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As your wedding day approaches, reviewing your choices and making decisions can be a bit confusing not to mention nerve-wracking. Your wedding day naturally brings on traditional thoughts and sentimental feelings, yet the independent woman in you wants to show off your contemporary side and your own special style.
When putting together the final touches of your reception, it may be tricky to express your unique personality and still please family and friends. So as you sample the dishes in deciding on a scrumptious feast, choose the right lighting and décor, and audition the best bands, you might also want to make sure that the bar can accommodate your guests with the classic as well as the most delicious and up-to-date libations.
The Whisky Sours and Harvey Wallbangers are standards for Aunt Hilda and Uncle Rex, but check with your bartender about ordering the newest and hippest liqueurs, cordials and other “malternatives” so that no one is disappointed.
Though it may seem like a daunting task, it’s well worth it to know your crowd and provide your guests with modish martinis and the coolest concoctions. Along with the right entertainment, satisfying the indulgences of your “jet set” can make or break your event. You may even get the credit for turning your family and friends on to their new favorite party drink!
Don’t know where to start? Well, you came to the right place.
To make things easier for you, we dropped in on Zachary, Sarah and Raschele at the Revolution Rock Bar in Boston’s financial district to conduct some research. While it was a tough assignment, we managed to compile a list of seven signature cocktails we believe will satisfy a variety of tastes and will keep your wedding reception talked about for a long time to come.
For those who may need a little pick-me-up at the beginning of the night, an Espresso Martini will definitely do the trick. If you like the taste and smell of coffee, this drink is perfect! Combine Stolichnaya coffee-flavored vodka, Kahlua, Bailey’s Irish Cream and espresso. Then add ice cubes, shake and strain into a glass, and top it off with 4 floating coffee beans. After drinking one of these, you’ll be wide awake and raring to go!
A lighter concoction that is sweet and tasty is a tall drink called the Lemonhead. To make it, add a splash of sour mix, a splash of Sprite, and a splash of pink lemonade to Smirnoff Citrus and a little Triple Sec, then strain it all into a chilled and sugar-rimmed glass.
One of the “berry” best drinks we sampled was called the Purple Haze. A wonderful blend of Stolichnaya Raspberry, Chambord, and cranberry juice topped off with a floater of champagne guarantees this drink to go down smooth but provide a pretty potent punch!
Another stand-out was the Berrytini. Now growing in popularity, this drink is made with Stolichnaya Raspberry, Sour Apple Rum and white cranberry juice. Shake and strain the mix into a martini glass, and you are in for a velvety treat.
A favorite of all of the cocktails tested was the Blaze of Glory (and not just because it’s also a song by Jon Bon Jovi)! It’s made with Effen Black Cherry Vodka, Chambord, Triple Sec, a splash of cranberry juice and sour mix. One rockin’ sip and you’ll be in heaven!
But we have to say that the drink that got the loudest applause was the Watermelon Martini. This combination of Midori, DeKuyper Watermelon Pucker, Citron Vodka and sour mix is the perfect choice for those who don’t like an overpowering taste of alcohol but still want the effect. Finally, there’s a martini that is classy, strong, and mouth-watering.
Last but not least we tasted the White Chocolate Truffle. This incredibly delicious, lip-smacking, dessert-like cocktail is made with Vanilla Vodka, Bailey’s Original, Frangelico, Godiva White Chocolate Liqueur, a splash of Kahlua, espresso and a little milk. As innocent as this drink tastes, don’t be fooled. It’s delicious decadence with a big bang!
We believe our picks for top honors will make your wedding reception an event to remember. However, for those who don’t like to take chances, some honorable mentions guaranteed to taste yummy and sound your alarm are the Mojito, the Margarita (available in many flavors), the Kamikaze, and the Woo Woo. And though they may not be new new, these cocktails are still tried and true.
Usually, on the night of the rehearsal dinner or early wedding day morning, the exchange of gifts takes place. The bridal party typically receives a token of gratitude, and the bride and groom also give gifts to one another. So, as if shopping for the love of your life wasn't hard enough, what could you possibly get him for his wedding present?
Photography by: Michael Moss
Hopefully, I can shed a bit of light on the subject and get your creative juices flowing.
Wedding Present Brainstorming for Him
Your future husband certainly has interests, which you should take full advantage of when it comes to locating his wedding present. What activities do you see him participating in? Is he completely obsessed when football season rolls around? Perhaps season tickets would be perfect for his wedding present.
