I have used plugs and beads before...I think they help because they get you used to the senstation....even though the size doesn't compare!!  The key is to RELAX!!!!!!! 

We've never tried. And we never will because neither of us are into it. Thank goodness. I can only think of how painful it would be.  :/

absolutely NOT! lol. that is one of the few things i'm not at all open to.

not for me...fi always asks but i always say no...it hurts!

We tried a couple of times, but it never worked because OMG it is sooo painful.... I think it hurts more than having sex for the first time.. I have tried the numbing lube as well, but the thing that really numbed me was ORAJEL...lol 

I went to a store to get another numing lube and the store clerc said that the stuff you numb your mouth with (like Orajel) is the same stuff they put into the lube.

We tried Orajel and it did numb me, but I knew I was going to bleed if we did not stop so we stopped. Now he never asks me to do it because he feels so bad for almost making me bleed...lol

I think they love to do it because it's tight

Hi ladies, Hope I don't get judged for this...but my Fiance and I love it. Do it very often. But there's an art to it, and before my fiance, I HATED it. Cried, felt dirty, hated it. Until my fiance.

Here's some secrets....because often for me it is MORE pleasurable than "typical" intercourse.

We use plain old water based ID glide lubricant. And PLENTY of it. You can also use a silicone based lubricant called "gun oil" which is significantly more expensive but works phenominally. It doesn't get sticky, and because it's silicone, lasts a very long time. However, you want to avoid using it with a silicone toy, unless you use a condom on it, because it will cause pitting in the toy. Not good.

Next, the position is very important. I still find that on my back is extremely painful. You want to be on your knees or on your side, which is easier as well.

Finally, YOU NEED TO RELAX! If you are tense at all, you are going to be in pain EVERY time. This really can be a very stimulating process, if you are careful and both of you are in the right frame of mind.

If anyone wants more...."lessons", I'm happy to provide. I found that once I got over the "taboo" of "back door" relations, I was much happier and able to enjoy it. There really is no need for numbing lube...It only takes away the possible sensation for you.

Take care, and I hope I haven't just shot myself in the foot on this forum....

Tori

I have a few times but I have to REALLY be in the mood and have to be REALLY drunk. (although I do remember every bit of it)... i can't do it a lot though. If my mind is not in the right place then it's not going to feel good.. at all.

We do sometimes..depends on what mood I'm in. He could do it everytime (is it a guy thing?). We talk about it before hand but then when we are dtd I usually chicken out...

Hmmm. Boyfriend is obsessed with doing it, and we have tried about 6 times and only once did it feel REALLY amazing... like super, super great. The other times it hurt so bad that I teared up, whined like a baby, and it literally made me feel nauseous. Then boyfriend will stop, but I feel so bad because I did like it that one time and bf wants to do it so bad. The times it hurt I feel like I was in the wrong mindset, and I was tense and nervous. The time it felt amazing, I remember there was LOTS of foreplay, and we took it super slow. Whenever it hurts, he tries to go as fast as possible and that just doesn't work. I want to try it again soon because damn, when it was good, it was superb!