Family, travelling, and holidays
Since Easter was this weekend, it got me to thinking--does anyone else have issues with family expecting the two of you to travel to come visit (since obviously you don't have kids so you're free to just hop in the car at any time.... right?) for every holiday, event, etc.?
DH's dad works in a town about 20 minutes from us and rents a room from a family there so he doesn't have to commute back and forth the 1+ hour to where DH's mom (and the rest of our families) live. So DH's dad will come over and have dinner with us maybe once a month. DH's mom is always crying that she doesn't see us enough, when are we coming to visit next?? Whenever we point out that the highway goes both ways, she says something like, "Oh, but <DH's sister> won't let me take <DH's niece> out of town!" At which point DH and I look at each other, wondering when his niece entered the picture because we asked to see his MOM, not to watch his mom play with his niece!
DH comes from a family where they have a big family dinner for EVERY birthday, holiday, event, etc. We really have had to put our foot down that we are not going to drive out there every weekend for 5 weeks in a row because all of his cousins have birthdays. Why should we be expected to spend our time and money to go see them when they're the ones who (apparently) miss us so much? Does anyone else have this issue, or are your families more respectful of your time/responsibilities as a couple even though you don't have kids?