Changing the Date! :( Long read!

Well ladies there is part of me that is very upset about this but there is also a part that is relieved and feel that we have made the right decision.  

We have decided to change the date of our wedding to September 20th of 2014! I am so sad because I can't wait to marry the love of my life but honestly I am so happy that we have more time.  Even though it's a day off from our anniversary date the 21st is a Sunday and we don't want our guests to have to worry about work the next day.

As much as I hate to put my business out there we decided to reschedule the wedding for several reasons.  My daughter, grandson and her boyfriend moved in with us back in September of last year.  It's been awful!  Partly due to the fact that I think her boyfriend is a lazy good for nothing POS but also because they have totally disprespected my home and never clean up after themselves.  This has really been a source of pain and aggrivation between my daugther and I.  There is way more to this but I couldn't possibly cover all the bases.  Although we have had Jim's apartment to escape to from time to time we have always looked forward to him moving in when his lease was up.  Well his lease is up in a few days and we have been killing ourselves to finish up two bathroom remodels so he can move in.  Add to that the stress of living with so many people since I have two OTHER younger children....AND.....my daughter just revealed to me that she is pregnant again and due September 24th!!!!!!!!!!! Waaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh~! That's three days after my wedding.  I'm deeply hurt and saddened by this but am trying to be there for my daughter.  

Even though Jim and I have both been married before, neither of us has ever had a wedding. and I just don't want to plan a wedding surrounding all the stress and crazyiness.  In addition, even though we would be able to afford everything we would be under so much pressure and would have NOTHING in savings in case of an emergency!  Not that we ever have a lot but it would take us down to nothing and potentially cause financial problems for us and I certainly don't want to start things out like that.  Our bathroom projects went way over budget and I just don't want to have another huge expense on the direct heels of another.  

I'm sorry this post was so long it was purely unintentional.  

Thanks for listening.

Nichole

Nichole, when life happens we have to roll with it. Just think FI didn't run he is right there with you through it all, what a great  guy, It is a lot going on 2014 gives you a chances to handle everything that's going on at home and throw a little planning in there when you can. Our kids are important and so are are FI's, when you get to overwhelmed you have a strong arm to hold onto, but remember it will all work out trust me. If you need me for anything I am here.

Nichole, I completely get why you changed. But I think you've made a great choice for you and DH. You will have the wedding both of you DREAM of and it will be lovely. And, more time to plan is always a blessing. 

You definitely have a lot going on. Wishing you lots of love and strength right now!

Janandgerald said it best - you have to go with the flow and this is going to make things much less stressful for you and allow you to enjoy your day, your way! I'm sorry things are so hectic for you right now but it sounds like you are dealing with everything really well and being really responsible. Sucks somtimes, huh? Lol, but seriously it's good of you to put family first. Your wedding is going to rock even harder now!

Thank you ladies!  I am sad about the change but agree that we have made the best decision for us.  A special thank you for the well wishes.  There is a lot going on right now and I just pray that it passes quickly and smoothly.  Our day will come and it will be wonderful :)  Ya'll are getting me all teary eyed!

My Nichole, I can totally relate. Cale and I were originally supposed to be married July 2011, but had to change our date as well. His son moved in with us, he was not working and Cale was just in an all around bad attitude because of it. With more time, you will be able to do everything your heart desires! I am so sorry you are going through all of this, but through all the madness your day to marry the love of your life will mean more than ever! 

Oh dear! thats too much, BUT trust that everithing will work out in the end! You have a wonderful man there.

((Huhgs))

I can't say anything more that hasn't been said, PW ladies say it so well. Extra time means more time for planning and saving. It'll be for the best, you'll see! (and you'll have another beautiful grandbaby!)

I love you ladies...I really do!  You always give me hope and help me see the brighter side of things.

THANK YOU!

Ditto to what the other ladies have said. Stay positive and just think, the wait will be WORTH it!!