Changing my mind...

First of all thanks for all this support, I don't know what I would do without PW!!

So when I first got engaged I was sure I wanted my hair down with curls and a bit of it pinned back. I have been growing out my usually chin length hair and now it is a couple of inches past my shoulders and I love it!! So anyways, at first I thought it would be down and romantic with this pearl drop earrings that I bought that have kindof a vintage feel to them.

A couple months ago I changed my mind I fell in love with the look of lariat necklaces (hang down your back). I got this local artist to make a necklace with rose coloured gems and gold beads (my dress has a subtle gold thread throughout it) plus earrings and a couple flower hairpins. I spent about $50 on that jewellery and about the same on the pearl earrings. Because I decided to go with the lariat necklace I needed to have my hair up. When I've tried doing simple up-dos (It will be done professionally) and playing around with peach makeup and putting on the gold jewellery and take pics I haven't been too impressed with the result. I like all the pieces but when I put them all together it's really not that great of a look. Some other aspects is that the gold clashes with my white gold rings.

FYI my wedding colours are a dove grey- a bit on the dark side and a light peach. My gown is diamond white, MOH and BM are in grey and flowergirls (3) and flowers are peach. Our wedding ceremony is in a beachside park followed by an intimate reception at a local restaurant.

Anyways, here I am 2 weeks to go and now I think I want to go with the first look of the dangley pearl earrings and hair down. If I go with this look I would be subtle grey eyes (which is very flattering on my fair skin and blue eyes) with false lashes and hair down and curled. Since I have been wearing my hair down a lot lately I notice that I feel a lot sexier and prettier with it down. I have a rather wide forehead and face so I think when I look at pics of myself I prefer the hair down as it really softens my look.

One more thing...

In my bio I have a pic of my dress that I love. I bought it with my mom and immediatly had the idea to ruch (sp?) the top which is currently straight across and make it a ruched sweetheart, which I love the look of. My mom, although typically not the overbearing type, was addament against this idea so I kind of just dropped it. Since then I bought this other dress at the thift store (it was designer) and it had a weird baggy neckline so using my seamstress skills I did a single stitch in the front to make it a sweetheart. I recently wore it for my grad ceremony and got dozens of complements on it... This makes me think I should try the same on my gown. It would be completely reversbile if I were to try it and not like it. Also it would not damage the dress at all (it is a very sturdy lace fabric). Anyways I guess I will bring it up with my mom and tell her nicely that I need to be able to do my own thing.. I think it may help that kindof "stick out" look that the straight across look has from the side and also show off :) a touch of cleavage which is one part of my body I really like.

So sorry this is so long, I'm having one of those days.

Ideas?
Do you like the sound of hair down, and pearls?
Do you guys like the sound of my second plan with updo and gold jewellery?
What about the neckline issue? I have a pic of the dress in my bio

Thanks so much and again sorry for rant!!

I like the idea of your hair down with some pinned back, but of course I am partial because I did mine half up with pearl drop earrings. However, for my reception I had all of my hair pinned up. You could do something like that and switch your jewelry too. I do love the lariat necklaces.

For your dress, I say try it, especially if it is something simple that can be reversed. You don't want to look back and think "would I have liked it better". It will drive you bonkers, especially this close.

I vote to wear your hair down simply because of your description of how it makes you feel. You said you feel prettier and sexier with it down, that convinces me! You want to feel your prettiest on your wedding day. So go with that. From your description of the lariat necklace, it sounds like you could wear it again some other time.

I agree with caribear on the gown. Give it a try. Personally, I think a sweetheart neckline is more flattering on most women as it adds an extra curve to the silhouette of your gown. I wonder why your mom was so adamantly against it? Find a stubborn streak within yourself and just do it. ;-) caribear is right, you don't want to look back at your wedding photos and wish you'd have tried it.

BTW, I LOVE the lace pattern in your gown. Really classic-looking. You're going to look gorgeous!

Good luck!

I like the sound of the hair down and pearls, along with the gray and peach makeup. When I was reading over your colors and everything, I was thinking a soft gray eye makeup with a soft flush of peach on lips and cheeks would be just beautiful, and the pearls will compliment that well, too.

Thanks girls! That is really helpful! Abatt- I'm not exactly sure about my mom... She is a great sewer and she is hemming my dress, making flowergirl dresses ect. but when I described to her initially what I wanted to do with the neckline she said she thought it would look really unprofessional. I was unsure but then when I did the same thing to my grad dress it looked absolutely fine.. Your right, I'm going to see her this weekend and I'll just have to tell her how it is... Plus you are both right about the photos. FI and I are splurging on this great photographer so there's no way I want to look at the pics be disapointed.

If you are interested this is her website, and again thanks for the help :)
erinwallis.com