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White wedding cakes:
White wedding cakes are elegant and timeless and fit in at any wedding, from a formal, black tie affair to a civil reception to a casual ceremony on the beach. In recent years it's become fashionable to showcase elaborately decorated wedding cakes in every imaginable color, but white wedding cakes have remained the standard for sophistication. All the fanciful baking and decorating techniques and flourishes seen on trendy colored cakes can also be done readily on white wedding cakes, and white-on-white embellishments can make a particularly stunning statement on a cake of any shape or size.
White wedding cakes - a little history:
It's commonly believed that white wedding cakes, like wedding gowns, were originally meant as a symbol of the bride's purity. Actually, white wedding cakes first came into fashion among Great Britain's wealthy upper class in the 18th and 19th centuries, since they were the only people at that time who could afford enough sugar needed to produce a large wedding cake. (It may be hard to believe now, but sugar was once considered a luxury item.) Once the processing and price of refined sugar became more reasonable and sugar was more accessible to the middle class, many brides wanted the same white wedding cakes that rich people had enjoyed.
The seeming simplicity of white wedding cakes actually makes them adaptable to a wide variety of styles and designs. Couples who want a retro look can't do any better than classic tiered white wedding cakes. White wedding cakes can be round or square, stacked or tiered. Cover the layers in sleek rolled fondant icing, and white wedding cakes immediately become modern masterpieces.
White wedding cakes and fondant:
Rolled fondant - a combination of sugar, corn syrup and gelatin that's placed over the cake like a pie crust, then trimmed and decorated - can also be used to make virtually any kind of decoration. Pearls, ribbons, flowers, piping and basket-weave or other accents are some of the popular trimmings seen on white wedding cakes. An abundance of detail may look a bit over the top on colored cakes, but on white wedding cakes different textures and designs combine beautifully and tastefully.
White-on-white designs on white wedding cakes create a gorgeous cake surface similar to an embellished wedding gown. In fact, inspiration for some white wedding cakes comes from the bride's gown, and it's even possible, if working far enough in advance with a creative pastry chef, to design white wedding cakes that replicate aspects of the dress.
Of course, white wedding cakes don't have to be all white all the time - especially on the inside. One of the benefits of white wedding cakes is that they "go" with any cake color or flavor. Couples sometimes choose cake layers that make a striking contrast with the icing on white wedding cakes, like chocolate, while others opt for more traditional white or yellow cakes.
Winter weddings are an excellent opportunity for white wedding cakes. Stylishly decorated white wedding cakes are a terrific complement to a snowy outdoors. For a little contrast, add silvery accents or frosted sugar to create a stunning, multi-tiered winter wonderland.
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What's in store for Fall 2010 wedding fashion? The Project Wedding team is headed to the National Bridal Market in Chicago, March 21st through the 23rd, to photograph and report on all of the collections you can't wait to see!
Watter and Watters
312 Bridesmaids by Alyce Designs
We're looking forward to bringing you coverage of the following designers, plus much more:
Essense of Australia
Lo-Ve-La by Liz Fields
Private Lable by G
Rina di Montella
Watters and Watters
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Splurge: Silver Filigree Diamante Vintage Headband $235.00 at etsy
Steal: The Ritz Bridal Headband $82.00 at etsy
Splurge: Rhinestone Flowers and vintage petal headband $70 at etsy
Steal: Versailles rhinestone headpiece $15 at etsy
OMG...those are all just so gorgeous to stare at!! great finds!!
GREAT finds! I love that last one!
I just ordered mine! It's going to look like this on
but the material looks like this
I'll post pics when I get it! It's from Luciabella1 on etsy!
I adore that first one!
I love that, jennypaul!!! Very vintage/greek!
I love that last one that Wildefirej29 posted! It's beautiful and what a great deal!
Jenny - I love the headband that you ordered. I can't wait to see pics when it's finished!
I love them... What a great post wildfire!
I love the last two you posted.
LOVE LOVE the steal!!! :)
i love the last one!!!! super pretty. i have to stop looking at these... :(
PWer ShellS had a romantic beach wedding in Maui.
At her gorgeous outdoor reception, she had large ferns and twigs inside tall etched vases, surrounded by four smaller square vases containing full arrangements of ivory mums, hydrangeas, and roses. Starfish placed around each table added to the beach theme.
Each guests place setting had a linen napkin tied up with an simple sea foam green canvas ribbon, met in the center by elegant place cards in DIY calligraphy script.
Calligraphy by ShellS
Place cards by Sycamore Street Press
Florals by Della Peacock of Dellables
Photography by ShellS and groom
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Here is a entire ensemble for under $500 from ONE store..
Not only can you shop within a budget but you don't have to go to a million different stores to find everything.
This Pickup gown is beautiful and looks great on almost any body type.
And to accent the pickup is a long cathedral veil, it gives it a bold and very bridal look to it.
To finish it off these beautiful shoes that you can get in any color.
I picked very simple jewelry for this ensemble because it really didn't need much more.
