Betrayed... *vent*

awww huggies!!!

sandra--->  my first reaction was to tell you that i was so sorry to hear about sally doing this - but on 2nd thought - i'm not...

i dont feel sorry b/c you are a wonderful person, you and your fh have been blessed with the strength and maturity to hold on to "first love" - something not a lot of hs sweethearts have done with success - and sally is a jealous, vindictive person who should not have the honor or pleasure of your friendship, your thoughts and your caring ways.  you and your fh have weathered life during it's most tumultuous - "the college years" or "the early 20s". 

you 2 found love when it was innocent and pure and built a foundation on that - and the foundation has withstood the growing pains of early adulthood - and you are stronger for it.

you - as an individual - are a strong woman and attract people with equal "fuerte" and she knows deep inside that she is not good enough and does not measure up to the you of now. 

i know it's hard letting go of someone - it's heart-wrenching at first, especially since you hve such history with her - the growing years - the years of dreams and hopes for a bright future.  but life is full of change and shedding skin - and the sandra of today needs more from the people in her life that the sandra of yesteryear needed - and she cannot fulfill that - so the next best thing is for her to sabotage the relationsihp b/c deep inside she knows your needs are no longer being met - so hey - why not ruin it instead of being mature and accepting that life moves forward, always, constantly??

i know logically it's easy right?? but the emotions that come with "breaking up" with an old friend is a different thing - but just as all things in life that cause grief, time will ease the pain of a friendship that has run its course.

stay strong and i'm hugging you right now!

what a Jealous Biatch.....sorry..I know I don't know her but give me a freaking break...you are lucky you have those 'real' friends that had your back and this was nipped in the bud right now rather than anytime closer to your special day and any other days (ie holidays, valentines day, etc).... I hate to say but she sounds very envious of you (and who wouldn't but in a nice way!) and can't handle or deal with it and the only way she can is by being so viscious & malicious...sorry to hear...but you got a great group of girls on PW and you got a great group of your girls looking out for u in your bridal party..

muah :X

thanks d1rty and kpnice.  you know how to make a girl feel special!  i guess i can't wonder any more why she's so mean & jealous/envious.  i just have to let go...

aww maria your words are poetry.. real, poignant, and heartfelt.  i feel as if you know me!

thank you again girls for your hugs, your votes of confidence, your understanding, and your happiness for me.  shows how little of a friend she is that i can get this from my pw girls...but not her. 

i've little experience in this "breaking up" thing so i'll just have to learn this life lesson and move on. to everything there is a season.

yeah that is totally bad! what a bitch... even though i would not want to belive it i am the same belive everything i hear.. stupid huh!!!! lol

i would be sick to... she is prob just upset and wishes she was you... she needs to wake up 2 her self and get a life of her own... i say let her go she is a bad seed... lol i am sorry to hear your bad news she is not a true friend.......

I'm so sorry! How stressful this must be. Even if we took whether she lied or not out of the equation, she still seems petty. She seems to be a very self-focused person. If she is trying this hard to just be talked about between you and the BMs then there is something wrong with her and I pity her. I would most certainly let her go. I would either talk to her about taking time off from the friendship (I just had to do this with a selfish friend) or just let it simmer down without talking to her for a while. It is amazing how some people can react so "high schoolish" even after they are adults. I wouldn't waste much time on her at the moment because she is backstabbing and immature. Maybe you can explain everything to her later when she grows up a little. For now she seems to be a lost cause. I'm so sorry you have to go through this during such a great time! It's a good thing you have such solid girls behind you though! Good luck.

thanks ladies.  i know i just have to simmer down and not talk to her for awhile.  my BM is suprised i'm even entertaining the idea of keeping her on the invite list, but i just gotta cool down before i make such a huge decision.

i know, i know, why would i pay for someone to be with me on my special day who is not truly happy for me.... but the lazy, loser side of me just wants to take the path of least resistance, keep her on the invite lists and then never speak to her again after the wedding. i guess i'll just have to see how i feel.  it's taking one of the pieces out of the friend group so it will be super obvious.  which is good, she needs to get the message, but part of me feels that taking the work to send the message is even too much of an emotional drain. 

just need to grieve i guess...then think later

My favorite words to live by...

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.  When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend, and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.  Sometimes they die.  Sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled;  their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.  They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done.  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it!  It is real!  But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.  Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);  and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.  It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant

i thought of that nidia!  i remember hearing it sometime in the past, but thank you for giving me the words because i wouldn't have know where to find them.  again, you ladies are wonderful! *heart warms*