I haven't actually had my bridal shower yet, but I am seriously dreading it now... my sister has been planning a beautiful and fun bridal shower for me for the past few months. It was to be ladies only (because that's usually how it goes) but all of a sudden, some of the ladies invited decided they cannot go without their husbands. 

I got a phone call from my sister freaking out because my mom wanted to accommodate to these people and let them bring their husbands.  The past few bridal showers I had been to for my family was jack and jill so everyone just assumed it would be the same.

My sister got upset because she planned games that might make the men feel uncomfortable.  At the last bridal shower I was at, one of the uncles commented that it's not normal to have men at the bridal shower (the bride had just opened a gift of lingerie).

I totally agree with my sister.  On top of that, FI would never come to the bridal shower.  He didn't agree with the idea that men should be included.  Bridal showers are usually the women's thing.  How am I supposed to tell him he has to come now because men are invited? He was so happy when I told him it was ladies only.  I know he won't come (and some of you might think he's not supportive by not coming, but I completely understand why he wouldn't come).  She was trying to plan an event that I will always remember, not an event to please just the few ladies that couldn't make it without their husbands.

I don't need this stress and disturbance at work.  In the past hour, all the phone calls I've gotten were from my mom and my sister complaining about how the other one isn't being understanding.

This is just another reason why I can't wait our day to come and be OVER! 

OK - *HUGS* first of all. Is it possible to do a jack and jill hour? Like..they only come for the food and then they have to VAMOOSE b/c the REAL par-tay begins?

And from my experience..I've never seen/heard of a jack and jill shower before (sorta sounds dirty..lol..j/k)

That is absolutely ridiculous.

If I were your sister, I would tell those guests who can't be without their husbands for 3 hours that they are uninvited for being self absorbed idiots - no, really, I would. I wouldn't care who it was.

But I'm a be-yotch like that.

I would stand your ground on this...I would be very upset too...

:(

ARGGHH! I can't handle this! lol seriously... all I wanted to do was just show up and not have any stress or drama... now add it to the pile of crap I have to deal with!

I had a couple guys show up at mine.  They ate cake dropped off gifts and left.  One was my cousin (his wife was working so he dropped off the gift), and they other was my great uncle (like 80 years old) because his wife isn't comfortable driving.  They didn't stay for games or present opening.

It would be weird to me for just a couple of ladies to bring their husbands (unless it's like my great-uncles case).  Why can't they go without them for a couple hours?  They have issues.

I'm sorry you're stressing about your shower. :( It should be something that you're excited about. Have you told your sister or your mom that you would really prefer to have just women at your shower? In my opinion, they should call these few women and explain that this isn't going to be a Jack & Jill shower like some others have had, its going to be a girl's shower. Hopefully they would understand. (I'm getting flashbacks of that Real Housewives of New York when Alex asked if her husband could come to the Girl's Dinner Party with her.) Ugh!

SavannahBride -LOL I know exactly what episode you're talking about.  My sister is the one pushing for ladies only.  It's my mom who thinks we should accommodate to them now.  We both tried to convince her, but in the end, it's doesn't really matter what I think.

I seriously will feel like an idiot if my FI doesn't come to the bridal shower.  My dad is trying to alleviate the situation by partitioning off the one section of the hall so it becomes a little room for all the husbands to hang out and play poker.  I think that's a fair compromise since there's no getting out of having the husbands there and he's going to personally ask my FI to come help out with the set-up so then he can convince him to stay after.

Seriously... this wedding and all subsequent celebrations have become my nightmare!

WTH?  I was totally thinking the "Real Housewives" episode you are talking about Savannah!!!!!  What IS it with these women?  OR is it their husbands?  *sheesh*

No way in hell my FI would want to go to a bridal shower!

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this!! This is about you not your guest and their husbands! I would be like missem and be like fine you can't be without your husband for 3 hours you are not longer invited! I can't stand that everyone thinks it is always about them! 

No worries, tell them is ok to bring their husband, BUT, their ARE NOT ALLOWED INSIDE THE HOUSE....they must do something else in order for the women to enjoy the bridal.