well my FH has 2 nephews and 1 niece. i have 2 nieces and 1 nephew. So my FSIl (my FH brother's wife) is upset because I said that the kids aren't going to be in the wedding. I feel as if I am paying no one has the right to tell me who should be apart of the wedding. I feel like everyone can't be apart of it. I am really trying to have a fast ceremony. And I am not really a big fan of other peoples kids, as it is. And those kids are bad (FBIL kids) excedpt for his oldest son who is 4. I was going to have him be the ringbearer. And my 2 nieces be the flowergirls. I have gone to weddings where little kids were apart of it, and they cried or didn't remember what to do. I don't want to feel like I am having them in the wedding because I have to. So how can I get around this??

I seen once on tv or somewhere, if the girls are little like 2 and under, they had pulled them in a little wagon it was very cute and of course if they remembered they through flower pedels out.. The person pulling the wagon can be someone part of the wp or can be a parent of one or the children.

It might sound chesy but I thought it was really cute...

That does sound cute. well if I was havinf an outdoor wedding. My wedding and reception are all in one room.