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Okay i have got to have help here! It seems as if everyone around me is getting prego and they arnt even trying !!! I have been okay with a couple of my friends telling me hey im prego and i was okay with it but then today 3 of my close friends send me text saying guess what im prego we found out this morning!!!! I was okay with the first and bummed with the 2nd and lost it with the 3rd!!! I am happy for them but at the same time i get soooo upset because i realize i have been ttc for 14mnts now and we are getting no where. Everyone says ohh just give it time it, it will come when you least expect it and blah blah blah but i dont wanna hear that anymore. We have  been to the dr DH has done a SA and i have had a diag lap all is okay we are not to stressed with anything dh has a great job and i have a job. I feel awful because i feel like i cant be happy for them but im just soooo miserable! I just want to be able to have a baby sooo bad i feel like we would be great parents and i just i questions what is the problem why can i not get prego!!!! Help girls i dont want to seem mean and inconsiderate of my good friends its just soooo hard for me to be sooo happy for them when i myself am trying to get prego and cant.

Posted on October 14, 2009 at 8:57 am
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AMiller
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You have friends here! It seems like a lot of us are having a hard time trying to conceive! I've been trying since last summer (Aug 2008) and still no luck. My RE has done two SAs, HSG, numerous blood tests and so far no answers :( Our friends started "to see what happens" a couple months after we actively started trying and they had their baby in July! It's hard sometimes when you have your shit together (careers and home) and you're ready for a baby and it seems like everyone else gets pregnant so easy. It can make you bitter. I totally understand where you are coming from!

Posted on October 14, 2009 at 11:06 am
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Wow, I would feel miserable as well. For 3 friends to send you messages that is just crazy. But you aren't alone with the waiting game.

Posted on October 14, 2009 at 12:18 pm
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I know where you are coming from too.  Five of my girlfriends are pregnant.  And they got pregnant right away.... no problems.  It's frustrating. 

Posted on October 14, 2009 at 12:58 pm
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ditto...we're seeing an RE too....and i have to have a surgery....and one of my "frienemies" is having a shower on Nov 14...i hate to say it, but since she's been pregnant, she lost her job, and all she ever wants to talk about is the baby....i totally understand, but she just doesn't get that me and another friend of ours are having problems, but she just talks about it incessantly....it's getting old...

Posted on October 15, 2009 at 5:29 am
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I know exactly how you feel Palmer09.  My two best friends got pregnant by accident as well as DH's sister.  NONE of them are married or even engaged, only ONE had a job (and not a great one at that) and NONE of them were planned.  As hard as I try not to be jealous, it's getting the best of me.  I'm having a hard time shaking the feelings of resentment towards them.  I mean, DH and I are ready, have great jobs with benefits, own our home, and have the majority of our debt paid off and these girls are just "flying by the seat of their pants" and get preggo.  I'm trying the best I can to keep a positive attitude but it's weighing on me.

Posted on October 16, 2009 at 2:11 am
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I know how you feel my husband's sister and I are trying, and having no luck, but our sister-in-law, who has one baby (and are kind of financially struggling) just found out she's pregnant! I'm over the moon happy for them, but I always think, why is it the ones who aren't working for it that get it? LOL

Posted on October 17, 2009 at 4:01 pm

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