Dress $249.99 + $15 shipping = $264.99
Veil $69.99 + $6.95 = $76.94
Shoes $59.99 + $6.95 = $65.95
Earrings & necklace set $20
total = $427.88
Earrings & Necklace set:
1. Don't be superbride.
You're smart, you're focused, you're energetic. But you're still one woman. Superbrides—those engaged gals who devote every waking hour to wedding planning, brushing aside all offers of help—eventually run out of steam and end up near the big day with favors unassembled, invitations unstamped, shoes undyed, heads uncounted. How to avoid this fate? Call in your trusty sidekicks before you're really scrambling. Here's a little secret: People want to help. So do yourself a huge favor and accept their kind offers. Then, once you've got a cadre of pals stuffing your envelopes, sit back and have your toenails polished. You deserve it.
2. Don't have a cash bar.
Forcing guests to reach into their sequinned clutches every time they want to enjoy a celebratory champagne or a refreshing gin and tonic is just plain rude. Think of it like this: You invite people to a party—your wedding, for heaven's sake!—and then you ask them to shell out for part of the fun. It's a recipe for bad feelings! Keep in mind that you don't have to have a top-shelf bar; in fact, there are plenty of other ways to serve and save. You could offer wine and beer only or create a signature cocktail. You might have an open bar during the cocktail hour only and serve wine at dinner. Ask your caterer to suggest lower-cost options.
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3. Don't include registry info on invites.
Registering is a good thing for everyone. When gift buyers are steered to the things you actually want and need, it saves them time—and saves you from having to contend with a pile of cut-crystal candy bowls. Registry info, however, does not belong on your wedding invitation. Why? Giving wedding gifts is never mandatory, though the vast majority of attendees will naturally want to do just that. Best way to get the message across is by word of mouth on the part of your mother or your bridesmaids or on bridal-shower invites.
4. Don't be bossy with your bridesmaids.
In the most traditional sense, your bridesmaids, in particular your maid of honor, are there to stand up for you as you take your vows, to act as witnesses to this solemn event. Somewhere along the line, bridesmaids have become, well, more like maids, and to an extent there's nothing wrong with that. These are your sisters, cousins, best friends, future in-laws, and there's something sort of sweet about the way they gather around you, wearing finery you picked out, helping you pin up your bustle, holding your flowers. But some brides ask (or worse, demand) far more: They expect their bridesmaids to shell out for needlessly expensive outfits, to run endless errands, to wear their hair just so, to attend (and buy gifts for) countless all-for-you parties. Don't let this happen. Be sensitive to how you'd feel if the tables were turned. Gifts to the maids are always welcome, of course, but a little kindness and care go a lot further than any pashmina shawl or monogrammed trinket.
5. Don't make guests cool their heels for hours between ceremony and reception.
I once attended a lovely wedding in a quaint wooden church in a rural area. Beautiful. Then I checked my invite. What?! The reception was scheduled for much later in the day, at a location that was a good 45-minute drive away. Sometimes it can be hard to plan a perfectly seamless schedule, especially if your heart is set on sites that are wildly inconvenient to one another or if your ceremony and reception times don't line up. But do your best. If you really must wed at, say, your childhood church, confine your search for reception locales to local spots. If that's truly impossible or if you can't avoid a time gap, provide transportation and/or a comfortable spot for guests to hang out while they wait.
6. Don't plan a difficult destination wedding.
Ah, the lure of the exotic faraway wedding—you can just picture it, can't you? Exchanging vows on top of a volcano in Hawaii… or how about in a ski gondola or on a majestic slope in the Austrian Alps? Hmmm, nice idea, but will Grandma Gert be up to the trip? Will your college pals drain their bank accounts to get there? No, and no. Destination weddings can be terrific, but as with any wedding, it's not only about you, it's also about your guests. While some friends and families welcome—and can afford—an Alpine adventure, others will end up resenting the cost and hassle or simply decline the invitation. Make it easy for everyone by (a) choosing a well-traveled locale, (b) planning well in advance and (c) providing information and help (securing group rates, for example). Bon voyage!
7. Don't go DIY crazy.
You know that clever bride who sewed her own dress and designed and made her own invitations? Or the one who baked her own three-tiered cake? Everyone's in awe of the girls who can do these things, and I say good for them—if they did it because they really, really wanted to, and if they managed not to get stressed out. The point of these projects is to use your craft/sewing/baking/designing skills to save money and to put a one-of-a-kind stamp on some aspect of the wedding. But if you are really not the hands-on type, don't drive yourself crazy hot-gluing tulle and folding fiddly favors until 3 a.m. Do only what you can, and beg, borrow or buy the rest.
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8. Don't let your parents (or his!) steamroller your invite list.
Back in the old days, when parents footed the bill and brides were barely out of high school, the invite list was more Mom and Dad's idea of a good party than the bride and groom's. Times have changed, but that doesn't stop some pushy parents from insisting on having the whole book club/golf club/garden club/Elk's Lodge at your wedding. The best advice is to brush up on your negotiating skills and start early. Once you have a budget in mind, you can rough out the number of guests it's feasible to invite. Then ask both sets of parents for invite lists, in order of preference, so you can cut from the bottom if necessary. Stay in charge!