Tap Into His Interests
Is your groom a technology fanatic, keeping his eye on all the latest gadgets and constantly tinkering with his iPhone? Take this fascination to heart and seek his wedding present at the local electronics shop, like Best Buy or Apple. Does he like to play video games? Well, then you're just in luck because there is a plethora of gaming accessories and software to consider. Keep a look out to how he reacts when a commercial for a new release is mentioned on TV.
Take Advantage of His Hobbies
Hobbies will come in handy when choosing his wedding present as well. Tap into the kinds of things that make him happy and you'll never go wrong. Perhaps he's a Babe Ruth fan and collects old baseball cards. What about his poker playing with friends over the weekend? Does he like to tune-up classic cars? Do you have a master griller in the house? Then, a new grill, personalized poker set, or vintage rookie cards from eBay might be just the kinds of things to consider for his wedding present.
The Music Man
For the man who enjoys his music, consider the joy of owning an MP3 player or iPod. Today, you can even combine music, movies, and phone use into one by choosing an iPod Touch - a product much similar to the iPhone.
Straight From the Heart
Sometimes, you just want to choose his wedding present because of sentimental reasons. Framed photos of the two of you together; a slideshow consisting of special moments; or a memento from the past can all become touching, heartfelt presents for your groom. Monogrammed or personalized or just plain shiny, a gold money clip is another great way to present your fiancé with a cherished wedding gift.
Not crazy about wedding cake? Serve up one of these delicious alternatives at your receptionBy: Kristen O'Gorman Klein; additional reporting by Emily Gardner
Maybe you’re not a fan of cake. Or maybe you love cake so much that you can’t choose just one type. Whatever the reason, couples today are looking beyond the traditional wedding cake when it comes to choosing reception desserts. Here, five options we love.
Cupcakes are a fun alternative to wedding cake. And they have a real advantage when it comes to picky eaters: You can mix and match a wide variety of flavors so that there’s something for everyone.
Another plus: Cupcake towers become instant décor and focal points of your reception room. “We typically work closely with the event coordinator to create something cohesive to the overall theme through color, aesthetic and quantity,” says Jenine Cravatt, president of Cupcakes Couture of Manhattan Beach, CA. “This includes not only designing the desserts in a specific color and design, but also incorporating props, linens and stationery pieces that fit in with the overall feel of the wedding.”Ice Cream
Guests of all ages will love a make-your-own-sundae bar. Splurge on gourmet ice cream for a truly memorable dessert. We love Cowabunga Ice Cream (and not just because of the name!), which is based out of New Jersey and ships nationally. Their secret recipe ensures that the ice cream isn’t over-aerated, resulting in creamier, denser ice cream than the competition. Their inspired flavors include New York Cheesecake, Cake Batter, Rice Krispy Treat (vanilla ice cream with marshmallows and rice krispies), Almond Joy (coconut ice cream with almonds and dark chocolate chips), and Red Velvet.Dessert Shots
These delectable treats are as beautiful as they are delicious! Choose varieties like strawberry shortcake, chocolate mousse, New York cheesecake, key lime pie… any dessert you’d like can be turned into a dessert shot. Create an impressive arrangement of dessert shots on a side table with 3 or 4 varieties. Guests will love how easy they are to eat while walking compared to a slice of cake on a plate. These creations are from the lovely ladies at Cupcakes Couture.Mini Desserts
As the last course during your reception, serve a platter of mini desserts—bite-size cheesecakes, French macarons, dessert shots, cookies, meringues, and cream puffs—to each table. Make sure there’s enough to go around! We recommend picking 4-5 items and serving large enough quantities so that all guests can have a taste of each if they desire. The treats pictured here are from Cupcakes Couture.
Do you have a major sweet tooth? Consider a dessert bar, which gives you (and your guests!) a chance to have a little bit of everything. Offer up bite-size treats, like mini cupcakes, cheesecakes, French macarons, creampuffs, cannolis, brownie bites, and chocolate-covered strawberries.
Choose your all-time favorites, or opt for the best of the season with these recommendations from Cupcakes Couture:
Summer: Fruit tarts, sponge cakes, and truffles featuring bold fruits like passion fruit, cherries, grapefruit and peaches.
Spring: Spotlight the season’s best fruits with desserts including citrus, melon, apricot, strawberry and pineapple. Another favorite: Creampuffs.
Fall: Pastries featuring rich flavors like pumpkin, apple pie, ginger spice and cranberry.
Winter: Think comfort: winter mint and rich chocolate.
