"Family"

Do you think of the two of you as a "family"? Or just a "couple" still? I told DH he was my first (priority) family the other day and it took a little explaining, LOL! I think it's taking some adjusting for him (and his family) to see me + him as a family with our own priorities and agenda, which his parents/grandparents/siblings/cousins/aunts/uncles/everybody else come in 2nd to.


Just wondered how you think about it... are you a "family" before there are kids?

Posted on February 4, 2011 at 9:31 am
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I call us a family its just him and the furbaby.

Posted on February 5, 2011 at 11:22 am
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We consider ourselves a family.  It's just us and our furbabies.

Posted on February 6, 2011 at 9:30 am
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We both consider ourselves a family.  Once we get our house either this year or next, we will be getting a furbaby to add to our little family.  : )

Posted on February 6, 2011 at 2:36 pm
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yeah.. we definitely consider ouselves a family.  We've made it pretty clear that we have ambitions to accomplish before babies.  We actually are wanting to start a music project and call it "The Cotten Family Band" .. his idea.  so yeah.. he considers just the two of us a family too.

Posted on February 6, 2011 at 4:06 pm
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Ditto the other ladies. No furbabies yet, but we are our own family.

Posted on February 10, 2011 at 10:23 am
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I decided we were family soon before we were engaged. I was really sick and my mom happened to be in town as well. I came home from work early and after 20 minutes my mom decided it was time for me to go to the ER. The whole time all I wanted was Will, and not my mom, to comfort me. I was admitted and I got really emotional whenever he had to leave, but not my mom. He's my care giver (=

Posted on February 11, 2011 at 1:29 pm
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Yep, I considered us a family when he asked me to marry him and we are going to be a family of 3 in a few months, as we are FINALLY going to adopt a baby kitten.  : )

Posted on October 7, 2011 at 7:49 am
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The transition from "couple" to "family" took almost the whole first year of us being married for me, mentally-speaking, but that is definitely how I view it now.  I think my parents are still transitioning- for example when I had surgery last fall my dad more or less insisted his way into being present even though I just wanted my husband there.  (He thought family should be there, forgetting that my husband is my family.  There's no animosity, just it takes time to make the mental changeover.)


He is "family" in the sense of being my full-time partner and closest relation, and being higher priority than my parents or siblings.

Posted on October 10, 2011 at 3:00 am
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We are still struggling with it..We're trying to break away..its hard...we've been together since we were 16 and even though a lots changed, its difficult for my parents (and his) to see us as 25 and married. To them we're still just kids. It doesn't help that we live close to eachother either! 


 

Posted on October 11, 2011 at 2:28 pm
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We have been "family" long before we were married.  We have been through so much that we can't consider ourselves as anything else.  

Posted on October 11, 2011 at 2:35 pm
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You know, just in the time since I first started this thread (8 months ago!) I would say we've totally made the shift to me and DH being our true "family" and everyone else being a little removed. Funny how big the difference between married 1 month and married 9 months can be!

Posted on October 11, 2011 at 2:54 pm
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I don't know how I missed this thread before.


I thought it would take us much longer to transition from being a couple to being a "family." I am very close to my parents and brother, and I thought I would always consider them my "immediate" family. But the transition happened almost instantly. We are in the exact opposite situation as scgirl -- we moved across the country a few days after our wedding, so we have been alone here for the first four months of our marriage. So we became "family" pretty quick! :-) And we have the fur baby, so that helps, too. I have really become aware of the shift in mentality now that my DH is deployed. Similar to Caitlin (inspiritedbeing), it is great to have my parents and other extended family. But he is my primary family now.

Posted on October 14, 2011 at 6:54 am
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We both consider each other #1 family now.... we are a family team and that means we defend, support and make decisions as a family unit.... DH, me and our furbaby! It is just an understood fact and DH's brothers are that way too... Once I became DH's wife, i guess you could say my importance (can't think of the right word) level (officially family) changed in the eyes of others, but DH and I considered ourselves a family long before we got married. I think the transition really happened when we moved into Our Home together and got our furbaby..... From that point on, DH and I didn't make any plans/big decisions/or spend any holiday's without the other other one. We were a packaged unit so you either got us both or not at all :)

Posted on December 27, 2011 at 6:37 am
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Even if it's just two people under the same roof, it's still a family.  FH and I wil have the two of us and two cats (whom we are already calling our kids) living under our roof, and much of our extended family live in the area, but even if we didn't have all of that, we would still be the Gray family.

Posted on December 28, 2011 at 12:03 am
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DH and I often say how much we love our little family - him, me, and our weirdo pit bull <3 I think "couple" stopped around the time DH (then FI) moved in.

Posted on January 6, 2012 at 4:54 am
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We are a family. Ahh, I love saying that. :)

Posted on September 12, 2012 at 9:57 am
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We both think of each other as our family now. The shift happened before the wedding actually. DH and I would discuss future plans like where we want to raise our kids, buy a house etc. and DH was the first one to refer to us as being "our family" and making decisions together as one an for the benefit of us.

Posted on November 9, 2012 at 12:06 pm

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