Do men have a secret language? *long*

Ladies, I didnt know where to go with my vent/question, so I decided to jump in here, and let it all out.


Last week I posted my story about Pink Ribbon, how Im having a lot of extra risks, and that my doctor talked to me about to quit my BC pills. Of course I talked about this with FI, although we dont live together yet and only see each other every 3-6 months.
FI & I both wanna be parents in the future, and me quitting BC pills (for health reasons) brought up the subject again. At first my FI was really clear; he wanted to get married, wait for my greencard procedure to be done, live together with "just the 2 of us" for some time and after that TTC. So that would be Summer 2012, if I need to set a date.


I shared my sorrows with him about condoms might be failing, and what to do next. I talked to my doctor and she said there are not really any alternatives for me. He also knows that my baby-fever is there since a couple of months and that I wouldnt mind to be pregnant before 2012. So starting a family has been more & more subject of our conversations lately. Ending with him saying last night: "yeah why not make a baby together when we're in Boston?"


But today I called FI to just talk to him for a bit. Then he said to me: "sweety there is something we need to discuss when we're in Boston" (We will share a week of vacation together there, after not seeing each other for 6 months, from Oct 16-Oct 22). I had no idea where he was talking about, "what do we need to discuss sweety?" Then he told me that he talked about raising children in the US vs the Netherlands with a friend. That friend told him that a lot of things would be way easier for us in the NL etc. And that he wants to talk to me about that...


I'm shocked and not so sure how to "take" this. Thats why my thread subject, do men speak a secret language? Is this a guys way of telling me that he's ready to start a family?
Did you and your FI/DH talk about these kinda subjects before starting TTC? Was he straight forward about when he was ready to start a family?


I have to say that I notice a smile on my face when I write this, him being ready for a family (before 2012) is a gift to me :)

Posted on September 30, 2009 at 4:09 am
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My husband has been dropping hints for two years about wanted to start a family and I told him not until we're married and we even moved our wedding date up because he didn't want to wait that long. So here we are married for over a year and still no baby!!!

Posted on October 7, 2009 at 12:15 pm
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When I met DH three and a half years ago, we started talking about kids.  Before we even got serious, he told me how he wanted to be a Dad.  We always talked about when we are going to ttc.

Posted on October 7, 2009 at 12:58 pm
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it might not be that he's ready start just yet but defenitly that he is planning on kids. i would be straight out and ask him straight out again. men do not have secret code talk. men do not really give hints or clues. men are straightforward (at least most men are) and tell it like it is.

Posted on October 12, 2009 at 3:32 am

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