You take your hobby seriously. Your spouse shares your obsession. Lolling on the beach sounds boring, and you can’t imagine what could keep you busy for a week on a traditional cruise. Well, take heart: There are honeymoon options out there to fit both your personality and your passion, so you can both spend your time doing what you love best. Here are just a few of the possibilities:
Following a spring wedding, what could be more fun for fans than a honeymoon full of baseball games? You could pick a location where spring training is in progress and hang out for a week, attending games, seeing the sights, and enjoying the weather. Or take the first steps toward a lifetime goal of attending a game in every Major League stadium. Granted, this can lead to a hectic schedule and a lot of traveling, but start with one area of the country and add more stadiums on future trips. Be sure to bring your camera to document your experience, and budget some extra cash for souvenirs (and peanuts and Cracker Jack!).
If riding the rails is a source of fascination for both you and your partner, consider a journey by train. The possibilities are almost endless, and you can enjoy luxurious surroundings almost anywhere in the world. Consider Rovos Rail in Africa, where you can book a luxury suite aboard the train; a Romance by Rail vacation on VIA Rail Canada, where the staff will even serve you breakfast in bed; the elegant Palace on Wheels train through Rajasthan, India; or take Amtrak’s Coast Starlight line from Los Angeles to Seattle for spectacular scenery. You can also take a series of shorter train rides, stopping off between routes to sightsee and wine and dine.
You’ve watched all those poker tournaments on TV and even joined in some hot games yourself. Now you and your partner can combine poker and traveling for an exciting honeymoon adventure you won’t soon forget. Poker cruises are all the rage right now, and most feature poker seminars, poker lessons, tournaments, and a separate poker room where you can play until dawn. Check out the World Poker Showdown for cruises and affordable poker in the Caribbean, or Card Player Cruises, which schedules poker cruises from Alaska to Southeast Asia. If you get tired of playing cards, disembark when the ship is docked and act like regular tourists!
If you’re not content to stop dancing after your first dance as man and wife, keep on dancing through the honeymoon! Options include programs such as Ballroom Vermont, where you stay at a lovely hotel and take ballroom dancing classes every day in foxtrot, waltz, swing, rumba, tango, and cha-cha. You can also get private lessons. Dance Camp Las Vegas is another possibility, where you’ll spend a week at a Vegas hotel and enjoy intensive dance instruction, plus a show with dance professionals and competitions. If you’d like to dance while afloat, investigate dance cruises, some of which have a particular focus such as swing or line dancing.
Surely you’ve heard of geocaching by now, and you may even be hard-core fans, so pack up your GPS system – and extra batteries – and head out for a geocaching honeymoon. You can pick one general location to geocache (San Francisco, for example) or try your treasure-hunting skills at several spots around the world. You can even geocache from a port where your cruise ship docks. Need details? See www.geocaching.com for instructions, clues, and upcoming worldwide geocaching events. For some heavy-duty caching, plan to attend GeoWoodstock, the once-a-year gathering that has become the world’s largest geocaching event. (This event is usually held in May, and the venue changes from year to year.)
We all like to eat, but what could be more romantic than a culinary honeymoon where you do the cooking? Contact a major cooking school in the United States or abroad, then sign up for a cooking class. For example, the Institute of Culinary Education in New York City offers three- to five-day classes in everything from pastry making to ethnic cuisine, and you can spend your time off seeing the city. Or book a reservation at a culinary resort such as the Inn at Essex in Vermont, home to the New England Culinary Institute. Luxury cooking vacations are also available, so you can learn to create the cuisines of Spain, Portugal, Italy, France, or Thailand by traveling there and sampling each city’s culture along with its food.
In most parts of the world, food and wine go naturally together, but if you are a connoisseur specifically interested in wine, there are plenty of honeymoon options available. Check online for a list of fabulous wine cruises around the world that include wine education, private winemaker dinners, wine tasting, and visits to top-rated portside wineries. Or plan your own trip to one of the world’s best-known wine regions: Napa and Sonoma, California (be sure to take a ride on the Napa Wine Train); Tuscany, Italy (time your visit around one of the local festivals); the Marlborough region of New Zealand (known especially for its Sauvignon Blanc); France (you can use Paris as your home base); Argentina (see the Mendoza Province wine country); or South Africa (plan to stop in Stellenbosch, Paarl, or Constantia).
