Drama on the FFIL front (vent)!!!

*backstory* We live with FI's Mom. FI's name was added to the home when his parents were divorced (FI was fresh out of high school) to basically save it. Without him, his Mom wouldn't be able to keep the house. FI and his Dad have never had a great relationship. Dad lives with his son from his first marriage on the east coast.

We invited FI's Dad to the wedding to be courteous and he is coming. He just emailed  the other day to let us know that he has his airline ticket and will be in CA on 8/1 (wedding isn't until 8/29). He has FI's sister's hubby picking him up at the airport and he will be staying at our house. He didn't ask anyone!!! He knows there is a room for FI and I, one for FI's Mom, a computer room and a spare bedroom. He figures the spare bedroom is his!!

I emailed him and let him know that FI's groomsman would be staying with us from 8/27-8/30. He said "so what am I supposed to do, get a hotel?" I didn't want to be the troublemaker that I usually am so I never responded (he and I could probably really get into it something fierce if it came down to it).

We just got word that FI's aunt's and uncle's are coming from Japan on 8/28 and staying until 9/5. They'll be staying with us as well so now his Dad is forced to leave. His Dad made plans to stay at a local place...for the exact dates that the Japan family is here...can he not add on 2-3 days to both ends??

BTW, he is not planning on leaving CA until 9/30...why??????????

FI said he was going to email him and ask why he felt the need to come out so early and why he is planning on staying so long? I can't wait to see what kind of crap@$$ response he'll give us! I don't mean to be rude but with regular stress, wedding stress and his Dad around 24/7 I might pop-off. I'm going to try my best to keep my cool but his Dad just doesn't get that his ex-wife doesn't want him in her house, his son doesn't want a close relationship with him and I'm easily irritated by him! I'm counting down the days until he arrives (and not in a good way)!

that sucks pinky! I just dealt with a similar issue. Since when and why do people think that it's ok to automatically stay at someones house without even asking????? SOOOO RUDE!  I'm sorry you're dealin gwith this so close to the wedding. At least the japan people will be staying for a short time. Hopefully your FI can talk some sense into dad into staying at the hotel for longer than just when the japan people stay. Go on priceline.com and "Name your own price". I've gotten ridiculous rates. An example: I stayed at a 4 star hotel in London for only $80 USD when the going rate for that same hotel is $300 USD. FI's dad can get great deals and not stay with you guys. Good luck!

wow that does suck. Well he is being really rude about it!! I would be really angry out him for expecting the whole world to revolve around him!!!!!! That seems to be what he wants, the world to be at his beck and call. I would let your FI deal with it.

Maybe post a craigslist posting looking for a room for rent for two months and put his dad there... No car, no money he may never leave... set him up somewhere else in a $300 a month room.. Or have his ex wife deal with it... people who do things like this do not expect you to be all accommodating, they are just hoping for it. GL