Anyone have any bridemaids that are not...

HELPING! I do not want to be a bridezilla so I most likely wont say anything. But I have been planning my wedding since January, only one of my bridesmaids has helped me with. The others pretty much dont ask about it and when they do they say, "so how is the planning going." I want to say well its going great but thanks for all your help and support!!!! But I dont, I dont want to hurt anyone's feelings but at the same time I would like a little help. I did nicely say something a couple weeks ago about coming over to my house and talking about wedding stuff...and well no one even acknowledged ..lol.

I thought bridesmaids are supposed to be here to help and support you with certain aspects of your wedding..idk..anyone else have anything like this going on.. If so how did  you handle it?

Girl let me tell you Bridezillas!....I am now convinced that these are made not born!

MY BMs have made me this way!

I am an organized person! I think I have been very good about choosing dresses wisely that take into consideration their tastes, budget and wearability! I send monthly newsletters as well as email updates to let them know what is going on and yet only 2 out of 7 of my BMs responds or participates! I will be making sure thats noted in my speech too! Im beginning to hate the 5 slackers!

I feel horrible that I feel this way but I honestly wish I had chosen 2 and left it at that!

Fustrated organized bride,

BRIDEZILLA

But im sure this rant didnt help...im looking for suggestions too!

This is an extremely common problem in wedding planning.  Hopefully, they will step up.  Sometimes people don't put so much work into, possibly because they have NO IDEA how long it takes to truly plan a wedding.

But then in the last like 3 days, they'll be amazing.  :)

I ask this question before because I didnt want help. And i was told bm are suppose to help the day of, or if u ask them. So ask them for help

I really think bridesmaids shouldn't be expected to help with lots of stuff for the wedding. They're already investing a bunch of money and time. I'm thankful for any help my bridesmaids offer, but I'm not expecting them to do anything except wear the dress and show up to the rehearsal and wedding.

What is it that you are looking for them to do? Sometimes people don't take hints and if you want them to help you with a particular task then ask them to do so specifically. I don't think anyone should be expected to be a mind reader. So if you want their help tying bows, sealing envelopes what have you then ask them to do that. If they don't help or are unable to help then maybe you will feel disappointed, but right now it sounds like you are dropping hints and they are not biting.

It is funny because two of them are married I was MOH in both weddings and the third is getting married in a month.. sooo you would think that they would know lol...

Mine didn't really help, but then again I didn't ask them to and I didn't really want tthem to. 

The majority of my BM's are on my list right now. FOUR of them have yet to order dresses and I told them they had to be ordered by Oct. 15th. Brilliant. They constantly offer to help...until I need them. SO. I told them all to clear Nov.5th to help me do my boxed wedding invites. 2 of them said this was ok..the two that purchased their dresses. SO ready to fire four of them.

I agree with the fact that they shouldnt be expected to do anything but example... picking out dresses.. we planned a month in advanced.. a week before I had people cancelling. After they said that they were going. So as of now no bridesmaids dresses.. its just stupid things like that that are irritating me.