Who else is just not interested in having children at all? I feel like there are so few of us!
*raises hand* I mean, we're prepared for a possible change of heart later in life. But the way we figure, if we find our for any reason it can't happen, we won't be upset.
We're dog sitting this week. It's convinced me I do not want children or anything that requires responsibility.
Well I'm not dead-set AGAINST kids but I have absolutely NO ticking from my biological clock so to speak, so I'm not in a hurry. Right now we're happy with us and our cat...and honestly I have enough trouble keeping on top of everything as it is - without adding a kid into the mixture!
I want kids eventually...but like Soon2b_MrsV I have no ticking biological clock. The only time I know that I truly want kids is when I see a well behaved one (=
I am not sure if I could handle a baby, although I do love kids. I can't have them due to a previous medical issue, so DH and I would either not have any or adopt. Although we are possibly going to be getting our niece and nephew once the state finishes their work (major problems with his brother and girlfriend with the authorities).
I love kids. My mom had a childcare in our house for my entire life and I grew up in it and eventually worked with her in it. It was a lot of fun and it taught me a lot and I got to see many different parenting styles, parenting situations, and hundreds of different children.
That being said, it also taught me that they are a HUGE responsibility (moreso than most people think) and it takes a lot of selflessness and becoming a parent shouldn't be just something that you just jump into. I know that I'm too selfish right now to be a parent and that's fine. I'm still young and there's still things I want to do for me when I want to do them without having to be concerned about taking care of a child.
Also I told my husband that we can have kids when he stops being one. Which is going to be...pretty much never! :)
The way I see it is this our decision and for whatever reason we chose what we did, please respect it. The economy is not the greatest right now, some people consider that. Some people want to see Tuscany in the Spring or some people flat out can't handle babysitting! I love this group! I can get away from all the questions now!
Fearce- it's what we come together for. :) just read GatorBride's teary eyed, guilt ridden response to people that would ask when they'll have kids. Wait, no, she had "the look." I think someone else had the teary response.
I got really offended the other day because one of my husband's fellow Marines (with four kids) was all up in my grill like..."Well don't wait TOO long, you're not going to be young forever!" I am freaking 26 years old!!! I wasn't aware that tomorrow, I'd be too young to birth a child!
I then told him that my jr. bridesmaid's mother gave birth to her at age 44, with absolutely no problems, after a 15 year break between children. It can happen, it does happen, and it is my decision if I want to wait till next year, five years from now, or never have children at all!
Ugh! The "don't wait too long" comments are among the worst! A few months ago I already was in a crappy mood when a coworker I barely even know asked if I decided to finally get married because we want kids right away. I was dumbfounded for a second, then said, "Um, I didn't realize it's a finally situation. I'm 30 years old." To which she replied: "Exactly!" I looked confused and didn't respond, so she added, "You can't wait much longer and expect to get pregnant right away."
In one fell swoop - child assumptions and age insults. I couldn't take it. I asked her if she could please go into Excel and create a chart of the next few years and indicate the ideal times for me to have a child, then email it to me so FI and I could plan accordingly. She didn't even get the sarcasm.
Yikes, FCTF... I'd be so tempted to smack her!
My boss's daughter had found out she was pregnant a month or two after my wedding, and my boss asked me to paint something for the nursery. She printed out a photo of the bedding set her daughter had chosen. I had it sitting next to my desk when a coworker came up, looked at the photo of a crib, etc., and was like, "Honeymoon baby???" I just gave her this LOOK and said really flatly, "NO." I knew she was joking but at the same time.... ugh.
You're not alone! No kiddos for me, pleaseandthankyou :) In fact, I read a thread around here a few days ago that further solidified my position. I like my marriage just fine without all that added complication!
Coworker strikes again! I'm trying to find a new purse so I was shopping on Etsy and clicked one that was labeled "Laptop messenger bag purse diaper bag"... guess which 2 words she zeroed in on? "Why are you shopping for a diaper bag, huh??? HAHAHAHAHA..."
Oh, she is so not as witty as she thinks she is. :P
None for me, thanks! We have too much fun together with "just the two of us" (great group name). We like to go out late on weekends and play just as hard as we work during the week. Aside from that, we have a cat who acts like our kid. So we are good, thanks! :)
Since we've been together so long (12 years), as soon as we finally got engaged, many people asked FI the baby question. I love his response to them. "That's not in the program" he says!
Can I change my answer to "Why do I have a uterus if I won't be using it?" After we got the dog and dealing with the responsibility... I can't imagine being a mother.
It's nice to know my DH and I are not the only couple on the planet who is not interested in having any children. We have our furbaby and are more than happy just the three of us. I don't feel at a loss, in fact when I'm with DH and furbaby, I feel absolutely complete. Plus I helped raise my little sister who is 11 years yonger than me and was ALWAYS babysitting her and I seriously couldn't stand it. People say it's different when they're your own, but for me the thought of kids feels similar to being given a life sentence in jail. So since our hearts aren't into it, I already know we'd make terrible parents and the child would really be the one who would suffer.
Oh my gosh why haven't I been checking in to this group sooner!! Seriously, everyone I know is getting pregnant and it's depressing! I just don't want kids, it's not that I don't like them, they are just not for me. And DH and I have such a long commute to work every day, and lots of weeks he is gone traveling for work...it doesn't even make sense to have a kid. But I'm starting to feel left out a club I don't even want to join! And my circle of friends are all very young IMO, mid-late 20's, I don't feel old enough to have a child and I really don't think some of my friends are mature enough lol. I know I am suppose to be happy for them when they call to tell me...but all I can manage is a weak "Yay!"...I honestly don't know what to say and I am just not excited when I hear about it. Probably because none of my friends are financially stable and were planning on a baby, but maybe that's just the cynical side of me :)