Wedding Vows Tips!!!!
- Make sure that everyone is on the same page. Talk to your FI, SO and your officiant and make sure everyone is okay with personalized wedding vows. Make sure your ceremony officiant will actually allow personalized vows. Certain celebrants and houses of worship may require you to recite a specific set of traditional vows.
- Start Early. I can't say this enough: Don't leave writing your vows until the day before the wedding! You'll be too nervous, excited and rattled to give them the time and thought they deserve. Give yourselves at least a month, or work on your vows in that pocket of time after you've set up all your major vendors and before you have to start thinking about the details. Vow writing should be done in a relaxed, not rushed, frame of mind. Some loose deadlines to aim for: Try to get a first draft together about three weeks before the wedding and have your final version completed at least two days out.
- Answer some simple questions Yep, it's homework time. Sit down in a quiet space with paper and pen and answer these questions
- What is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry?
- When did you know that you were in love/ know that this person was the one you wanted to marry?
- What does marriage mean to you? Why do you want to be a married person?
- What is the most important thing you want to promise to your partner?
- What is the promise you most want to hear from them? (For example, it might be really important to you to promise that you will always respect them. Or you might really want them to promise their eternal fidelity.)
- What will change about your relationship once you are married? What will stay the same?
- What is your most favorite memory of your partner?
- When you were little, did you dream of your wedding day or your future spouse?
- How does that vision match up (or not) with your sweetheart?
- Set the Tone. Before putting pen to paper, decide what overall tone you want to achieve. Humorous but touching? Poetic and romantic? It's your call -- the most important thing is that your vows ring true and sound like they're from your heart. One word of advice: While your vows can be lighthearted (or even hilarious), they should, in some way, acknowledge the seriousness of the commitment you're about to make. One way to do that is to weave little jokes into traditional vows (for example: "I promise to love you, cherish you and always watch Monday Night Football with you").
- Remember Your Audience. Don't make your vows so personal that they're cryptic -- or embarrassing! You've invited your family and friends to witness your vows in order to make your bond public, so be sure everyone feels included in the moment. That means putting a limit on inside jokes, deeply personal anecdotes and obscure nicknames or code words.
If that didn't work Try filling in the blanks in a more simple vow.
(Name of your sweetheart), you are my (best friend, one true love, the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, etc.) Today, I take you to be my (wife, husband, lawfully wedded wife or husband, life partner, etc.) I promise you that I will be (faithful, worthy of your trust, worthy of your love, your loving partner, etc.) I vow to (honor you, cherish you, love you, respect you, laugh with you, cry with you, support you in your goals, etc.), (insert here the length of your vow, for example, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as we both shall live.)
- Practice Out Loud (Seriously!). These are words meant to be heard by a live audience, so check that they sound good when spoken. Read your vows out loud to make sure they flow easily. Watch out for tongue twisters and super-long sentences -- you don't want to get out of breath or stumble.
I hope these tips help someone because they are helping me. Good Luck!!!