomach and listen through headphones.  Once we started feeling the baby, we just forgot about it and haven't picked it up since!


Bumpers - I opted for the mesh lining.  We don't have a bedding set and I went all neutral solid colors anyway, so it worked out!  The only reason I really wanted to use it is because the AC vent for the room is right next to the crib and points directly into the crib.  The mesh lining is just thick enough to get air through, but not blast baby with cool air!

Posted on April 30, 2013 at 3:57 am
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Ladies - thank you all SO much for your awesome insight, opinions, experience, and advice! It really has helped give me a great perspective on each of the things I was wondering about. Can't thank y'all enough!

Posted on April 30, 2013 at 1:13 pm

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