9. Don't forget about your fiancé.
Doesn't sound like something you'd do, but plenty of women surprise themselves. We've got our heads stuck in a glossary of floral terms (tussy mussy? anemone?) when all our men know is that there will be flowers at the wedding. We're neglecting our regular TV and pizza night in favor of dress fittings. Hey, listen up: You're not just having a wedding, you're getting married—to that guy over there, sitting on the couch, munching a cold slice of pizza. Put aside the bridal to-do lists and go give him a hug, would you? All kidding aside, the engagement can be a stressful period for a couple. This is not just party-planning time, it's major life transition time. So talk to each other. Talk about your life together. Talk about what color you want to paint the bedroom, what you want to name the puppy you'll adopt—whatever. Anything but flowers and crab-cake appetizers, please.
10. Don't bow to bridal peer pressure.
It's insidious. You just got back from a friend's wedding and you're battling the green monster: She had an eight-piece band (while you booked an inexpensive DJ). She had Dom Perignon, you're having a nice sparkling wine. Well, stop right there. If you scramble your plans to best hers (or anyone else's), two things will happen: 1) You'll go over budget and 2) you'll hate yourself for it. Worse, you'll veer off the course you set for yourself when you imagined your own dream wedding. And you'll hate yourself for that, too. She made her wedding hers. And you're making your wedding yours. And that's an “I do!”
DIY Card Box (With Instructions)
Inspiration: its.nicsknack's photo frame card box My Finished Cardbox (Without Photos):
Yeah, I know I'm not officially engaged yet. However, not having classes this semester makes for a LOT of free time. I went to Walmart this afternoon to go grocery shopping, and I picked up the materials to start my DIY Cardbox.
PART 1 - Construction of the Box - COMPLETE
Materials Needed to Construct the Frame of the Box
4 Solid Wood Frames (I got mine for $4 each at Walmart - they were 8x11 - I wouldn't go smaller than that)
8 Utility Door Hinges (I used Bulldog Hardware 1" D-90 Utility Hinges from Walmart in the tool aisle - 2 pk for 99 cents)
Screwdriver (regular is fine, but power is much better)
Hammer & Nail (or drill bit)
STEP 1 - Take the back and the glass out of the frames so that you only are working with the frames. Draw two circles using the holes of the hinge. The hinge should be on the VERY outer edge of the frame, but should not fall off of the frame. The edge of the hinge should like up with the inside part of the frame (see Step 4 for what I mean by this).
STEP 2 - Using a drill bit or a hammer and nail (then a screwdriver), drill holes for the screws so it's easier to put together. You should do this for three frames. You'll want to wait to do it for the 4th frame so that you can make sure it will all fit together.
STEP 3 - Attach the hinge to frame 1.
It should look like this:
STEP 4 - Attach Frame 1 and 2. Remember that if you drilled the holes already, it will be MUCH easier to put together.
It should look like this when attached:
STEP 5 - Attach Frame 2 to Frame 3.
STEP 6: Set Frame 4 on the ground, and then set the three frames together on top of it so you can mark the holes in the brackets onto Frame 4. Then drill your holes onto Frame 4. Attach Frame 4 to Frame 1 and Frame 3.
STEP 7 - Put the glass, (pictures can go in now too if you have them ready), and glass back in the frames.
STEP 8 - Here is the finished frame (prior to decoration and putting the top and bottom on):
PART 2 - PAINTING THE FRAME - COMPLETE
It took me FOREVER to paint the frames, and it was because of the materials I used. I picked up these two bottles of spray paint from Walmart:
DO NOT use the Clear Glaze on top of the Flat Black. It stripped some of the color, and I had to repaint the entire thing!! Here is the finished paint job:
PART 3 - CONSTRUCTING THE TOP AND BOTTOM OF THE CARD BOX - COMPLETE
Materials for Base
1 Sheet of Plywood (9.5 in x 9.5 in) (I used two because it was too thin for the screws)
Lazy Susan (got mine at Home Depot in the cabinet accessory aisle - 6.99)
Screwdriver & Screws
4 utility hinges (I used 2" from Walmart - $1.97 for 2)
Instructions for Base
Step 1 - Spraypaint the plywood if you wish.
Step 2 - Screw one side of the lazy susan onto the middle of the plywood. Set it aside.
Step 3 - Screw the hinges onto the bottom inside of each photo frame.
Step 4 - Set the photo frame on top of the plywood with the lazy susan underneath. Screw the hinges onto the plywood. All done! [NOTE: Since my plywood was so thin (even double sheeted), the screws went through the bottom. It's annoying, but as long as it doesn't interfere with the lazy susan, it's ok.]
Materials for Top
1 inch foam board cut to 9.5 in x 9.5 in
cardboard cut to 9.5 in x 9.5 in
Instructions for Top
Step 1 - Cut a 1 in x 7 in slot for the cards diagonally in both the foam board and the cardboard.
Step 2 - Attach the cardboard to the foam board using either the staple gun or glue.
Step 3 - Put the fabric pattern down and the foam board/cardboard piece on top of the fabric cardboard side up.
Step 4 - Slice the fabric where the card hole is, and start upholstering from there, and work your way around the edges with your staple gun. Pull tight!
Step 5 - Once you've finished upholstering, just place the top foam side up into your photo frame. You're done (at least, until you put your pictures in!)
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Let's help out the soon to be wed...
