I went to a Bridal show the other week with a friend of mine, a future bride so to entertain myself while she talked to other caterers, vendors, etc. I asked about meal costs for kids at weddings in our area. Egads. Whoa!
I thought of my own niece's wedding a year ago last June and I had young nieces and nephews, family affair couldn't get around. But man so many of the kid plates were maybe half touched, wow talk about biting an investment there.
Now, I am coordinate a NWR event and looking at space and seating limits, and thinking about costs.
I feel for you all in whatever way you decide. Just do what's right for you and what you can afford. However this was a big eye opening experience for how I present my services to brides too.
Best wishes on your weddings.