What do you guys think?

FI is really ivolve which I'm very happy. Anyhow, we paid our GMs and BMs dresses for our wedding (PIB). They will cover alterations. One of my BMs want to change the neckline to sweetheart. I'm okay with since I already knew they weren't very happy with the dress I picked. But when I told FI he doesn't like the idea. He thinks it will odd in pictures when everyone have the same neckline except one...and he likes the idea of all the BM wear the same dresses aside from MOH. So I told my BM. I don't know if she thinks we're being difficult (groomzilla/bridezilla) but her reply was she didn't think FI has a say on it and she will wear it since its our wedding but she doesn't agree that it will look weird. Should I ignore FI opinion and just let my BM have her way? FI and were actually arguing about this. I feel bad since it's his wedding too I told him if we'll just let the girls do whatever they want this wouldn't happen. What to do? I didn't know planning a wedding can be so stressful esp when it comes to another people. I can't believe FI and I were arguing about my BMs.
Posted on September 1, 2007 at 11:00 am
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sarahmkruse
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What do you want? In the long run your FI wont even notice the difference... If you dont mind, then tell her ok.
Posted on September 1, 2007 at 1:29 pm
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I don't mind but FI would see it on pictures. I try to respect his decision since its his wedding too. Also, it's his money too so I try to accomodate his wishes since doesn't ask very much.. But I want to accomodate both of them. I just don't know how to go by doing it. I mean should I just ignore what FI says even though I know he would get mad or upset just to make sure my friend is happy. grr
Posted on September 1, 2007 at 2:13 pm
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I'd say if they are paying for alterations, they can do whatever they want with the dress. So unless you want to pay for alterations too, it will be tough for your FI to tell them what he wants.
Posted on September 1, 2007 at 8:21 pm
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I think your FI has a say since it's his wedding after all. Most BMs and GMs pay for their own outfit. You and your FI are already nice enough to pay for their dresses. Also, even though they are paying for the alteration they should at least consider the bride/groom wishes after all it's their wedding. MRSBABYSALUTE how would you feel if one of your BMs wanted to alter her dress different from your other BMs. You had a destination wedding is that mean you paid for everyone's airfare so no one would complain and you can have your way. After all they don't have a say right?!? unless they are paying for it.
Posted on September 1, 2007 at 9:29 pm
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It's your wedding, so whatever you say goes. Even if they have to pay for their own attire, they still have to respect your wishes because it is YOUR wedding! Not to mention, you are generous enough to pay for their attire!! & since WHEN do bride & groom are in charge of paying for the wedding party's alterations? All news to me... sorry.
Posted on September 1, 2007 at 9:52 pm
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Maybe to accommodate both, since you are paying for the dress, ask her to keep the neckline the same. But after the wedding, she can alter it in whatever way as she pleases.
Posted on September 4, 2007 at 2:14 pm
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i like krisen's idea. i really think you should stick to your gun but tell her in a nice way. this is a gift from the me and him. we bought them for all the bridesmaid to look the same. you can do whatever you want w/the dress afterwards our 1 wish is ot keep the neckline for OUR wedding. something like that. gl. i've been in your shoes before.
Posted on September 4, 2007 at 3:20 pm
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I think you should put your foot down,.. after all, it is a gift...unless she was your MOH, then I would consider it...
Posted on September 4, 2007 at 3:22 pm
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I totally agree with mariegalapon! After all, it is your wedding! ;)
Posted on September 5, 2007 at 11:04 am
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Thanks everyone!!! BM and I reach an agreement. :-)
Posted on September 5, 2007 at 12:41 pm

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