I'm Glad I did: Drapery
This was my inspiration
This is What I got...
Almost there... I almost cut it out due to the cost, but I'm so glad I kept it! Loved the ambiance it added..
I wish I hadn't...spent so much on invitations! I spent almost $1000 on the invitations alone..
Although they were custom and eveyrone loved them including myself, I could have invited more people if I had pared it down and just went for something tossable. It's not like people even care about the details as much as I do...
What about you???
THANK you for this post!!! I have thought about Drapery a little but I am going to think about it more and I have been a little upset that my invites aren't as Fab as other brides but in the end does the invite really matter when your on a budget? I am only spending about $100 on invites. What was the cost of your Drapery? It looks fantastic!
shelewis - thank you as well for creating this topic. It seems like today is a big ball of nerves for me deciding what to do and not to do. I hope some other add to the fun!
Love this post! Can't wait to hear more!
very pretty invites... love the drapery!
Great post! I can wait to see what the other ladies come up with!
GREAT thread Shelewis! I'm not married but here's what I'm glad I did and wish I had so far:
SO glad I spent so little on our invitations. I do graphic design stuff for work and was initially committed to doing our own..but then I thought of all the time and effort I'd need to invest into something that'd be tossed.
Wish I had spent more on photography. We wound up spending as much as we would have if we booked my preferred photographer! Yes, we'll get an album instead..buut....I dunno.
Also wish I had just sucked it up and ordered a dress from a boutique. My "custom dress" experience through Milly Bridal pretty much sucked. Hopefully in the next few months the bad voodoo I have w/my gown will go away.
love your pictures and thanks for the help!!
Bump! Can't wait to hear more :) Great idea for a post! :)
@AppleCapital.. We live in central California, so luckily we didn't have to pay big city pricing...It was about $650 for the drapery.
But linens and chair covers were an additional $700.00.
BTW shelewis your invites are amazing!
I'm glad that I splurged on the photobooth - I'm sad I only took 2 photos in it, and I didn't get a shot of the photographers taking a shot of my DH and I in there.
I'm not happy that I had a friend do my cake..DISASTER!
@milkgal ...thank you!!! LOL they better be for the price!
oOoh good post.
And if you're looking for drapery try gifts international's website. They have bolts of organza for 6 bucks, and shipping is reasonable.
So glad I bought my bridesmaids and myself flip flops!
Wish I had planned something to eat after the reception, with all the food there was, I only ate a potato and a chocolate covered strawberry!
Wish I hadn't let the florist talk me into the ugly centerpieces. I should have went with my orginal idea of simple pink roses in a small vase. Somehow I ended up with some ugly flowers and I still don't know what they are.
Wish I had made it clear to the groomsmen that I didn't want them drinking before the ceremony. Didn't think I had to but men are so childish.
@kristinamarie I didn't even have an appetite...but I drank like a fish lol
GREAT POST! ! !
I'm glad I ended up hiring a florist in the end! We spent a lot of money on silk flowers, and then were gifted real flowers 4 weeks before the wedding. The real flowers cost THE SAME as what we spent on silks, and having the real ones to smell and see on the wedding day was priceless. . .as a gal who has seen and done both, I HIGHLY recommend that before you go crazy thinking you can't afford real flowers, INTERVIEW a florist who will work with your budget.
I wish I hadn't spent the morning of our wedding stressed out. I was worried about the weather (rain), worried about my mom (who was 4 hours late), worried about our hair (our hair lady was fired the day before the wedding and we had to DIY). . .what a WASTE! I would give anything to go back to our wedding day and live it again so I can change my attitude and take it all in.
My mom showed up, our hair turned out beautiful, and the rain got us this pro photo:
edit: that worry was me being in a very quiet, stressed out, trembling, teary mode. Not bridezilla :)
Oh Mountain Bride! thanks so much for that post! I'm a little worried about the weather (living in tropical australia has it's draw backs), and it's so good to see that amazing photo! WOW! A rainy day would be worth that one shot! Thank you again!
I agree with you dominique. I'm going to be dealing with the stress of rain as well. Beautiful picture, MB!
dominique - rain is a BEAUTIFUL thing on the wedding day! You can't control it by stressing about it, so you either embrace it, or waste your one day as a bride. . .
Love this post! Keep the suggestions coming. I too am spending more money than I'd like on photography...but I think it's worth it!
I can't wait to hear more! With my wedding only being 25 days away I love hearing advice!!
I love the drapery. It looks great in photos too. I'm a photographer, so I should know!
I agree that you shouldn't spend too much on invitations. I don't know anyone who saves them!
@christinecha.. Anyone but me..lol!
*bump* come on ladies! I know there are a bunch of you out there who can get in on this!
did the drapes cost you a lot?
never mind I just saw the line.
I am trying to incorporate fabric to cover two post but I don't know how.
Great post. Bump. . . .
The photography is SO WORTH IT! I used to get all gummbled up in my tummy thinking about how much we spent, but I have to say now that it was definitely worth EVERY penny. . .
Awesome post shelewis!
I'm glad we splurged on a wicked photog and a 12 day honeymoon...
