Changing your last name

So,today I started the journey of changing my last name and taking up my husband's name. It's not easy. I have to do a newspaper publication of my change of name, copy my place of work, Pharmacists council, the West Africa College of Pharmacists where I am running my residency program,Immigration office for change of name on my passport, etc etc.


In all this, I feel sad. I love DH and like being his wife. But I am attached to my name. Its not like I need it for professional purposes or anything, but its just that my surname is very unique and uncommon, and Ive had it for 30years now, so it feels like Im loosing a little of myself and my identity by letting go of it. I thought of hyphnating my maiden name and my husband's surname, but.. cant work. My surname has 11 letters and his has 9, can you begin to imagine how unweldy it would be? Not taking his name is not an option either,it will look odd, and trust me,even my parents will not approve of me keeping my family name. Besides, its not even practical; I mean,I really cant be Mrs (my maiden name), and I dont care to be 'Miss' any longer, I love being adressed as 'Mrs',lol..


Well,my emails, facebook and twitter accounts and all social media remain in my name, but that is a small comfort.


So,did y'all change your names after the wedding, and how easy was it for you?

Posted on June 17, 2013 at 9:11 am
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Uhlease
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It's definitely a process!! And totally normal to feel attached to the name you've had for 30 years! Heck, I changed my name pretty much right after the wedding, but things are still coming up that I have to do. I just sent in my marriage license yesterday to Southwest airlines because my old name is on my rapid rewards account, and I needed to book a flight with my new last name. It's all crazy. And it sounds like you have a lot of places to change it as well! Your maiden name will always be a part of you, but you will love being called Mrs. "new last name" every time :):)

Posted on June 20, 2013 at 3:24 am
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Yes, I do have soooo many places to change it, I just realize that my salary account bank and my pensionfund provider need to be notified as well,lol.


Nice to know Im not alone in the way I feel..

Posted on June 21, 2013 at 5:09 am
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I totally understand this! I felt the same way right after I got married :-) In fact, I dragged my feet changing my name everywhere until about eight months after the wedding. I was 31 when I got married and I was very attached to my name. I couldn't imagine having a new last name, but it was out of the question for me to keep my maiden name. (My DH would have been crushed.) So my compromise was to make my maiden name my new middle name and then take DH's last name. I use my middle initial in my signature, and it is a small reminder every now and then of the blending of my two names. 


I have actually found that with time, my maiden name isn't "me" anymore. But I LOVE my new name. It is like having that small piece of my maiden name with me, but everyone still knows me as Mrs. DH'sLastName. And my DH likes my name, too :-) 


Good luck with the name change process! The SS office, DMV, post office and your bank/credit card companies are great places to start. After that, it is just a matter of finding all the other places where you have accounts and things in your maiden name! 

Posted on June 21, 2013 at 2:49 pm

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