My husband and I allowed my cousin to move in with us this past July. She is 18 years old, going to a community college by our home. We told her get a job, go to school, be respectful of our home and be responsible for yourself.

That is it. That is all we asked of her, we do not make her pay rent, help with any bills, NOTHING. The only thing she had to pay for was if she wanted cable in her room, she would pay the extra 10 dollars a month to add a second set up. 

Fast forward to now:

*she cheated on her boyfriend...twice..while he is deployed.
*In additon to that, she tells me, "people just really look down on people in the army, I don't respect them." To that I FLIPPED out. My BIL, Uncles, grandpa, and cousins are all Army men, and they have NOTHING BUT MY RESPECT! What a troll!
*she never even started school!!! 
*She hung stuff on the walls and in the process ripped down FOUR different spots of drywall.
*She eats EVERYTHING. If I am cooking dinner, I will open the cabinet to find things I purchased for a meal completely eaten. Last week she ate a loaf of bread in TWO DAYS.
*she comes home around 3am, brings guys INSIDE our home, gets clothes and leaves.

2 weeks ago we asked her to move out. She said fine, it wasn't an arguement, it wasn't hateful. I simple stated that I thought it was a bad idea from the start and it isn't working out.

Last night, DH went to shut her window. She wasn't here, and hasn't been for over a week. He walks in the room, finds half eaten, rotten salad in a bowl. To-go beverage cups tipped over and a lovely soda pop "gel" stuck to our carpets. Gnats EVERYWHERE.

Livid doesn't even begin to describe how we feel. She has been coming here in the middle of the night to get things, and is gone by morning. I do not trust her, I do not trust the crowd she hangs out with. So, last night we decided when we go to bed, we locked the storm door because I am not comfortable with strangers in my house while I should be asleep. In fact, we are keeping it locked unless one of us is home. And if she isn't out by Thursday as originally planned, I am boxing her crap myself andsetting it outside.

ughhh, vent over :/

O. M. G. That is absolutely crazy!!! I would be so upset. And honestly worried for her :(

What a troubled girl! That was nice of you guys to take her in, but the fact that she doesn't show any respect to anybody sounds awful! Hope everything works out. Keep venting here if you need it!!

Elise, you are exactly correct! We have been so worried about her and the decisions she has made. For some reason she isn't getting the connection about things she is doing now having an impact on her entire life. And honestly, because we are so worried about her, we have put up with it for far too long. So ready to just be finished!

:/

Wow, how incredibly disrespectful.  I would do the same as you.  If she can't be there during normal hours to pack her stuff, I would definitely do it for her.  And since it sounds like she has a key, I would change the locks.

We have the new locks! We went this weekend and picked him up. She moved out today, and goes, "I'm sorry you cannot handle me being here." UH...really?! 

Crrrrazy girl!