From MIL to Mom

That's an idea. In the Indian culture, you call all the elder women Aunties. So right now I call her by her first name followed by Auntie. I could just replace auntie with mom.

whoa that is awkward P!!  i have a hard time too when FMIL gets off the phone telling me she loves me.  i only do that with my parents like 50% of the time.

i can totally see why that would bother your mom.

paola.. id have a hard time too.. at it would totally feel awkward to me.  mama, papa could work,but i dont know.. have you and fi talked about it.  what does he think?

I know, it totally sucks! :( I thought about calling her mom only when my mom isn't around because I don't want to upset her. But then again, I think FMIL will catch on and then I run the risk of disrespecting her. I haven't spoken to my FI about it yet. I don't think he sees it as a big deal. He'll probably think I'm making a big deal out of nothing, like he usually does! haha

i call my hubbys mom "ma" BUT when my mom is around i say it really softly so my mom doesnt hear HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

i know my mom wont mind.. but it makes me feel weird!

wierd! i would totalyl feel awkward too. good thing my FMIL is ok with me calling her Vivi. Its better than Mrs. So and So in her eyes. I like that "Mama So and So" idea. My aunt used to call her MIL "Mami Teresa" instead of mom or grammy when talking to her kids. Hopefully you can find something you're comfortable with!

Ya I think I'd feel wierd too. My FMIL hasnt said anything about me calling her mom. I also think my mom would have a SHIT FIT if I did call FMIL "MOM". I dont need the bitching. I'm sure I'll think of something to call my FMIL. When I reffer to her sometimes as my SUEGRA (MIL in spanish).

I call mine by her name, I know where all of you are coming from....

SOMETIMES I will say mom in a situation/ or mommy #2 in a cute way, but thats about it.  Its not HER, its just hard to do in general I guess....?

- HMM :)

yeah, it just feels awkward saying it. I'm supposed to call her "ma" now that we're married, but it just never comes out right, so I just call her by her first name. Which I know is not cool in Chinese culture. But she seems alright with it though and has never corrected me.

I'm going to work on it though. Years ago when DH and I first talked about getting hitched his mom was going though a rough patch with one of her friends. This friend's mother was dying and refused to talk to her own son because he'd married a white girl. My MIL took it really hard and had a heart-to-heard with DH telling him that she wants whomever he decides to marry to call her "mom". It was her way of letting him know that she didn't care who he married, as long as she made him happy.

So, yeah, I'm going to work on calling her "ma," but I'm pretty sure it'll only be that. There's only one "mom" in my life.

wow-awkward so sorry! I just say call my MIL mother in law and call her by her name she never said anything