If we don’t have to convince you that birding is a fabulous way to spend your time, then a birding honeymoon is for you. You can do it practically anywhere, so it’s easy to combine a birding trip with sightseeing and exploring the local cultural attractions. You can get an all-inclusive package to a foreign destination or sign on with a stateside birding tour group and add some more North American species to your life list. WINGS Birding Tours offers worldwide trips plus specialized excursions like the Birds and Music tour to Austria, the Birds and Shakespeare Festival tour to Oregon, the Birds and Art tour to Provence, and the Birds and Medieval Monasteries tour of Romania. Accommodations are not likely to be luxurious, but they’ll be comfortable and you’ll have a blast.
Your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day of your life, but even with months of planning and the best intentions something may go wrong. (In fact, something probably will go wrong.)
If you’re prepared for it, a small incident can be averted from being a huge disaster. Enlist the help of your bridesmaids and family members and pack a day of emergency kit to solve any pesky problems that could arise.
A wedding day kit may sound corny but even if you don’t use any item in it, you’ll feel comfortable knowing it’s there if you need it—and if you do need it, the kit could just become your best accessory.
Be a Good Girl Scout
One of the most important tips to remember is not to leave making the kit to the last minute. The few weeks before your wedding you’ll be busy putting together the big event, the emergency kit is something that can be done almost as soon as you start planning your wedding. None of the items expire or need to be refrigerated so it’s the perfect task to get done early and cross off the list.
Before you start gathering supplies, think about what type of wedding your having: is it indoors or outdoors, large or small, formal or casual? This could determine what items you’ll have in your kit and how much of each item.
Think of the Dress
For most brides, the most expensive (and beautiful) aspect of your big day is probably your wedding dress. Be sure to include a needle and thread to match your dress, a lint brush, baby powder, a safety pin and fabric wipes or a piece of chalk in your emergency kit. These items are inexpensive to purchase and the perfect solution to a stain or rip in the dress.
Think of your Health
On the day of, the stress of it all may begin to take it’s toll. Recent bride Michelle Feduska says the stress of planning the wedding and the importance of the big day could make for an upset stomach or a headache. “Pack an antacid and aspirin in the bag just in case.”
Think of your Hair
Although most brides enlist the help of a hair stylist to create the perfect wedding day hair, unless you’ve paid the person to stay on for your reception you’ll need to make sure you have a brush, comb, bobby pins and hairspray for any touch-ups you’ll need throughout the night.
Think of your Make-Up
To keep your make-up perfectly intact, pack a straw to sip any pre-wedding beverages from and keep lipstick in place; tissues and eye drops to get rid of the aftermath any joyful tears; and a nail file for any pesky manicure issues.
Think of the Extras
Other easy to pack items include earring backs, band-aids (think blisters), breath mints and an extra pair of pantyhose. One of the most overlooked but essential pieces is a list of vendor phone numbers in the unusual case that the florist or officiant doesn’t show up.
Don’t let packing your emergency kit stress you out over the problems that could arise on your wedding, revel in the fact that you’ll be prepared for anything and nothing can ruin your day!
You asked and now he's answered! Read on for Celebrity Wedding Planner David Tutera's thoughtful suggestions and advice for the lovely ladies of Project Wedding. Don't miss him on WeTV's "My Fair Wedding," airing Sundays at 10 p.m.!
My friend Amy is engaged right now and is in a terrible situation with her parents. Her parents had a really nasty divorce about 10 years ago and absolutely HATE each other! Their wedding will be the first time they have seen each other since the divorce, and Amy is really stressing about them getting into a huge fight at the ceremony or reception. Have you encountered a situation like this before? Do you have any tips on how to handle this? - Kelly
Feuding parents are a common problem in the bridal world. For your friend's situation, I would recommend that she set up a private meeting over coffee and tea to sit with her parents (together or separately - whichever she feels will be the most helpful) and talk about the wedding and any concerns or expectations she has. If her parents have any special requests, such as the need to be seated at separate tables (or separate corners), this will be a good time for them to bring up those concerns as well and set the ground rules. This way everything is out in the open, the air is clear and your friend can focus on herself and her new husband instead of her parents' feud on her wedding day! Her parents should want the same thing for her as well.
How would you word invitations where the bride's parents are divorced and her father and his wife are paying for the wedding (mother is not remarried) ... the groom's parents are both deceased but he has a step-mother? Thank you! Alison
To show that while the bride's father and stepmother are paying for the wedding but she is only Mr. X's daughter, the invite should be worded as: Mr. and Mrs. Thompson request the honor of your presence at the marriage of Mr. Thompson's daughter X to __________etc.