I WISH we had kept track of our guest list, there were several ppl who didn't show up or RSVP... jerks! That end up costing us quite a bit
What a fantastic thread! I see a great article for the Ideas section coming out of this, so please keep the great feedback coming! :)
Thanks for sharing.!
@BrideInNovem..-We went a little over on photography also..but..it was worth it!
I wish I had've done videography...
I'm glad.....I spent the money on a decorator and didn't decide to do it myself with the help of friends and family.....SO not worth the stress!!
I'm gald......that when I wasn't happy with our venue and was given the chance to have my dream tent wedding, draping, chandeliers and all....I went for it! Amazing.
I wish I hadn't........tried to save money on the photog.....our photos were good, but I'm not in love with them
I wish I hadn't.........bought a SECOND pair of shoes on a whim, they are beautiful, but I only wore them for the ceremony and then changed into my colored shoes. Totally not necessary.
I am GLAD - that we fired our horrible budget photographer after our E-session
I am GLAD - that we splurged on wedding studio pictures.. they came out beautiful!
I am GLAD - we splurged on an awesome photographer :D
I am GLAD - we are having the reception at a Chinese restaurant, everything is included and I don't have to stress about it.
I wish I hadn't - bought 3 different pairs of shoes for the big day. I decided to only wear 1 pair the whole time.
I wish I hadn't - bought my wedding bling so early, I ended up changing my mind a million times about them.
I wish I hadn't - let my FMIL and FFIL and FI talk me into agreeing to have the wedding at FI's aunt's home in Beverly Hills, but I am glad it didn't work out in the end :P
Great Post Shelewis!!
Great thread! Love it! Very imformative, Thanks! :)
good call on not worrying day of the wedding. that's the same thing that some of my friends have said. don't worry on the day of. just let everything go and let other people deal with it.
This is a great post! I'm not married though so I can't contribute.
I'm glad...we splurged on photography - we're so pleased with our pics!
I'm glad...I decided to get a veil at the last minute. It made me feel so..bridal! lol.
I'm glad...we splurged on a photobooth - we had tons of fun with it during the reception.
I'm glad...I wasn't a bridezilla. My MUA was 20 minutes late, my coordinator ordered the wrong colored napkins and petals, and our ring pillow was ugly and nothing like what it was supposed to look like. But I honestly didn't care. It really is the happiest day of your life. And when you're that happy, nothing can bring you down!
I wish I hadn't...forgotten to bring a completed invitation with me. I wanted the photographer to take some pics of it with the rings, bouquet, etc etc. Oh well.
I wish I hadn't...waited so long to book a DJ. Actually, we didn't wait too long, but my first choice was already booked on our day and we had to go with another DJ that was good and adequate, but not as fun as I think my #1 choice would have been.
I wish I hadn't...gone all crazy with my wedding diet. I think my elbows and shoulders were a bit boney looking, and because we had to make the inner-corset of my dress so tight it made my dress sag just a bit in the back. My coworker warned me that you lose wait right before the wedding with all the stress and running around. I should have listened.
Great Post. Bump
I love the drapery!! how did you do it?
It's so reassuring how many of you say you're glad you splurged on your photography. I hope FI goes for it.
I love reading this post! Great advice! Keep it coming!
I'm glad...we spent the $$ on photography - we were running late (my fault), but I have complete confidence that we'll love our wedding pics even without all of our 'must haves'
I'm glad...MIL & DH talked me into the photobooth - everyone loved it & we have so many fun pictures!
I wish I hadn't... left so many things until the last couple of days. Being more prepared would have saved me a lot of stress.
The photobooth! It was so awesome...see bio for pics. Our guests LOOOVED it!
I wishI just got my dress from a store rather then getting it made. Cost me a lot and still wasnt right.
I wish I went with my gut and got a different photographer that was extra $500. Didn't think we needed to considering the company we booked were expensive and thought you paid for what you get. Instead the photographer cancelled on the Wednesday night before the wedding and gave us a photographer that didn't speak English and made me do ridiculous posses!!! Anyway that's a long story I could go on all day. At least they gave a refund but its a shame because you cant have your wedding day again.
Im glad I made my own invitations. Everyone loved them and I saved lots of money. (Advice dont stress about Invites no one keeps them!!)
Im glad that we had an MC, made the night run smoothly and everyone loved him
Im glad I didnt try loose or tone up before the wedding because I ended up losing weight the week before the wedding from the stress and running around.
Annoyed that groomsmen wore sun glasses because it ruined some photos because some have them on, some dont and on their heads!!! Tell them no Sunnies :)
Im glad I had a florist do the flowers, was thinking of doing them myself but would never of had time, was running behind time how it was already
Remember that in the end its all about getting married to your best friend and none of this matters and just smile and soak up the day. I dont think the smile came off my face from the morning to the night. Best day EVER
I'm glad we did dance lessons, we had a killer first dance that ended like this:
I wish I hadn't picked a salon out of convienence. It was a block from my house, and getting married in Dec I was afaird weather would be bad, so I picked it on location not ability. In the end my makeup was great, but I hated my hair.
i'm so glad that we took dance lessons! it was the most fun part of planning our wedding and is something we continue to enjoy together.
i'm so glad that we had a small bridal party. zero drama!
i wish we had spent more time researching photogs. same as mizbiz, i liked our photos, but was not in love with them. i also wish i had been more specific about what photos we wanted. i was a very low key bride, but in hindsight, i wish i had been a bit more demanding!
