I know this is more on the advice side, but it still relates to DIY so I thought I'd post it here!

My mom is being subtly negative about my DIY ideas I have for the wedding. She's suggesting now that we hire a decorator, which both my FI and I aren't too keen on. It's an extra cost we don't want to pay, and I am particular about things...

I know she means well, but I want to have control over this part and I don't really want another person brought in to scrutinze my DIY decisions. That's what I'm afraid of.

What can I say to let her know I'm not into it without hurting her feelings?

I think if you show her some of your DIY projects then she will see how great they look and her feeling will not be hurt. Good luck!!

Hey,

I'm right there with you...my dad is always slightly skeptical, not of my skills necessarily but just of the ease and convenience of everything. I guess he knows I'm a perfectionist and that it will be more stressful. But I am a DIYer for so many other things in my life (basically all gifts I give are handmade) so it would feel wrong not to do some things for my wedding.

I say just stay strong with what you like and what you want to do. It sounds like you've got a vision and maybe you can convey this to your mom by taking her shopping for the supplies or showing her a mood board. I know that sometimes when I'm describing an idea I have to another person it just doesn't translate and they don't envision the same thing that I am. Otherwise I say just tell her exactly what you said here. I'm sure she just wants to be helpful and supportive so if you let her know that you actually really do want to do these projects she'll be more on board.

Good luck!! I'd love to see what you're planning. :)

"I know she means well, but I want to have control over this part and I don't really want another person brought in to scrutinze my DIY decisions.  and I am particular about things..."

I think you've said it all right there.  Also, I don't know what your budget is, but I would find out what a decorator would charge, then put together a cost list for your DIY supplies and show her the difference.