An interesting read...

I just read a good book that I thought was relevant to the ladies in this group. :)


The book is "Baby Proof" by Emily Giffin.


Baby Proof


It was actually really interesting. It's about a woman who doesn't want babies and never has. She meets her "soul mate"--a guy who also does not want kids--and they get married. Suddenly, 2 years into their marriage, he changes his mind on the baby issue.


It's chick-lit, thought provoking but not too heavy. I just read a couple of other books by Emily Giffin ("Something Borrowed" which was just made into a movie, and "Something Blue") and she's funny without being inane. So if anybody is looking for a summer read, you might check this out. :)


 

Posted on June 30, 2011 at 2:32 am
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Oooh, what a good suggestion! I've been looking for a new read, too.


It's such a weird discussion, to. I was on a work trip with a few others and it came up. Just a run down: It was me, a 28 y/o female that isn't married, a 50 something male that is divorced with two kids, and a 34 y/o female that is married with no kids and is just aggravating as hell but anyway. So I'm the youngest, and said I didn't really want kids.


"You'll change your mind." "The clock is ticking."


Why is it so hard for people to understand, we're not all hard wired to want to be moms?!

Posted on June 30, 2011 at 6:09 am
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LOL, carolinawedding, for me it was the opposite. I'm the oldest on a girls-get-away trip where the other three gals all had kids and were like, "You need to hurry up" and I'm like (at that point in 2005), "Im not even MARRIED give me a break" and they said, "Oh, you don't have to be married" Well, DUH, but I'm not like that.


So, I just get married last October (at age 39, I'm now 40) and I may have missed my window. Sucks, but I'm not going to get knocked up just because I'm getting older. Sheesh!

Posted on July 14, 2011 at 2:50 pm
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That's what bothers me. The idea that women HAVE to have children. I've had people tell me I can't be happy in life if I don't have kids.


If I don't have kids, I'll save a ton of money and I'll buy a vacation home in the mountains. Or just travel a lot. Or buy shoes. And hey, all of those things make me happy. Try frowning when you're on a boat. Doesn't work! See, I can be happy without kids.

Posted on July 15, 2011 at 4:28 am
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I heard something on the radio... it was talking about how in the long run, people need a sense of purpose to their life to feel fulfilled. People who have kids are (according to what I heard) LESS happy, but have a greater sense of purpose--so in the long run, they feel fulfilled.


So I think as long as you have a sense of purpose to your life--a purpose that will still mean something to you when you're 80--you can have a happy, fulfilling life. The problem is that most people don't have a long-term sense of purpose other than the one that kids gives them.


Don't know if that made any sense whatsoever. I have Friday Brain... where my brain has melted into a puddle under all the stress of the week.

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It's funny that you said that, LadyHope. I think that is at the root of most of my thoughts on the issue. I have NEVER felt like I was "meant to be a mom." I have heard so many women make that statement -- friends, family, strangers, celebs -- that I think it eventually got into my head. I didn't necessarily NOT want to be a mom, but when I pictured who I was going to be years down the road, a mother was never the first image that came to mind. The older you get, people really do have a hard time understanding why you aren't in a rush to have kids. I still don't know whether I want to be a mother. The fact that I don't know, honestly makes me wonder if I will be a good mom if/when it happens. I just know it doesn't seem like the type of thing where I should go, "Well, let's see what happens with this!" :-)

Posted on July 17, 2011 at 11:15 am

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