I'm glad we splurged on our venue and just handed the day over to someone we trusted to do a great job. I cannot imagine having had my wedding anywhere else and our venue, while pricey, was just perfect for us and it really created the exact wedding we wanted.
I'm glad I got the dress I wanted and didn't beat myself up over trying to find one that was cheaper. After I found that one nothing else seemed right on and it felt more special on the day knowing that it was a little extravagant.
I'm glad we hired vendors that we could be friends with and were just cool people. It was really nice to be surrounded by down to earth people on the day and no one felt uncomfortable or stressed us out.
I wish we would have spent more on photography. I love the photos we have, but in the grand scheme of things knowing that we could have spent an extra 2K and gotten something out of this world makes me wonder...
I wish I hadn't had last minute stress spending and bought things like a cheapo cathedral length veil and jewelry that I did not really want - but just convinced myself for some reason days before the wedding that I did.
I wish we had spent more time at our hotel just relaxing. It was totally part of my plan to do this but I got sick and couldn't get out of my bed at home to make it over to the hotel. Then we had to leave the day after the wedding :( Whenever I drive by the hotel now I just feel sad that we stayed there for two nights and I never walked around the grounds or anything.... I feel like we need to stay another night just to get the experience but its too spendy!
I love this thread. Just reading and soaking up the wisdom! :)
Glad I had custom bouquets made. I love how they looked, I used them for the wedding and for pics two days later and now I get to keep them forever.
Glad I had my dress custom made. It was exactly what I wanted.
I wish we would have spent the extra money to have a photographer before the ceremony and for the reception. We figured that since it was a more casual reception that family and friends photos would be fine. They were good but I wish we had more.
Mountainbride, I don't think you could have said anything more comforting than that.. enjoy the day.. it will all come out in the end.. You helped alot of us to think about that.
Mountainbride, that pic is awesome! I also am somewhat worried since May in Florida brings rainstorms... they come and go quickly but when it comes it really pours!
Love this post, thank you ladies for sharing your wisdom and experiences....
thanks for the post... i'm actually wanting to do drapery as well, but have no idea where to start lookin for fabric, or even what type to look for.. =(
Great thread...I have the same questions as pink- where can I find the fabric for drapery??
Great Post! I can't contribute yet!
I'm glad I..had a spa day with my mom and sister 2 days before the wedding. It was the BEST thing I could have done for myself.
I'm glad I..hired a DOC, there wasn't much she needed to do- but just knowing that if any emergency came up she could handle it. Also it was a gift to my mom, she wouldn't have to worry about the set up/clean up after the reception.
I'm glad I..found etsy. I got unique custom pieces that made me feel special.
I'm glad I..wasn't a bridezilla. Accept that the day before the wedding there isnt much more you can do to change anything. What's done is done, just relax and enjoy. Your vendors will be happy to work hard for a happy pleasant little bride.
I wish I hadn't..skipped my honeymoon. I was exhausted and NEEDED and STILL NEED a honeymoon.
I didn't realize I could post more than on in each category!
I'm glad I DIY my FG's dress. That was my favorite project and so special to see her in it the day of the wedding.
I'm glad I had my students perform at the wedding - even though they weren't polished and perfect, having them play the music was another special touch.
I'm glad we chose the venue we did!
I wish I hadn't said 'no' to a veil. Looking back, I should have worn one. . .I feel like I missed out and hate that I was so stubborn about not wearing one.
I wish I hadn't DIY all the bm gowns. . .what a PITA. They came out great, but getting my mom and everybody on board for measurements, etc. was really stressful.
I wish I had not cheaped out on finding a hair lady, because end the end well. . .you get what you pay for. I had to fire her the day before the wedding, and we had to DIY the hair - I would have loved to have professional hair though :(
I wish I had been more direct with my seamstress. I lost a lot of weight to get into the teensy dress and in alterations she didn't make it fit like I wanted because she was worried about 'support'. She had never worked on a low-back gown before and didn't understand how to make it fit properly. . .Well, I get that support is important (I mean, I sew, I understand how clothes fit) but I could have done with some chicken cutlets or something instead of having the dress sewn up so snug that it didn't fit like I wanted it too.
I'm glad that I skipped the traditional wedding thing and got married on the beach in Jamaica. (It's not for everyone, but it was awesome for us.)
I'm glad that I hired a good photographer. I have awesome pics that I love and am proud to show off.
I'm glad that I didn't spend a lot of money on a dress (<$500 including alterations). This made me want to do a TTD, and I had super fun playing in the ocean in it.
I'm glad that I hired a videographer, but that I didn't spend a lot on one. We showed the video to our family that couldn't make it, but we haven't viewed it since.
I am disappointed that I forgot to take my hair inspiration with me. :( I ended up picking something out of a book, and I didn't like it as well. Also, one piece came undone and I have a piece of hair sticking up in 1/2 my photos!!
I wish I had worn a veil...wind or no wind!
I forgot sunscreen on the wedding day and I got burned. Big mistake!!
