The thought of TTC scares the C*** outta me!

First of all i'm really happy that Misshammy told me about his group bc i was stalking Project baby and i was amazing at how many girls were preggers and i just new i wasn't the only one who wanted to wait.


Anyways..... for my the thought of TTC scares the living H outta me. Babies have never been my cup o tea and thinking that there is this thing growing inside of you makes me feel like i'm an alien of some sort i know its normal and natural but it scares me and i see how many people who are preggers/just had babies that are missing out on a ton of wedding acitivies and missing out on the wedding all together bc of their baby which makes me really sad. *selfish i know*


Does the idea of TTC scare any of you ladies?

Posted on July 22, 2011 at 10:11 am
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prinncessjennifer
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I joined just to post on this :-)
I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant...DH and I got married October 2009. Once we were married we stop using any protection, we just made sure not to do the deed anywhere near fertile times. We said we would TTC after a year, after my BFF's wedding in Jamaica this past November (who wants to be preggers then right?) we half-assed for a couple of months. During that time I actually questioned if I wanted to have kids, we had so much going on my 30th birthday was this year and I wanted a big to do, so we put baby making on hold again. Plus, I really liked coming and going as I pleased!!!!! All my friends have kids and I saw how free our life was! And like you said trying and pregnancy freaks me out (still does!!) I knew I was never going to someone that tempted, tracked all that stuff it just made it that much more stressful. Then pregnancy it's self what if there's something wrong? This sounds selfish but I don't think I could handle a special needs child (sorry if that offends!)

We ended up pregnant a month before my birthday...we had a slip-up got caught in the moment (beers where involved as well!). It was one time, on the day I ovulated...what are the chances! I was bummed I didn't get my last hurrah BUT I think how it happened was right. I think we may have kept finding reasons to wait.

I guess my point is when and if it comes time for you and DH to try, just go with it and see what happens :-)

As far as pregnancy - not going to lie it's been weird and crappy. I've had some awful morning / night sickness and for a couple of weeks I thought "what the hell did I get myself into?!?!?" but our second ultrasound actually showed a baby! Not some blob looking thing! And I know it's only going to get better :-)

So yes TTC and pregnancy freak me out and I'm pregnant!
Posted on July 24, 2011 at 2:40 am
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I think that's the thing: the assumption that there is a "time" for it to happen. We don't particularly want it to happen. having a dog has convinced me of that enough.


I'm with you, aswan. :/ I never felt I'd be a parent or had that urge. Visions of my future included a vacation home, not a child.  DH is the same way. We actually talked about it recently and figured by 30 we might consider going off BC and talking to a doctor. If we find out one of us can't have a kid for whatever reason, that's that.


Kids are cool. Even the idea of creating a person is kinda neat. But I don't feel like it.

Posted on July 25, 2011 at 1:14 pm
thisiscooling
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The thought of TTC is actually kind of nice and fun to me... its everything that comes afterwards which makes me hyperventilate. Literally.


I am far too fond of my freedom, of having lots of sleep, of going out for dinner and generally living however we want. The thought of having a child to look after 24/7 terrifies me.

I definitely agree there is never going to be a "right time", but DH and I know for sure that we want some "us time" first before we take any chances, so doing everything we can to not TTC until we get a bit older and have lived a bit more of our lives together.

Posted on July 26, 2011 at 1:18 am
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Yes, TTC is terrifying to me, too!!! Like others said... maybe it's selfish, but I'm not ready for that responsibility or ready to give up my freedom, my sleep, and my body. DH and I won't be financially even close to ready for several years. We want to be out of debt and possibly have our own house first. So in the meantime, the pill is my best friend.

Posted on July 26, 2011 at 2:22 am

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