What advice do you have for those of us who are done with our own wedding planning, but still addicted to the whole thing? Since my wedding I have wanted nothing more than to become a wedding planner. However, I'm being told by friends and family that it's a big mistake. What are the pros and cons of actually becoming a wedding planner?
If you have finished your own happily ever after but still have wedding fever, start or join a wedding blog! Wedding blogs are so popular right now and there are hundreds of sites dedicated to giving brides-to-be planning tips, tricks and advice. If you are looking into becoming a planner, do your research on what it takes to plan and execute someone else's big day; it is very different than planning your own! Dealing with clients and the behind the scenes work can be difficult and often very stressful but I love being able to create and share in the most special day of someone's life. It is a very time consuming profession but if you love it, you are sure to succeed. Start small and see if this industry is for you, good luck! You can also try to get an internship with a wedding planning company so that you can get the feel and see if it's right for you.
My fiance and I made a rule because most of his family members just "date" around and have a new girl/guy every week, so do you think its rude that if they haven't been "seriously" dating for over 4 months that they don't get a "plus 1"? This rule goes for everyone on our guest list, not just his side and keep in mind that this mostly goes towards the people that are between 20-27 years of age. We can't afford to pay for their weekly fling ;) -BlingBride22
Deciding who will receive the coveted "plus one" is a tricky situation. Many guests look forward to bringing a date to a wedding and many guests won't feel comfortable dancing or mingling by themselves. For the bride and groom however, this means having a potential stranger at a very personal event and for brides on a budget it can be tough to swallow.
The best thing to do is to be as generous as you can but create a blanket rule, as you have done, and stick to it. You want your loved ones to relax and enjoy themselves, but it is important to draw the line somewhere. Remember, you know your guests best of all and you need to feel comfortable.
Who should be invited to the rehearsal dinner? We have a bridal party of 10, plus us, our parents, grandparents ... that makes 17 total. Then are we supposed to invite spouses or significant others of the BP, out of towners, the priest? This is going to total upwards of 30 people! Then to do it again the next night with even more people = lots of $$!! ---FSUKristi
Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner is hosted by the groom's parents. The bride, groom and both sets of parents and grandparents attend, as do any immediate family members and their partners or spouses. The officiant and his or her spouse are invited, as are the wedding party members and their spouses.
Beyond that, the guest list for the rehearsal dinner is up to the host and hostess.
It is nice to invite out of towners as they have traveled a long way to attend your event and should be welcomed to the wedding with a dinner. If you want to keep the guest list a little smaller, host a cocktail party for out-of-towners and keep the rehearsal dinner to just those actually appearing in the wedding (and their spouses of course).
What do brides need to know about having a destination wedding outside of the country, and what are the best ways to save money on a DW? (ie - getting hitched in the states the day before and having a "vow" ceremony) -Crystal from Houston, Texas
Destination weddings are a great way to have a personal and unique wedding where the emphasis is on relaxation, celebration and shared experiences. Brides should be aware that due to all the transportation, guests will likely need to take off of work and spend a considerable amount of money to attend your event so understand if guests are not able to make the trip.
The easiest way to plan a destination wedding is to select a location like a hotel or resort that includes an event coordinator in your package. These professionals are extremely helpful in finding local vendors and helping you plan your travels, so take advantage of them! To help cut costs, choose an over the top location like an Oceanside ceremony or an ornate ballroom; this will save you money on expensive decorations!
The colors you choose for your big day reflect your personality and style. You can create a sophisticated environment or a whimsical escape. Colors can influence moods and exude sensuality, coziness, earthiness and youthfulness. With tasteful variations from vibrant to pastel and shimmery to matte, your wedding day colors speak volumes about you and what you hold dear. Whether you choose your favorite colors for your wedding or select hues to complement the current season, we have compiled a list of some wedding color choices and what they say about you.
Black: A conservative choice, black complements almost any color, especially lighter hues. Dignified and mysterious, black denotes sexiness and sophistication with a modern twist. Black is classic, never trendy, alluding to a modern bride. As an opulent choice, black is timelessly elegant.
Photo by OKRFOTO
White: Symbolic of purity and innocence, white has strong connotations of youth and perfection. White aficionados seek excellence and enlightenment, as simplicity and recognition are constant ventures. White is a glorious hue (or lack thereof) that denotes a clean palette or fresh start for those who seek serenity and peace.