Wow! What a great post.. I'm learning so much! Thanks for sharing! :)
These are great, thanks ladies for your comments!!
I'm Glad: we hired an amazing photographer. Wasn't in our original budget we were thinking, but it was worth it!
I'm Glad: we hired a videographer at the last minute! Photog missed a couple of shots I wanted, but the videographer covered everything. It was worth every penny!
I'm Glad: we did uplighting & monogram at the reception venue. brought a great ambiance to the party.
Soooo GLAD: I had an emergency bridal kit. One of my loops broke and my MIL found my sewing kit and made a new one! Thank goodnes!!
I wished: we had a vehicle after the ceremony to fit all the bridal party because we took pictures afterwards and we were in a big caravan of cars and one of my BMs got lost. So I didn't have any pictures after with my girls. I was mad that I was waiting for 30 minutes just sitting there doing nothing. While the GMs men were taking pics. Blah!
I wished: I incorporate more my Korean culture into the reception.
I wished: I ate my food and drinks we paid for! I heard it was good. Wished I could have try it.
I love this post more and more...Anyone questioning the drapery, PM me i'll give you more info!
Keep the awesomeness coming ladies! =) I love reading these!
I'm Glad: I listened to my mom and MIL and got a new florist 3 weeks before the wedding. It was way more expensive but sooo worth it, totally exceeded my expectations. Thank goodness my MIL was able to pitch in.
I'm Glad: We got an Ice Luge for cocktail hour with our monogram. Ours cost under $400 and it was such a huge hit, people were raving about it for weeks after.
I'm Glad: I had all my stationary custom designed by an etsy vendor and printed locally. It was a lot more trouble then getting something at a stationary shop or online, but it saved a ton of money and all the stationary had a common theme. People actually noticed and complimented us on it, which was surprising since I thought I was the only one who would be so into the details :)
I'm Glad: We got the venue that we did. It was a difficult decision initially, but they took really good care of us, the food was great and we were able to party until 2am. Not too many people were left at that hour but our close friends were and that's what counts!
I wish I had: Finished everything a little earlier and had a few days to relax beforehand. I was pretty stressed until Friday afternoon, basically until the rehearsal dinner.
I wish I had: Spoken to more people during the reception. I only realized afterwards when I looked at pictures that I missed quite a few people. I had a great time and danced a ton with my friends, but I still wish I had more time to chat with everyone.
Not married yet, but so far in the planning process I'm so glad I hired a wedding planner for full coordination. She makes everything so easy and almost eliminates stress. Worth every single plenny! I don't know how some of you ladies not only do everything on your own, but do it so well!
I love this post! It is great to see what the Brides think looking back on their big day...
not married yet but here is what I've learned so far:
Im glad : that Im designing the invites on vistaprint and that I found a coupon so our invites are only going to cost $100 versus our original invites that were $400+ &&& I'm sooooooo happy I ordered samples of every invite I was serious about buying!
Im so glad: that we ordered the cake topper that I wanted!!
Im glad :that we are doing a small wedding, and its only going to be family and close friends.
Im glad: I stuck to my guns and got the gown I wanted and loved and that my mom and one of my bridesmaids loved even though my MOH said it was ugly on me.. :/
Im glad : That we picked the colors that we did because its just making planning soooo much easier!
Im glad: that we hired a DJ/ MC , its going to make the reception totally fun!!! We were really thinking of just playing music from our laptop but I really feel that this is going to be totally worth every penny!
I wish I had: really thought about the location that I we wanted to get married at.... My FI really wanted to get married in Vegas and he is paying for the wedding so i caved.. however I keep thinking in the back of my mind how wonderful it would be to have a small beach wedding in key west on our favorite beach.... So for any one who is thinking about getting married for a DW really think on it!!!
I wish I had: Really thought about who I want for my BM & MOH because the person I choose for the job of MOH does not deserve it at all (So really put thought into your wedding party!)
this thread is awesome! I'm not married yet either (7 months from today!!! EEK!) but I'll give my pre-wedding two cents!
I'm glad we looked at other venues instead of just booking the one my dad wanted us to book.
I'm glad I went for just one more dress shopping day because thats when I truly found "the one"
I'm glad we are splurging a little bit on uplighting. Seeing pictures of other weddings makes me really excited for ours!
I'm glad I started planning everything early because I dont feel as stressed and short for time
I'm glad we're having a videographer and a photographer
I wish we would have started saving earlier so we could have a few more "extras"
I wish we would have taken time to choose our WP because my sister is just a PITA and he wishes he would have picked friend B over friend A.
I wish we would have sanded the "AMORE" letters before we painted them because now they are ruined and we cant use them lol
I think thats all I have right now =)
Im glad we spent the money on ... photographer & my dress!
I wish we didnt spend so much on Candy!! My god I went way to far with our candy buffet..I didnt properly figure out how much we would need, I just thought, oh I will just buy a bunch of everything and to much of everything so we dont have to worry about running out- Yeah well 700 dollars later..I had so much left over it was ridic! And, we bought it from Sugar Mountain, which is double the price of bulk barn :(
Ah well, other then that I wouldnt change a darn thing ;)
I'm glad we had the DIY uplighting. It ended up costing only $35, because we were able to resell the spotlights for almost as much as we paid for them, and it really added to the atmosphere:
I wish we had pushed a bit harder on getting our ceremony video shown at the reception. They had troubles getting the sound to play, so we had to give up on it. Since the ceremony was far away, and few of our guests were able to be at it, I really wanted them to be able to see it.
