I am a curvy lady, I am heavier then I look, I have tiny waste,  big hips and tits.

It is near impossible for me to find a  dress  or a bra that fit my  boobs.

In a dress, If I get in my boobs, the dress will be to tight over my hips and if I get my hips in the dress will be to small over my boobs.

Do they thing we look like traffic cones??

Bras,  I can find my cup size, I cant find  my band size at all and no extensions doesnt work on me,

I have find cups sizes larger then me for  size zero people,  it is a bit scary that there is a market out there for   sticks with silicon beach balls.

And I just get so tired, that when you are a  larger lady, or as my  man calls it  A lovelier size or as my friends calls it  Filled to the brim of joy  or Just  too big hearted, big boobs are not seen as a possiblity.

I can find minus  A cups in sizes for a  humpback whale, but me who is a petite elephant cant find a E or F cup bra.

Anyway does anyone has   the same problem?

I know this is a stupid question, but have you tried lane bryant? That's the only place I can get bra's for my DDD.

http://cacique.lanebryant.com/bras/bra-sizes-f-g-h/15023c15042/index.cat

also, google bra world. It's this store that has bra's in every size (pretty sure they go up past H). put in your measurements and they'll spit back your actual bra size.

As for dresses - non-wedding dresses that is - look for rayon, polyester, or jersey knit. These fabrics allow stretch and cling where needed. For example, you can buy the size to fit your bust, but still have room in the hips.

I can wear  anything but natrual fiber, yes jerseyknit is nice but  most often  they do then to look like tents and not go in by the waste.

And I am not American, I do  from to time  buy from USA but still I have the same odd problem.

I feel your pain and there is a website for you!

http://www.bravissimo.com/default.aspx

or you can try:

http://www.lindasonline.com/

European bras tend to come in a wider size range so I find they tend to work better than american sites, even Lane Bryant only carried a few lager cupped bras!

Still to small  bands, I said I was large  I am a size 22- 28 depending on brand.

I would say go to a bra specialty store and be measured because that is a big disparity in band sizes. You may be wearing the wrong size! I guess 80% of women are! 

I am not wearing the wrong size I soo which I did..... but nope I am not.

I know how to messure up a bra,  cause it was part of my education.

I have the perfect cup and band with, I have tried smaller  band with and larger cup but that doesnt work for me. 

And yes So many people are having the wrong bra, it is one of the most important garment we use, so I dont understand why people dont do a fitting OR try our different sizes.