All I Can Say is Wow!!!!

My DH's cousin is getting married August 25th.  I spoke to his FI a week ago and asked her how was the last of the wedding details going and she told me that they still owed 2000 on the venue, 486 for the cake and they had to do a change for catering as Cale and I did, but they didn't even have the money for the food. I got super quiet because I was stunned speechless. She said she was super stressed and that there was a skating party they were going to do as a fundraiser to aid in paying off the vendors. I thought wow, with three weeks left to go, that is a lot of money to still owe out!

My DH is in Mississippi with his parents and called to tell me that his cousin wants all the guys to pay 150 each to come to bachelor party. I said what???? Are you serious! That is absurd! No one knows about the financial woes except for me and my DH and the other men are puzzled as to why they have to pay that when the party will be at a house. I find that ballsy and incredulous to ask for that amount of money and to do a fundraiser to aid in paying off their wedding unbeknowest to many. I feel so bad for her because things got out of hand because of the groom's mother added to the guest list and put her two cents in everything! She is not paying a single penny towards this wedding so there is no way I would have gotten guilted into doing things that I know I couldn't afford!

Moral of my story - We all want to have a dream wedding, but there is no need to over extend your self and go in debt doing so if you can not afford it. So for all my future Mrs. - Please set tangible goals and realistic expectations for your day!

yes there are no other words than wow ...
That is so bad and i can't imagine many of the men are going to give $150 for just a stag do.
Whatever is she going to do? Could she go to her parents and maybe they could lend her some money i don't see them being able to fundraise that much maybe a coule of hundred of dollars but not all the $$$$ gahhh this is difficult. I think i'd die if i were in that situation. Fortunately my parents are paying for most of our wedding i'm am saving to do couple of things myself though. I just couldn't imagine being in her position :/

My hubby, for one, has already said he was not paying that amount. I haven't heard anything more about the skating fundraiser, but I am sure she did not raise no where near the money she needed. Many of us, I am included, paid for our own weddings. I got a second job to help offset cost so I couldn't imagine being in her situation either. Her mother got her dress for her and her father did something else, but her and FI are paying for the wedding. She should not have let his mother guilt her into having so many guest and she is not helping pay for anything!  They were having financial trouble early on. They were supposed to get married in July and it was postponed until October. I don't know what made them change to August and they are still having issues. Wow! Lets pray for them!

Wow I would be stress too if I was her. My FI and I are always saying unless they are going to pay for itit doesn't matter what anyone else wants to happen We know what we want and we know what we can afford. I don't want to start our lives together in debt because of one day, I want it to be nice and withn my budget.

Agreed Lita75!  I called the venue she is doing her ceremony and reception at and they are expensive! Many Michigan brides do their weddings at Crystal Gardens, but I knew that was out of my range when she would not discuss anything over the phone and wanted me to come in. I told her there was no way I was wasting my time viewing a venue I could't afford! I would be beyond stressed if I was her so close to her big day!

yea it's so sad when I hear things like this. My seamstress was telling me about a bride she had that was supposed to be getting married in a few days and she was worried she wasn't going to get paid. I guess this bride was complaing about not having enough money for the venue so they cancelled that and booked a VFW or something like that, went out and bought a bunch of food but she didn't even know how they were going to make it all. and I guess the whole time she was at her final fitting she was complaining about how she didn't have money for x y and z. It was crazy. And to complain about that to your seamstress who is supposed to make your wedding dress perfect!! Crazy

Wow that's incredible!!! I have no words. I do hope they pull it together somehow.

Amen Tressy! I've had to scale back my catering proposal a total of three times until that number started looking right. Honestly you go on blogs, you see wedding inspirations you get fabulous ideas from places like PW and you really want and wish you could have it all, but at what cost. We had a guestlist of 140 that i recently had to cut to 96. I know some people will probably be expecting an invite but, i can't feed the world. You'll lose out somehow if you spread yourself too thin. Too large of a guestlist, may mean not enough food to go around or not enough in the budget for flowers or photography then you find yourself skimping just to make things happen. I feel for your future cousin-in-law. It is a short space of time to come up with a lot of money.

Why even have a bachelor party, is it really that important? The focus should be on ensuring you actually have a wedding! Best of luck to them. Hopefully they pull a rabbit out their hat!

Oh my goodness - a fundraiser for a wedding??? Wow is right!

And I just asked DH how much he would pay for a bachelor party held at someone's house. His answer was "A case of beer."

Wow. That is a lot of money to have a bachelor party at a house, from each guy! Holy smokes! What in the world could they possibly do at home and need that much money!? I made sure to plan a wedding that would be -affordable-

Hope she can get everything paid off in 3 weeks!