Do you invite the baby mama to the wedding? (Her kids are in the wedding) No I don't have a relationship with her, I barely talk to her!
Don't do it then! No relationship with her, then you don't know how she will react. Did you ask your fi?
Don't do it! You want people to be there who are joyous for you and your husband to be not some random girl who is thinking bad thoughts while you're getting married. You may think that it's showing the kids that everything is okay but in actuality there's really no difference! Please reconsider, I know I did!
heck to the no!
if you don't talk to her no need to bother. you and your FI are moving forward so it is no need to bring the past into your future. it shouldn't even be an option, unless you were actual friends with her.
I did. Both my ex husband and his wife and also my ex's baby mama. Neither came but they cant say they werent invited. I was sure baby mama was going to come and show her a**
Well my fiance' asked me if she was invited, my first reaction was NO! I find it awkward because when she found out we were engaged she asked him why me and not her? Hmmm! To me red lights started to flash!
Heck no! why me and not her? Enough said, don't bother! She sounds jealous.
I actually brought the idea up to FH and he quickly declined. He said that she wasnt worth the expense or the hassle of dealing with. So I guess he would know better than I would so she was NOT included on our guest list. Looking back, I dont think I'd want to spend the $104 for her plate of food anyhow.
Since you're not close to her then I don't see why she needs to be included. Also as someone mentioned, based on her comment to your FI, she's probably resentful of you. You don't need any negative energy on your special day!
NO!!!! According to Regal: you dont need that negativity on that day!
Noooo ma'am! lol ;)
Im just saying if your adult enough to marry a man that has a baby momma then you are adult enough to have her at the wedding her children are in the ceremony! Your going to be a parent now so act like it!
NO!....my step son was in the wedding but his mom was not invited. We get along pretty well and her family is great but no need for her to be at our wedding. That's just awkward.
Its all about the comfort level........ If you and the Ex Baby Mama are cool as hell than yes you should invite her, BUT if it will bring some mad tension to your day, almost to the point you think she may ruin it don't invite her.
Just because she shares a child with your future hubby doesn't mean she has to share your day of commitment with you. And if the child is in the wedding I'm pretty sure someone from his side of the family can be the caretaker for the day.
Just because she shares a child with your future hubby doesn't mean she has to share your day of commitment with you.
Very well said October! This is what I had to come to terms with! Your wedding is going to happen whether she's there or not... so why not just skip the tension, the side-eyes, and akward whispering that's going to go on even if it's not from the two of you everyone else will be doing it. It's your day and nothing should distract you on that day!
I think Melly1588 stated it perfectly. That's our situation.
You can as a nice gesture,but not if you are not close unless you just want her to be able to see her child/children.
Hell No !!! Thats y im not.
No I won't invite her if you don't have a relationship with her....it is your day and you don't want no drama...plus it might feel kinda of awkward for hubby to see his ex at his wedding...NO EXs AT THE WEDDING!!!!!
OM she asked why me and not her? oh hellllll no.
I dont converse at all with fh baby momma, i have tried but i cant speak donkey