Photo by Geoff White Photographers
Red: A passionate, romantic choice, red is impulsive and outgoing. Depicted as zealous and ambitious, red symbolizes love and rage. Whether it denotes joy, celebration, happiness or prosperity, red elicits a dramatic response from both sides of the emotional spectrum. Red lovers tend to be restless and optimistic and go along with people with uncomplicated natures. A powerful selection, red is sure to represent a fiery hostess with 'look at me' flair.
Photo by Lisa Lefkowitz
Pink: A softer, girlish choice, pink is the sweeter side of red. A delicate hue, pink represents a sensitive heart that is affectionate and nurturing. The bride surrounded with pink has a maternal grace and compassion and a desire for protection or shelter. The rosy hue fan may also have a strong personality, but one that is willing to share.
Photo: NBarrett Photography, Stationery: Southern Fried Paper
Orange: Spontaneous and daring, brides who choose orange are bold. Because orange is a happy and trendy hue, orange enthusiasts tend to be popular, have excessive energy and are part of a large social circle. From a bright and happy backdrop to an exotic, spicy richness, brides who prefer orange tend to be fearless and curious, with a zest for life.
Photo by Delbarr Moradi, Floral Design by Crimson Horticulture Rarities
Yellow: The color of a sunny day, yellow denotes happiness and hope. Exuding warmth and vitality and usually possessing a great sense of humor, people who love yellow have cheerful spirits and optimistic values. You tend to look forward to the future and are intellectual, creative and idealistic. Yellow represents enlightenment and spirituality, lending itself as a great color on your day of matrimony.
Photo by Pat Dy Photography
Green: Green shades symbolize life, freshness, nature and fertility. A common choice for eco-friendly brides, green shows that you value your health and the environment. A harmonized and balanced color, green is a mixture of warm yellow and cool blue, just like its admirers. A calming and tranquil hue, brides who select green are affectionate, frank and responsible. You seek stability and balance, yet remain fiercely principled and refined.
Photo by Fresh In Love Photography
Blue: Soothing, compassionate and cool, blue is the color of tranquility and royalty. Blue belles are deliberate, introspective, conservative and patient, tending to be sensitive and wise. Serene and cool, blue denotes cautious partners who are faithful but require a calm and harmonious existence. From watery aqua to a deep shade of midnight, blue can be soft and sweet or strong and bold.
Photo by Jemma Keech
Purple: Often associated with both royalty and luxury, purple is a passionate color. Choosing purple symbolizes dignity, tolerance and value. Violet lovers tend to be unconventional and observant, with a multifaceted personality. Tolerant and witty, purple devotees are likely to achieve authoritative positions. From light lavender and lilac buffs, who tend to be charming, witty and cultured, to deep eggplant lovers, who are creative and talented, purple can be provocative or sweet.
Photos by Orange Turtle Photography
Brown: A natural, neutral color of the earth, brown represents wholesomeness and dependability. Symbolizing comfort and contentment, brown represents honesty. Just right for your wedding day, brown is substantial, steady and responsible. From rich chocolate and dark coffee to cream and soft beige, this earthy shade can be intense or pale, dramatic or modest.
Photo by Siegel Thurston
The aforementioned color synopses are not strict rules or character definitions, but rather are designed as an indicator of what is important to you. Whether you select a spicy orange to match the falling autumn leaves or a peony pink simply because it is your favorite color, choose what looks and feels good to you. Your natural selection is indicative of your true self and innate style.
You’re getting married and your ultimate goal is to make your wedding day 100% perfect. The last thing you want is for your friends and family to have a terrible time and spend the next 50 years whispering about the things that should have been done differently.
Photo by Angelica Glass
Most people have attended at least one wedding that was really bad. By knowing the common complaints, you can ensure that your wedding is a beautiful experience for you and your guests.
1. Not Knowing Where to Go
One of the most common complaints of wedding guests is being unsure of where to go or what to do. This is usually accompanied by awkward moments of looking right and left, hoping that someone will step in and direct them to the correct area. To avoid this problem, enlist help by designating someone as the “point person.”
Have your point person greet guests and let them know where to go or what’s happening next. This way, your guests will not be left wondering where they should sit and what they should do.
2. Left without a Ride
For guests in the wedding, a common complaint is being left without a ride. Many brides and grooms arrange transportation from the hotel to the wedding, but they neglect to provide transportation from the reception back to the hotel. If you can arrange transportation, do so. If not, make sure that there is a way for your wedding guests to call a cab, catch a bus or find some other way to leave the reception.
If necessary, print up cards with phone numbers or other important information. You certainly don’t want to leave your guests wondering how in the world they will make it back to the hotel or home.
