Would you ever vacation separately?

A couple of DH's friends that we go out with weekly suggested that we all take a ski trip... the gal's mom lives in Colorado so we could stay with her. We set a date for a weekend in early March.


I just got a promotion and will have a new supervisor, new job, in a new facility... lots of new stuff. While my vacation days do carry over, there's still a chance that I won't be able to take off of work for a 4-day weekend.


It doesn't break my heart--I don't really love to ski and would mostly just be going because DH is and I don't want to be a party pooper. ;) However, if I find that I can't go, I do want my husband to go because he really wants to try it, and he never gets to take vacations.


So is that weird? It's one thing to take business trips alone, but this is a fun trip. Am I weird for wanting my husband to go even if I can't? It seems selfish to demand that he stay home with me if it turns out I can't go.


Of course this will all be moot if I am allowed to take the vacation days, but I was just curious what y'alls thoughts were on this.

Posted on February 3, 2012 at 3:52 am
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Nah, it makes sense! I agree that it would feel a little selfish to ask him to stay. And you never know, he might not want to go without you.


DH and I have brought up the separate trips, as far as me going with a group of girls or him with a bunch of guys. For us, it won't happen often but we see no problem with separate fun time.


But that's still really cool of you to feel that way!

Posted on February 3, 2012 at 4:06 am
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I don't think it's weird. I'd do the same and encourage him to go.  Similarly, if DH was stuck at work but I had vacay days to kill, I would hope he wouldn't guilt trip (ha! pun intended!) me into not taking them. ;)

Posted on February 3, 2012 at 3:14 pm
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makes sense to me

Posted on February 13, 2012 at 5:08 am
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I encourage my DH to go on fishing vacations with his dad and brothers, I think it's good for couples to go and do their own things too... just cause we're married I don't feel the need to do everything with DH, it's nice to have some time to miss him, ykwm? 

Posted on May 8, 2012 at 3:48 am
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Yes! I actually go on a 'girls trip' each year w/ my group of girls. It's always a blast and I always encourage him to go out with his friends on vacations when they come up!


Its nice to have your own vacation time away from each other and spend it with friends.

Posted on September 12, 2012 at 9:46 am

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