My vlog

Hi ladies! So as I posted a few days ago I started a vlog on youtube about ttc and have started a new "segment" about parenting. As my husband and I prepare to start a family alot of parenting questions come up! I decided to share our thoughts on certine questions or topics via my vlog. The question that came up this week is will we "do the Santa thing" with our future children. Check out my blog and then Id love to hear your take on the whole thing! I think it is REALLY important that we start talking NOW with our SOs about the parenting aspects that come along with having a child:)


 


http://youtu.be/t94w1HUYXno

Posted on December 4, 2012 at 8:04 am
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CheekyMar
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WISH I HAD ACCESS AT WORK! I'll check it out when I get home!!!

Posted on December 4, 2012 at 8:13 am
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We did Santa with our first two kids and we were called liars when the found out the truth from Jehovah's witnesses. So with Ricky he did not have any of those tales, but we also told him NOT to tell other kids because Santa is real to those who believe that is the magic of Santa. He was fine with this. I also converted from Catholic to Spiritualist before he was born so he gets to experience a different form of magic. He believes in our ability to manifest what we want through prayer and positive thinking. He believes that there is a GREAT Energy from which all energy comes and that some people call that Energy God and others Allah among many others. We have told him they are all correct because it is Faith and belief that make it true. No one religion is correct.

This is a boy who never teases who has been to church synagague temple and to nature to experience the Great Energy WE even call this energy God to help him not be teased. We explained that others will say we are wrong and that is ok, we know because this is our belief and our faith.

Andrew 18 has no beliefs because of the lie of Santa.
Sarah 17 is a spititualist.
Ricky has not decided yet so I still bring him to whatever service he 'ks to go to.

This way I am not forcing my beliefs on my kids. They will be armed with information to make thir own decision.

I am a child of God and believe in all that is good in the world and know it is hate and differntiation that causes strife.

And it all begins with Santa as I found out.

I meant to also say Ricky is age 11 and but by the grace of medicine and GOD who helped doctors larn to bring back babies whose hearts stop by that great energy Ricky would not be here. All 3 of my kids were hard to come by with months in bed and in hospitals. Electricity and God have kept them here.
Posted on December 4, 2012 at 11:12 am
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Posted on December 5, 2012 at 1:54 pm
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Your DH brought up some great points that are worth discussing. So I turned to my DH last night and asked him. He didn't hesitate to say that yes he wants to do Santa for our future kids. We too both grew up with all of the childhood figures and same here - not traumatized, we didn't grow up thinking it was okay to lie to our parents or anyone else, and we still remember what Xmas is all about. :-)

Posted on December 5, 2012 at 6:03 pm
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This is a really good point of discussion. My husband and are Christians too, and making sure that our kids know the real reason we celebrate is super important. At the same time, I don't think Santa and Jesus are mutually exclusive. And by telling the the legend of St. Nick, you're not actually lying. He was a real dude. A Christian, in fact. He was known for his generosity and giving spirit, and suffered for his faith. While he doesn't live at the North Pole with a troop of elves, I don't think there's any harm in letting my kids believe that this generous saint might still be bringing good boys and girls presents to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior. I was never allowed to believe in Santa as a child, and I always feel like I missed out on the innocent magic of it all. As long as we present the legend of St. Nick as a legend, and read them the second chapter of Luke every Christmas as a factual historical account, and make sure they realize the true meaning of it all, I think we're doing okay to let them believe in St. Nick, keep the magic, but not be traitors to our faith.

ETA: I found a children's book on the subject if you're interested:)
www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0310713277
Posted on December 8, 2012 at 12:37 am
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DH & I are definitely doing Santa for Megan :) As with the other ladies, we both grew up believing in/ being taught Santa and turned out fine (I think ;) As far as lying, yes you're not being completely honest, but there are so many "lies" we tell/will tell as parents to our children as they grow... when they draw or make something for example that we don't know what it is or may not be aesthetically pleasing, don't we tell them "I love it!" or "it's beautiful!" so as to not hurt their feelings? Technically, this is "lying" as well.


I guess I just never thought of Santa as a "lie." I remember being 8 and finding out the truth (really mom? You couldn't have used different wrapping paper and different penmanship for the "Santa" presents? ;) I don't even remember being upset... I guess it just all came together for me and made sense... when kids start questioning Santa's existence, I think a part of them know the truth. I also think it's all part of growing up and having more mature views toward things -kind of like playing with different toys -we play with dolls when we're younger, then we move toward jewelry and makeup. I don't judge anyone's beliefs -parents can teach their children whatever they want. To us, Santa is just a part of Christmas, along with celebrating Jesus's birth and spending quality time with family :) 

Posted on December 8, 2012 at 5:05 am

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