3. The Speech That Never Ends
Speeches can be charming, witty, funny and enjoyable for the wedding guests to hear, but they can also be way too long, boring and conducive to fits of dozing. Make sure that your speech conveys the emotions you’re feeling, but keep it as short and sweet as possible. A good speech should only last a few minutes and should be refreshing for guests to hear.
Gently pass this information to all those giving speeches at your wedding. While you may appreciate the Maid of Honor’s 15-minute trip down memory lane, your guests probably won’t.
4. A Table of Strangers
Most wedding planners, brides-to-be or maids of honor decide which guests should sit at which tables. This part of the planning is very important because guests will feel uncomfortable at a table with people they don’t know. Imagine sitting at a table where everyone knows everyone else – except for you. Or worse, imagine if no one knows anyone else at their table!
Make sure to plan the seats wisely so that everyone can converse and have a great time at the reception. You should make sure that everyone will know at least one other person at their table well enough to feel comfortable chatting with him or her. This will keep your guests happy and will be one more step toward the perfect wedding!
5. Time Between the Wedding and Reception
While the bride and groom are extremely busy trying to get their things together, their affairs in order and everything else, they probably aren’t thinking too much about the time between the wedding and the reception. The guests, however, will have to find a way to kill that time, and if it’s a long time, they may be stuck twiddling their thumbs.
An hour or two is about the perfect amount of time between the wedding and reception. If you must, have a few helpers who can help you get everything together so that you can be on your way sooner. If you’re unable to hold the events within an hour or two of each other, try to make other accommodations for your guests.
Can your reception hall or location be opened for waiting guests? Can you have a light snack prepared for those guests who will be waiting? By making sure that your guests are occupied, entertained and taken care of, you will be ensuring that they have a great time at your wedding!
While it’s really difficult to make sure that every single detail is perfect, you can take care of the most common wedding guest complaints. If the major things are under control, things will flow much more easily on your wedding day, and it will be remembered for its beauty and joy rather than for the things that went wrong!
If you will have a beautiful little flower girl and a dapper young ring bearer in your wedding, they will certainly become one of the highlights of the ceremony! If you prepare your little helpers correctly and ensure that they know their roles, they will be more confident and ready to walk down the aisle before you. Here are some tips and important information on flower girl and ring bearer roles which will help you prepare the youngest members of your wedding party?
Photo by April B. Photography
Choosing Your Flower Girl and Ring Bearers
Keep in mind that the younger your flower girl and ring bearer is, the higher the risk of a crisis. Young kids are frightened easily and may decide at the last minute that they are not walking down the aisle, they need to go to the bathroom or they'd rather watch a video. If possible, choose slightly older children to act as the ring bearer and flower girl, so they will better understand their roles and will not be as afraid.
The flower girl follows the last bridesmaid, carrying a basket of flower petals to scatter across the aisle. She is usually a girl with a special connection to the bride and groom - whether related or family friend, and is usually between the ages of 4 and 10.
Typically, flower girls wear beautiful dresses - either small versions of the bridesmaid dresses or the wedding dress. Typically, brides have the flower girl wear a ring of flowers in her hair or a tiny tiara. After walking down the aisle, your flower girl will take her seat to watch the rest of the wedding.
Your little ring bearer comes behind the flower girl, carrying a pillow with the wedding rings tied to it. He is usually related to the bride and groom or the son of close family friends. The ring bearer is also usually between the ages of 4 and 10.
Many brides prefer that their ring bearer wear little versions of the groom's tuxedo, but you can have your ring bearer wear whatever you want. From slacks and a little velvet jacket to suits which match the groomsmen - he's sure to look absolutely adorable no matter what you put him in! Your ring bearer can either stand next to the groomsmen or be seated with his family depending upon his age.
Tips for Your Ring Bearer and Flower Girl
If the ring bearer and flower girl are prone to restlessness, have them sit with their families rather than standing for the wedding. You can even provide them with a coloring book or something else to keep them occupied for the wedding.
If your ring bearer is fairly young, you may want to put fake rings on the pillow and have your best man hold the real rings. Also, if needed, have the parents bring a change of clothing - most young boys don't want to stay in stiff clothing for too long!
By preparing your ring bearer and flower girl for their roles, you can ensure that the wedding goes smoothly and that they understand what they're supposed to do during the ceremony.
