Etiquette on wedding brunch?

I was talking with fellow PWer Jellie about where to have brunch the day after the wedding when it occurred to me, what is the etiquette on payment of brunch? Do we pay? (We're paying for the wedding ourselves...) How does it work? Who all is invited, just your wedding party? I know we will have a brunch, I just hadn't thought about the specifics yet.

So how does it work?

i dont know if there's any etiquette per se but if you can afford to host it, then host it. but if you can't then make sure to tell people or put on the invites to come to the no-host brunch. you're definitly not expected to pay for it but sometiems its best to clarify it to avoid "bill time" misunderstandings.

I think it's perfectly acceptable to expect people to pay for themselves.  You can word it by saying "the new husband and wife will be having brunch at "xyz" the morning after the wedding.  they would love for you to come by, and join them, and say hi!"

Very cool, I like the no-host brunch idea. OK, this is good :)  So who all is supposed to come and how do I notify them of it? Maybe just tell them at the rehearsal?

I would invite the bridal party (although by that point, they  may be "wedding'ed out" plus family and any out of towners.  you can tell people at the rehearsal but also maybe designate someone at the reception to kind of do a word of mouth type thing.  or you can send an informal invite before the wedding but with that, people may assume you're paying! :)

I agree with Beatie 100%; that's how I've always seen it done.  It's not a "required" event (i.e. you don't HAVE to have it, and people don't HAVE to attend) but it's a nice opportunity for those who would like to, as well as out of towners, to "see you off" before you leave for your honeymoon.

Awesome. Thanks gals. I just want to do something informal...yet organzied, we will all be from out of town, so I thought it would be nice to just sit down for a bit, have some coffee, some eggs and bacon before we all leave to go on our way :)

Kohler - I think everyone is right.  You definitely don't need to pay for it.  My FH, however, is very adamant that we pay for the brunch (or maybe have one set of parents pay).  Also, we are just going to invite all of our guests - of course, we are only going to have about 100 at the wedding, and we don't even expect 1/2 to attend, so it gives you an idea of our budget :).

BTW, I really need a wedding after-party place - any other suggestions besides Healdsburg Bar & Grill?  We took a walk around the square two weekends ago, and we were really disappointed with the lack of festivities on a Friday night.

i think you could simply have people spread the word saying "hey we're all getting together to have brunch tomorrow before we all head our separate ways..join us!"

Yeah, we're only having about 50 guests. Hmm, I'll have to mull this over more with FI and see what we want to do :)

Jellie- Yeah, know I know. Its a small town...Hmm, I don't really know the town too well as far as places that are open late.  What about Bear Republic Brewing? Ive read a lot of really good reviews about it? 

http://bearrepublic.com/specialevents.php

We are having our reherasal dinner at Willi's Wine Bar, but it may be too small for approx 100 for an after wedding party. But, they do have Willi's Seafood and Raw Bar, I wonder if that's bigger?

http://www.willisseafood.net/

Here's a search result on yelp.com that has Healdsburg restraunts that are good for groups, try this: http://www.yelp.com/search?find_desc=restaurants&ns=1&rpp=10&find_loc=healdsburg%2C+ca#mapCenterLat:38.6200442554/mapCenterLng:-122.860794067/mapZoom:11/attrs:RestaurantsGoodForGroups/places:CA%3AHealdsburg%3A%3A/rpp:10/sortby:composite/find_desc:restaurants/show_more_search_options:true