Family, travelling, and holidays

Since Easter was this weekend, it got me to thinking--does anyone else have issues with family expecting the two of you to travel to come visit (since obviously you don't have kids so you're free to just hop in the car at any time.... right?) for every holiday, event, etc.?


DH's dad works in a town about 20 minutes from us and rents a room from a family there so he doesn't have to commute back and forth the 1+ hour to where DH's mom (and the rest of our families) live. So DH's dad will come over and have dinner with us maybe once a month. DH's mom is always crying that she doesn't see us enough, when are we coming to visit next?? Whenever we point out that the highway goes both ways, she says something like, "Oh, but <DH's sister> won't let me take <DH's niece> out of town!" At which point DH and I look at each other, wondering when his niece entered the picture because we asked to see his MOM, not to watch his mom play with his niece!


DH comes from a family where they have a big family dinner for EVERY birthday, holiday, event, etc. We really have had to put our foot down that we are not going to drive out there every weekend for 5 weeks in a row because all of his cousins have birthdays. Why should we be expected to spend our time and money to go see them when they're the ones who (apparently) miss us so much? Does anyone else have this issue, or are your families more respectful of your time/responsibilities as a couple even though you don't have kids?

Posted on April 25, 2011 at 2:43 am
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carolinawedding
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wtf? What does the neice have to do with anything? Is she trying to spread the "you should have kids" propaganda?


Mine aren't that bad, but I'm having daddy issues very similar to this. :/ 'nother story. But I agree, it's not right for them to just expect you to drop everything and visit when there's a birthday, holiday, or a kid manages to poop in the toilet. Gas is expensive.


maybe you should call his mom out on that. "Why can't you come visit us on your own?"

Posted on April 29, 2011 at 3:38 am
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LOL, no, luckily we don't have that issue. With my work schedule, it's actually quite the opposite. Since I work almost every single weekend of the year, our family (his really - I only have my mom) has to give us almost a year's notice of any events to travel for on weekends. I am missing my niece's graduation this weekend because they didn't get the date until this year despite the fact that I started asking them to get the date late last year so I could keep that date clear of weddings.  UGH. So, I am shooting a wedding and my husband gets to go to Florida tomorrow. Sux!


 

Posted on May 18, 2011 at 6:41 am

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