No doubt that in planning your wedding, you’ve spent a bundle on a sumptuous feast, a great band, and the honeymoon of your dreams. And though you want your wedding photos to look like those in magazines, you’re probably also looking for ways to save money without sacrificing good taste (and without anyone noticing). Is that even possible? Absolutely! Spend your money where it counts most (like on your gown!). The savings will come in handy when you put together your own simple yet elegant centerpieces.
The best centerpieces are those that draw the eye to the beauty of the entire table. When arranging your table displays, remember that size matters! Your centerpiece shouldn’t be too obvious or overpower the place settings. Think of it as putting together an outfit. For the best results, everything on your table should complement everything else. (Tip: Decorate using an odd number of items.)
Photo by Melissa Copeland Photography, Flowers by J. Sims Floral Design
Here are some great ideas for glamorous, low-cost table decorations. Before making your decision, consider the style of your reception, the time of day or night, the season, and the mood you wish to set.
If your wedding has a theme, it can be lots of fun to use items associated with it for your centerpiece. For example, if you are getting married at the beach, you can fill a big, round fishbowl halfway with sand and beautiful shells. If your reception is close to the winter holidays, you may like a big, white bowl filled with silver and/or gold ornaments. And if your wedding is on New Year’s Eve, a container of sparkly wands, pinwheels, noisemakers, and festive blowouts will allow your guests to ring in your new life and the New Year when the time is right!
For a personal touch (and to make your folks cry), think nostalgia! Choose two medium-sized silver or gold picture frames for each table. Put a picture of you when you were a child in one and a picture of your new husband as a child in the other. Next, set up the frames facing away from one another, and then behind the frames and around the bottom, place greens, sparkly garlands, loose ribbon, or a topiary to hide the backs of the frames and to complete this sweet ensemble. You may also arrange 3-5 frames in a cluster and then fill them with your favorite family photos. This will encourage your guests to mingle as they walk around to view all the pictures!
Here’s a choice that will also tease your guests and make them drool! Fill a clear decanter with assorted candies or chocolates wrapped in silver or gold (or your favorite colored) paper. As the night progresses, your guests will enjoy the design and can snack on this centerpiece as temptation becomes too much to bear!
Another new choice in centerpieces is cupcakes! Simply use a small cake tier, place it in the center of the table, and fill each level with cupcakes topped with your choice of white or colored frosting and sprinkled with sparkling sugar. Maybe the baker in your family will offer to make them as a wedding gift to you. This simple and delicious idea will be a big hit with your guests. I mean, who doesn’t like cupcakes?!
The Natural Look
In keeping with a more natural or “green” scheme, wildflowers are a great choice. Simply gather bunches of dried flowers and various stems and leaves, and then hang them over the edges of wide baskets or arrange them in odd-shaped jars, old water pitchers, or kettles. To add some shimmer, try spraying silver or gold spray paint on some of the branches or leaves (or pinecones, if in season).
Citrus is also a nice organic choice. Just fill a large, clear bowl with one type of fruit (usually lemons, limes, or oranges) and coordinate your place cards, china, or glassware in the same color as your fruit selection. To add a little more detail to this clever choice, wrap each lemon, lime, or orange with the same color ribbon, tying a small, tight bow on each.
You can also arrange a single fruit choice in tall, square, or cylindrical clear glass vases. For an extra boost, insert some long-stemmed greens or flowers in the center.
Another way of displaying your fruit choice is by slicing it up! Fill tall, clear vases with lots of quarter-inch slices of lemons or limes, add water, and you’re done! This look can be changed up by using shorter vases and topping off each with a fresh flower. This option not only looks sophisticated, but it gives off a great aroma!
Although a little more expensive, the simplest and most elegant décor usually involves fresh-cut flowers. The best thing about flowers is that there are so many types, sizes, and colors, and there are just as many ways to display your favorite ones. For example, you may choose yellow roses for your spring wedding, lilies for a black-and-white evening affair, or daisies for a relaxed afternoon soiree.
A single red rose standing alone in a tall, clear vase surrounded by a handful of rose petals around the base is the statement of the uncomplicated and sophisticated bride. Change the rose to a gardenia for a less formal look, or replace the vases with old, water-filled champagne bottles to add antique charm.
For a more creative and romantic look, circle 5-10 flowered teacups and saucers in the center of your table. Then fill each teacup with water and add your choice of flower to sit on top. In the center of the grouping, simply add a small vase full of the same flower, and fin! A great way to get your family more involved (if you dare) is to ask aunts, cousins, and grandparents to lend you their china teacups. The variety of patterns will provide much to talk about!