friend as officiant

hi all :-)

we're hoping to have one of our friends be the officiant at our wedding... my boss' husband got certified to marry their daughter and he said it was fairly easy.

my question...

1. if you're having a friend get certified, please let me know details on how much time/effort and money is involved. we don't want to burden anyone if it's going to take a lot of work on their end just to get certified. also, where would i go to get started on this?

thanks!
Posted on September 10, 2007 at 6:23 am
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There are several websites online....I am having one of my closest friends marry us. From what I have been told...its an easy short process....We havd told my friend that we would pay for him to become ordained...and I think its fairly cheap...under $100. I also, just found a really helpful book at Barnes and Noble...a ceremony planner.....I gave it to my friend who is going to marry us...but I believe it was called A Guide to Ceremony Planning, it was pink and white....it has been a lifesaver so far because it has samples of ceremonies that have actually been perfromed and ideas of how to make it a unique ceremony....basically you could go word for word out of the book if you wanted or change it up.


Let me know if you find a good website to become ordained on...and I will let you know if we find something as well....
Posted on September 10, 2007 at 7:59 am
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FI and I have asked a friend of ours to be our officiant. He was a mentor to both of us when we were first dating.

He got ordained on the web through the Universal Life Church. www.themonastery.org I believe it's free to become ordained and it's recognized by the all of the counties in the Bay Area. You'll have to check with your county to make sure.

He's been writing the ceremony on his own using whatever resources he can find on the internet. He's found a few different ceremony scripts and he's customizing it to fit us. But most of it will be the kind of thing we've all heard before.

Good luck!
Posted on September 10, 2007 at 11:32 am
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ladies, thank you so much!

can you tell me how much time is required of the officiant? is it just a matter of showing up to get their certification, taking a short test, etc? would they need to take time out of their work schedule to get any of these things done?
Posted on September 10, 2007 at 12:54 pm
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I don't know what the process involves if your friend gets ordained through the county. Depending on the county, he'll probably have to take some time off from work or use his lunch break only because county offices are never open on the weekends.

Our friend said that it took about an hour to get ordained through the ULC. But, he's a really thorough guy who reads everything before he clicks okay. It might actually take less time. The best part is that it's all online.

Good luck!
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 7:17 am
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We're having our friend officiate our wedding. In California, you have to be ordained through some religious organization, be a judge or be "deputized" for the day. To be deputized, you have to fill out a form two months before the wedding and go to the registar's office to be sworn in. The problem is the only time to be sworn in on is Thursdays at 11am, and you have to make an appointment. The Universal Life Church will be your best bet.

Besides that, no additional paperwork or tests are necessary.
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 10:32 am
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so basically... if we went with ULC, it's ALL online. they wouldn't have to go into the courts afterwards, right?
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 11:29 am
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Right. Here's the website that talks about it.

http://www.dhs.ca.gov/hisp/chs/OVR/Marriage/FAQ.htm
Posted on September 11, 2007 at 12:04 pm
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thank you! going to give FI this task hehe.
Posted on September 12, 2007 at 4:56 pm

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