Dress Vent

Side Note: I love the way I look, I'm a plus size beauty and I think I look great.

My best friend and I went to my house on Saturday so I can try on my dress and have some girl time. Well when I put my dress and looked in the mirror I looked great (as all ways). My mom didn't like my dress that much but I don't really care because I love my dress. My besties took some pictures of me and that was it.

Well when I got home, I looked at the pictures and I HATE them. I know what I have to do to feel better about how I look in my dress. I just can't look at a picture of me in dress right now. So I'm sorry I can't post a picture of me in dress. I just can't (yep I'm crying right now)

I hate it even more because my FI can't make me feel better. like he can't look at the picture or me in my dress and say "Oh baby you look beautiful" sometimes I need that, and sadly I needed that on Saturday.

Sorry for the long vent and crying and not showing my dress.

Oh Ashley, sweetie don't cry I am a plus size girl myself, but all the pressure of looking beautiful and a certain way you are suppose to look is stressing you out. I am sure you are your worst critic you have a certain picture of how you want to look in your mind and for some reason that vision is not what you saw. Remember you had on no assessories or make-up. So please don't beat yourself up about this you are going to look beautiful on your day.

Ahhh, this made me tear up. I'm plus sized myself so I know exactly how you feel <3

I'm sending you virtual hugs xxxxxxx

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww honey!  Please don't be sad.  If you cry then I will to.  I am just that kind of person.  I was thinking about calling you and seeing if you wanted to hang out some time this week.  Considering this, I won't take no for an answer.  We are going to have some girl time, feel better about ourselves and have a few adult beverages.  LOL

I know how you feel.  When I see my self in an outfit I know that I look great though when I see myself in pics, I feel heartbroken.  Fortunately, we both have guys that love us and think we look amazing.  That is all that matters.  

Please don't cry anymore.  It will be alright.  We both know what we need to do and we should do it together.  LOVE and HUGS!!!  Please call me if you feel like talking.  If not we will talk tomorrow.  More HUGS!

Awwww dont cry! Hey i have so much anxiety about a dress im less than 3 months away and dont even have one yet! I had a nervous break down at David's bridal because i realized how much weight i gained. A few months ago i was trying on dressed to be a brides maid for a friends wedding i was a 20/22. Now im a 24 pushing 26. Its hard. But im sure that on your day when you put that dress on, have your hair, nails, perfect shoes and jewelry you will love it! Just know your not alone! I think we all go thru it. 

Plus-size beauties, unite!  I felt very much the same way when I was choosing a dress, and when I choose clothes in general.  But there is one thing that was missing from the pictures you took Saturday and the pictures that will be taken of you on the wedding day--the glow of excitement and joy from a bride that is about to be and then becomes married.  

I'll be honest, I know I need to lose weight.  I didn't go to any bridal salons to try on dresses because I knew I was not going to be able to find one that fit me, so I went with a way where I could customize my gown to my size (I found out that I got it a bit too big, but that was just fine).  When doing my search, I was determined to find a dress with sleeves because I hate the way my arms look--I always cover them up.  Well, when I tried on the dress, I discovered that the sleeves didn't cover as much of the arms as I'd hoped.  But trust me, people (and for that matter, I) didn't care how my arms looked.  They saw the dress, they saw me in the dress, and they saw how I felt, and that's what made me beautiful.  

You know you're smokin' hot in that dress, even if you don't like it in pictures.  Your ladies know you're smokin' hot in that dress.  When you know you look good, that confidence eminates from you--trust me!  This is silly and NWR, but ever since I got sized for a bra and found my correct size and the right bra for me, I've made more confident fashion choices (with the help of my sister who works at Lane Bryant).  I do feel that it's this one small change that has given me the confidence I need to choose clothes that accentuate my positives rather than hide everything.  Just know that you are beautiful in that dress, no matter what the camera says (because those things, while fantastic and wonderful, don't capture your true essence), and everyone else will think so on your big day.

Hun....please don't cry over this! I'm sure you look lovelie in your dress. All the ladies above had said amazing things that are more than true.

And if it can help you, I hated the pictures of my in my dress even after my last fitting! Pictures just don't do yourself and your dress justice.It's not you or the dress that you don't like...it's the picture! If you feel gorgeous in your dress when you wear it, be sure it will look fantastic on your wedding day. You'll be glowing, smiling and so happy that even pictures will reflect this perfectly!

Try to not worry to much about this, and mostly, don't blame yourself. Big big hugs to you!

I think we've all gone through the "I hate the way I look in my dress" it seems theres always something about it and the way it fits our bodies. But you know what? I've come to the conclusion that no matter what size we all go through it. And, even more than that, no matter what size every bride looks amazing on her wedding day. There's something about that wedding day glow, maybe it's the love. But I'm a firm believer that wedding day glow takes care of the rest. Chin up Ashley, you're beautiful. Just imagine the look on FI's face when he sees you for the first time! ;)

Don't cry sweetie! :( Everything will be okay! Just breathe and go take a look at yourself in the mirror and say"I love ME, I am very beautiful and no one will tell me otherwise" ...not even yourself.

Don't get yourself down hun, you are going to be a BEAUITFUL bride!! Your FI will fall in love all over again when he sees you in that dress!

for beter clarity, what about the pictures didnt you like?

pictures are the DEVIL! could it be that they were just standing at an awkward angle? if they were sitting down, and you were standing up, the picture is doomed to be bad! when you put your beautiful dress on, and you look at your self in the mirror and KNOW you look beautiful, then you probably do! i deffinatly wouldnt beat yourself up about the pictures, everyone has had a bad picture taken of them!