bridesmaid trouble: Update

Hello!
for everyone who read my previous post found here: http://www.projectwedding.com/post/list/sort-of-wedding-related-bridesmaid-trouble
regarding my 'bridesmaid trouble' post... here is the update.

I did bring it up with her. I just told her I was slightly annoyed and that we should talk about it (in an email bc we are both so busy) And what did I get back for my trouble??

A 3-page email ripping my character apart and saying she doesn't want to be in my wedding. Obviously she had some other issues than the gas money...
I'm feeling really horrible about it (mostly because the stuff she said was so distorted. it blows my mind that she could be my 'friend' and save up all the anger and nastiness) But... I am grateful that she took herself out of my wedding. I don't need a 'friend' like that on my big day!
I think the problem was we got close way too fast. In my expereince, fast friendships don't work out long term.

Thank you girls for all your help!!

Any one else dealing with wedding party drama??

well i think friendships give the people exactly what they need at that time... that's why there are some friendships that last months, years or lifetimes... it's a great thing to have friends and even greater to move on from the ones we've outgrown, kwim???

i've had friends since elementary school, and i've made new friends as new as 2 years ago - they all give me something i need at the time, whether it's a shoulder to cry on, a shopping partner in crime, or whatever...

no doubt it's agreat thing you found out her feelings now than further down the road when there was more (feelings, pride, etc) involved.

and no you are def not the only one with wedding drama or life drama that is happening dueing wedding planning!!

hang in there!

Could be the envy syndrome.....that can always get in the way of friendships and especially if one isn't ready to admit that there may be a twinge of envy or jealousy....

Oh my gosh, I'm sorry things blew up like that but like you said- it's better it al came out now instead of having some snarling angry monster in all of your wedding photos. haha!


oh, how did she react when you gave her the whopping $7 worth of gas money? =)

MrsTonTbBe-

she didn't say anything when I gave her the gas money.. just took the check and deposited it! When I read her letter, it was like someone punched me. But now I realize... it's for the best! and you're so right about the wedding pictures!! I don't want someone like THAT in them!! :)


and yes, I think it might be envy... even though that sounds silly for me to say!

Thanks for the great advice , as always!

Wow, I guess its a good thing you found out now than having her in all of your wedding pictures and finding out later. :) And believe me, you are not the only one w/wedding drama. I'm still considering kicking my own cousin out of my bridal party. I'm just tired of her screaming broke all the time. My bridal party goes out once a month to catch up and hang out. Well, she hasn't been to the last 2 outings b/c she "didn't have any money." But then I see her myspace and she has "dated" pictures of her and her friends at clubs almost every weekend and has the nerve to take pictures of her Jimmy Choos she "just" bought. But then she bitched about paying my mom $60 to make her dress and wanted to know if she could pay my mom in August (which is when my wedding is). So I told my mom to treat her like a regular customer and don't give her the dress until she pays, b/c I could just see her telling my mom that she'll pay her later and then never paying. Sorry for ranting, I guess I had my own drama to post. :)