There have to be more ideas... Keep 'em comming :-)
Glad Im glad I picked the reception i wanted and involved all my family with the cermony, im so glad i had a bachelorette part as i really didnt want one to begin with it...it was so worth it so much fun. Im glad I had shorter BM dresses when everyone said you must hae long to be formal, im glad my BMs had different hair styles to suit their taste. Glad I had a good photographer and videographer..after the day is gone thats all you will have left of it!
Not so glad wish i asked our videographer to stay until later in the night or at least until after the 1st dance i feel i really missed that and so hard to remember after the day. Wish I didnt spend so much on our invitations too...they were way to expensive but i still love them!! Wish my photograther got more detail shots of the day..after all the effort I put into the little things but you would never know from my album.
Wish I didnt invite some people that havent really bothered with us since....nut overall im so pleased with how are day turned out it was perfect or near perfect to me and DH!
Bellabride your wedding was fab...omg your dress was amazing i can totally see why you were glad you went with it!~
I'M GLAD I / WE...
-- ponied up the $$$$$$$ for "top tier", excellent photography AND videography
-- always went with my gut feeling
-- ponied up for a superb deejay
-- wore 2 different ensembles; one for the pre-ceremony pics, and then another for the wedding and reception
-- i'm glad we did NOT rent a limo or party bus - it would have been a huge waste of money
-- took pics BEFORE the ceremony; it was NOT rushed or hurried and we got to spend some quiet time before the rush of the day
-- had a DOC
-- stayed at the same hotel as out of town family so we could hang out pre and post wedding day
-- ponied up and paid for my bms to get their hair & makeup done; it was a fun treat for them b/c we got to sit and get beautified together - girly time!!
-- i'm thrilled i had my gfs all in different styles of black dresses that were perfect for their personalities and body types
photos by Kristi Klemens of KLK Photography
I WISH I/WE:
-- asked the florist to make taller and larger cps; i loved my cps, but in the space we were in, they werent in perfect scale with the tent's height LOL!
-- had color-coordinated all our boxes at the venue so our DOC could easily identify what was ours... the box with our green uplights got lost at the venue b/c when we labeled it, i guess our name wasnt written large enough on the box?? nobody could find them! oh well, not a huge deal, but i wanted to see the green uplights in action... we found them 2 days later!!! woops!
-- i wish i hadnt gotten the flu the week of my wedding; in my med-head haze, i forgot to pack so much--> my fg's basket & petals, our aisle runner, aisle decor
in the end tho, all the "i wish" stuff didnt matter... now looking at the pics, the church are perfect as they are and the cps didnt look totally miniature, or as miniature as i thought when i first saw them LOL!
We got a tent for our outdoor wedding because it rained and had to move the ceremony into the tent!
DIY'ed our flowers, CP's veil, hair flower and other things for the wedding. It gave a personalized touch which we got a lot of compliments on
We got a DOC. She was a life saver!
Spent $$ on my dress and for a MUA for the day of
We wrote our own vows, that was the most emotional part of the day for me.
I didnt spend so much $$ on the cake because we had plenty left over.
Bpics for DH
Saved $$$ on wedding
Paid extra for my photographer to make our wedding album for us.
Had more time to get additional shots with family members and remebered to take thank you shots
Paid ahead of time for a DJ rather than trusting a friend who let us down and that caused some drama in its self
Love this thread its so informative....... I'm still on the iffy board regarding videography so seeing the "Glad I did" vs "Wish I did" helps me out.
love this thread!!!
if there is one thing you do get a videographer...honestly it is the thing I was most glad i did and would happely cut back on something else to have one...you will be so glad when the big day is over and you can relive it over as many times as you like after
I just re-read this whole thread and all the new advice! Def helps me out alot!
I love this post, its 2 months today for us. Not sure if I now feel vvvv excited or vvv worried I forgot something!!!!!
Anymore???? H x
FarmBride you 're not alone... IDK what Im feeling these days either!!!
I love this post.. I can't post anything yet though
i'm so glad i DIY'd my paper products (STDs, invitations, menus, program) and CPs, as well as splurged on a photobooth.
i loved my photographer, but wish i had scheduled more time for portraits and photos (the day just went by too fast!)...
SO GLAD we hired a professional photographer! We had a very small budget, but ladies ... the photographs are the most important thing! You will cherish them forever :)
- we booked a band (best vendor ever)
- glad we chose to get married in the offseason - prices were great and our guests were excited b/c Feb. is typically a boring month with not alot going on for ppl, PLUS Aruba was that much sweeter :)
- I chose the WP we did
- we left for our HM shortly after the wedding
- I hadn't left anything to the GM and dicated to them who was doing a speech, which I figured they could handle. No, no...all 4 of them thought it would be a grand idea to do a 15 minute speech each. ugh.
- I hadn't chosen a scam artist as a florist, but there was nothing that I could've done more to prevented what happened - I was as clear and communitive as humanly possible