got this from a friend this morning....

http://milliondollarmompreneur.com/2011/05/19/infertility-what-not-to-say/

perfectly said.
She captures some of the most heartbreaking and frustrating feelings of this seemingly endless journey.
Thanks for sharing...

Wow, I love that article.  Thanks for sharing.

I have heard "Maybe this isn't God's plan for you" several times lately.  This is my favorite comeback so far- Are YOU God?! DO you know what his plan for me is?! Perhaps this IS his plan for me because he knows that I am strong enough to handle it and the struggle will make me an even better mother than I would have been before.

It amazes me how insensitive people can be.

I love this article Jackie... thank you for sharing!!  There are so many levels of this issue, but everyone who is ever told they are infertile or have a medical condition that causes infertility hears the same things.  I was LIVID a few weeks ago when someone made a comment about people with infertility to stop worrying about it and just let it happen.  I felt like reaching through my screen and bitch-slapping that woman into next week... Just because you ended up with kids unplanned doesn't mean the rest of the world will too.  Sorry to put a negative spin on this post, I'm still irked about it now, so you know how much that must have gotten under my skin... back to the good stuff.  I love how she compared it to saying those things to people with Cancer, it's so true!  Because no woman dealing with these issues has any control over it, and it is so frustrating to be given all kinds of unsolicited advice from people who have never dealt with the same things.  Hugs and baby dust to all of you, and thank you ladies for your kindness, understanding, and support through my own journey!! <3

I dont have PCOS but when we lost our baby people said the worst things(two of my bridesmaids who are now pregnant don't even talk to me anymore and another one got upset about a post I made on facebook and decided to text me at 1 am the night we found out our baby stopped growing three weeks ago to bitch me out about it. I havent had much support at all to say the least.

Our journey has just started and the charting and the tests are already overwhelming. Thank you ladies for being supportive.

Great article. It is very exact about every emotion and stuggle we go through while dealing with this. I would love to send a link to everyone I know but think that would be pretty rude. The one thing I have heard lately that gets me the most is my SIL's keep telling me that I can use them as an "oven" since I can't get pregnant. They think that will be the easiest way for us. I know they are just trying to help but really, you don't think I want to experience pregnancy for myself, and its not like I can't carry a child, I just have trouble Oing.......

Thank you ladies for being there for me! I love having a place to go to share all my experiences with people who understand. <3

great article!

Thank you SOOOO much for sharing this article with us! I can completely relate to how this blogger felt when interacting and communicating with family & friends. I've heard all kinds of comments relating to how adoption is NOT the right choice for my husband & I, how "doing it" naturally is the best way to go, how we need to be patient, and so on. It is just ridiculous how some of the people in my life have just overlooked the fact that I lost my first baby and I'm exploring all of my options including IVF & adoption.  

With all this being said, this article gave me soooo much hope for the future! And it reassured me of the fact that I'm NOT alone :)