My man and I do engage in anal about once every couple of months. Before I met him I absolutely hated doing it in the butt and never felt comfortable about it. But now that I have met my fiance for the first time ever it is actually
enjoyable!
A lot of what helped me is that anal was never a big deal to him, if we did it then awesome but if I didn't want to then he didn't care. That took a lot of pressure off of the concept of the whole situation and removed the "hype". Plus he
is very mindful of my body language and can notice that if something is painful or uncomfortable we will switch positions or give it a break instead of just having me try to "tough it out".
LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND - I cannot stress that enough! I personally am not a fan of the "numbing" lubes. I find that a good water based product is best for me. We turned finding a good lubricant into a game buying tester and mini bottle sizes
whenever we went to the adult stores.
I know cleanliness can be a big hang up to the point it becomes a huge turn off. Yes - you are sticking it in the pooper. They do make anal douches but I prefer my favorite common sense method - don't do the deed just after you pigged out on
mexican food for lunch or dinner lol! Or other similar time - or stomach viruses. When I first started I was still uncomfortable with the clean factor so I always laid down a towel on the bed first, just to ease my mind. But after a few successful runs
I quickly learned that the towel wasn't needed. Once we are done we just hop in the shower together and clean off.
Positions are key too. I personally am not a fan of starting off in the missionary position. My favorite is actually the cowgirl position - much like with vaginal intercourse, with the woman being on top she controls depth, angle, speed..ect...
plus he will play with my clitoris which can help make for a powerful orgasm.
Hope this post doesn't brand me as a weird one - anal intercourse isn't for everyone but with the right prep, frame of mind, and partner it has the capability to be an enjoyable experience for both partners.
