Life is so unfair!

I'm so angry this morning!!


Last week, in Qc, a woman KILLED her three children, out of nowhere. She splited up with her husband, probably got depressed and psychotic (we don't know that for sure...no mental evaluation yet), drowned her three poor children and then went hiding. They found her and now she's in jail, waiting for her hearing. This is HORRIBLE and really hard to understand for everybody (I'm a psychologist and I'm really having a hard time being empathic even thought this woman clearly need help...)


So, while I was having my cup of tea this morning watching the morning show, I heard this news that this woman is pregnant again!!!! Yeah, you read well...she's having another baby! If she decided to go on with this pregnancy, she'll have her baby while in prison (or mental health care institution) and rise him/her there or the poor child we'll ended up in Child Care Services.


How come, we, amazing ladies, are still waiting for this little bean we want so much to grow in our belly while someone who clearly can't take care of a child is pregnant?!?

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 1:54 am
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Omg, that makes me sick to my stomach!

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 2:11 am
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Ditto Julie! :(

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 2:13 am
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Omg -I'm Canadian as well and have been following this story but I hadn't heard she was pregnant again! I feel horrible for all of her children :( Hopefully this woman has family -parents, siblings etc... that can give him/her a stable and loving home.

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 2:13 am
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As a person in recovery from and with mental illness I can say that I have NEVER wanted to hurt my kids NOR HAVE I! I hate it when these stories happen because it makes ALL OF US look like we would be incapable of providing Loveing Caring nurturing homes for our children.


Here is a pic of my 3 kids and you can see they look normal. My oldest is going into the Army. My middle wants to be a daycare/nanny and my youngest who is a genious and loves to be loved and snuggled has 5 dreams and I told him he can do them all.


We need more help for people with mental illness and LESS STIGMA!!!


As a person in photo 3433917-1

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 3:07 am
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I didn't realise she was pregnant either - such a terrible situation. I cant imagine how the dad is coping with his loss, his press release was heart-breaking.

There was a similar story in London a few months back, I just don't understand it. If someone wants to take their own life then fine, but to hurt their babies?? How could they?
Posted on December 12, 2012 at 3:38 am
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This is just horrible and so sad.

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 4:00 am
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I totally agree with you Idoagain!


Everybody is at risk for mental illness and a lot of people suffering from anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder and even schizophrenia are greater parents than other people whitout mental health issues. Mental status, just as poverty, health condition and environment can influence your lifestlye but it doesn't determine your abilities to love, nurture or care.


I didn't want to condamn this women because she might have a depression or a psychotic disorder. In fact, it's easier to think that she have one and got disconected with reality for doing something like this because otherwise, it's really hard to conceive that you can do something like this while thinking rationally. But we definitly don't know what she was thinking and maybe she was convinced that she was doing the best for her babies. But our society is really eager to put any kind of diagnosis on behaviors that are out of the "normal range" to explain them. I'm not saying it's right but sadly, this is how society works so in the end, I wouldn't be surprise if she receive a diagnosis. But this could also be a great thing cause if she's really suffering from mental illness, it means she'll get the services she needs instead of just going to prison which would do no good.


And I do agree that stories like this cause ENORMOUS stigmatization on people with mental illness cause people start to think that it reflects everybody with mental illness while it's not the case at all! How many time do I hear people telling me that patients with schizophrenic disorder are dangerous, violent, etc, while it's not even 1% of the people with schizophrenia who shows signs of violence?!


What seems unfair to me is the fact that while she JUST killed her children, she's about to have another one, mental illness or not. I don't mean to say she didn't deserve happiness nor that she won't be able somehow to take care of him if she receive the help she needs. But in the same way that we feel "envy", "jealousy" and even sometime "sadness"  when peple around us (friends, sisters, etc.) or people who don't want child get pregnant very easily while we are not, it's seem unfair and it is hard to accept. Doesn't mean they won't be good parents.


That was my only point while posting this. I certainly didn't want to offend anybody nor cause prejudices and I'm truly sorry if I did.


 

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 4:19 am
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This breaks my heart.

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 4:30 am
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I have never understood why some people who would fabulous and loving parents cannot have children, and people who abuse or neglect their kids seem unable to STOP having them. It really is just beyond sad, and I totally understand where you're coming from. Life seems pretty unfair sometimes.
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Posted on December 13, 2012 at 4:45 am
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And now I've read that the guy who stabbed his kids to death but pleaded insanity (so avoided prison) is due for release!! What is going on?
The only plus of this is that they are now reviewing the laws around this, but it just makes me want to scream!!!
Posted on December 14, 2012 at 4:04 am
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this is a tragedy.... we need to be praying for all our children and and parents too ...we just need to pray period...i apologize if i offended someone who doesnt believe...but i do...our nation is in trouble,,,when you start killing children the innocence of our human race...the only thing we got left to do is pray....

Posted on December 15, 2012 at 7:41 pm

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