When I look through the groups by location, before I sign in, I do not see New Jersey Brides - can someone check if they can see it? I know once logged in it is not in the groups listing for me because I am a member of that group.

No worries- its there :)

i dont see my pittsburgh brides either. does some one see it?

I see your Pittsburgh brides group = ) it's there

Once you've joined a Group it'll be under "My Groups" but won't show under the general Groups listing.   That might be why you're not seeing it where you expect to?